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Started by Berliegh, March 26, 2008, 08:33:51 AM

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Berliegh

I live as a female 24/7 and have done for quite a few years now....

I wondered how many other girls are also 24/7? but if you are not what are the reasons, problems or decisions that you made not to be full time?...
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lady amarant

I'm not FT yet. I started transitioning fairly recently, and still have many ties to my male self, mainly job and visa, the biggies. Being in a foreign country on a working visa I am not going to mess with my job security.

I plan to go FT when I go home to South Africa towards the end of July.
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Kate

Quote from: Berliegh on March 26, 2008, 08:33:51 AM
I live as a female 24/7 and have done for quite a few years now....

I wondered how many other girls are also 24/7? but if you are not what are the reasons, problems or decisions that you made not to be full time?...

My RLT has only been about 11 months now, but "transition" to me meant moving only in one direction. My rule throughout this was to NEVER take a step back, and to be congruent throughout the various areas of my life. I never "crossdressed" for my early therapy or support group meetings. I didn't even "crossdress" at home. I watched TV, went to support groups, therapy, work, out to dinner, etc. exactly the same way - although that appearance changed over time from male, to androgynous and finally to fully female.

~Kate~
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MeghanAndrews

I'm not full time, I don't even think I'm part time. I don't really have a male or a female clothing pattern. Most of my clothes are women's jeans, women's long t shirts layered under a jacket or top. To me, it's completely androgynous. I've been on HRT for almost six months now. I'm going full time in July after FFS. I'm kind of in the same boat Kate was, I dress one way, every day and I don't step back into how I used to dress or anything. It's just a gradual shifting. After FFS, I'm not going to be wearing dresses and being completely different in my dressing patterns or anything. So, other than changing my name, looking a little different and using a different voice, it should be a pretty seamless transition. We'll see :)
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kristinrichann

as with Meghan and Kate  I came to the point that I threw away all my male clothing so that the temptation would never be there for me to return to the old ways  but wear skirts all the time no I have my sweats time but I also have my Tee shirt and Jeans time once in a while when I go out I wear a dress  but not as much as pants all my clothes are female. as with my hair I even get a perm once in a while.  if you look at most women they wear pants mostly, so I guess I am full time (24/7) as I dress no differently.
Kristin
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Just Mandy

Not full time either, it's one day at a time feeling my way through this.
It has never been about crossdressing for me either. I dressed in female
jeans and top for the first time in my life just recently. But I've always watched
womens fashions(a lot) and envied some of the things that girls wore. There was
a lot of vicarious living though my SO. It felt good to dress finally as a female
because I knew it meant I was making progress but it was not about the clothes.
It's always that my external features(face/body) did not match my mind. I also will
not significantly change my dress patterns. I see myself going from boy jeans to
girls and being able to pull off layering and cute tops. I doubt I will feel comfortable in
a dress for a long time if ever but that could change.  So I agree with Megan and Kate,
not a whole lot will change.

As far as being full time it comes down that being (or becoming) more important than
everyone around me and right now I can't predict when that will happen.


Something sleeps deep within us
hidden and growing until we awaken as ourselves.
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Berliegh

Quote from: kristinrichann on March 26, 2008, 10:56:19 AM
as with Meghan and Kate  I came to the point that I threw away all my male clothing so that the temptation would never be there for me to return to the old ways  but wear skirts all the time no I have my sweats time but I also have my Tee shirt and Jeans time once in a while when I go out I wear a dress  but not as much as pants all my clothes are female. as with my hair I even get a perm once in a while.  if you look at most women they wear pants mostly, so I guess I am full time (24/7) as I dress no differently.
Kristin

As regards to clothes and hairstyles...I've been wearing girls jeans and tops since the early 1980's and have always had my hair like it is now...

What actually I meant as regards to 24/7 was the whole she-bang......ID, credit cards, Passport, driving licence, Bank accounts etc....basically everything!

I changed all my ID stuff about 5 years ago..

I was interested to find who else is at the same point as I am?
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Kate

Quote from: Berliegh on March 26, 2008, 01:08:16 PM
I was interested to find who else is at the same point as I am?

Everything but the genitals is changed for me. Genitals as soon as I pick a surgeon - everything is in place otherwise for it. My name is changed everywhere, but I can't change my sex marker for most documentation until after SRS.

~Kate~
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gothique11

I've been 24/7 since I started my hrt mid Aug 2006. So, 4 more months and I'm hitting my two year mark.
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debisl

Berleigh
I lived 7 years full time before my SRS. All of my identification had been changed several years ago including passport.

Deb
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funnygrl

Not anywhere near FT yet, as with 'Lady A' i'm just starting out too. I really need to lose more of this weight :(  My therapist wants me to work on other "issue's" before giving me the HRT letter, which due to my weight is fine with me right now.

I'm still trying to get my hair to grow out too :(

Can't wait to be FT, I.D's the whole bang!!!
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Sarah

Yes.
I am.
Raawr!
Gawd Yes.
I will never go back.

:icon_bat:
-Sara
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Hypatia

Quote from: Berliegh on March 26, 2008, 01:08:16 PMWhat actually I meant as regards to 24/7 was the whole she-bang......ID, credit cards, Passport, driving licence, Bank accounts etc....basically everything!

I changed all my ID stuff about 5 years ago..
Five and a half months ago, I went fulltime and immediately made all those changes you describe-- and I haven't looked back. By the time I took the plunge into fulltime, I was already so primed for it that it felt as natural as falling off a log. By then, it was getting awfully unbearable to delay it any longer. I'm so glad I went ahead with it. What a relief!

Unlike many here, I definitely feel more comfortable in dresses and skirts-- I was feeling so uncomfortable in pants, I have not worn pants a single day since going fulltime. Because I don't have to any more. Freedom! :) It's possible I will never wear pants again as long as I live.

I'm the woman who has awoken
I have found my path and I will never go back

--Meena of Afghanistan
Here's what I find about compromise--
don't do it if it hurts inside,
'cause either way you're screwed,
eventually you'll find
you may as well feel good;
you may as well have some pride

--Indigo Girls
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buttercup

I am 24/7, passport, drivers license, utilities, everything has been changed. 
Can't go back, won't go back.
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Bethany

 :) :) :)full time feb 08 would never go back it is great to live life as it should be.
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Terra

Quote from: Berliegh on March 26, 2008, 01:08:16 PM
What actually I meant as regards to 24/7 was the whole she-bang......ID, credit cards, Passport, driving licence, Bank accounts etc....basically everything!

I changed all my ID stuff about 5 years ago..

I was interested to find who else is at the same point as I am?

Well, next month I can start working on my name change. But everywhere in my social life and at work i'm known as Rachel. Once I get my name change everything else gets changed. But other then that i'm 24/7.
"If you quit before you try, you don't deserve to dream." -grandmother
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soldierjane

I'm on the way to "the whole shebang" (legally and surgically) so this thread is probably not for me. I am out everywhere for all intents and purposes though and have been for about 2 years if you start counting when I came out at work.
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annajasmine

#17
Here is my list can't reasons.


    1) Need hair removal for face and other parts
    2) Not yet self sufficient
    3) Definitely want to have a Therapist before taking this step. I have won't have any support for this.
    4) Still to ugly
    5) Have a quite bit more weight to lose
    6) Still overly sensitive to what others think
    7) In a desperate need for a Job (In Alabama and Tennessee you are going to a trouble finding a job if your trans and don't pass)
    8 ) Don't have good wardrobe of womens clothes
    9) Fear of not passing
   10) I can't do full time until I'm out to my family <-- This the scariest for me

I will have my degree in 3 more semesters I would like the degree with the right female name on it. So this is making me feel a little pressured.


Anna
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Berliegh

Quote from: soldierjane on March 28, 2008, 10:36:15 AM
I'm on the way to "the whole shebang" (legally and surgically) so this thread is probably not for me. I am out everywhere for all intents and purposes though and have been for about 2 years if you start counting when I came out at work.

This thread is exactely for you if you are 24/7.......24/7 is the 'whole she bang'.....

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Hypatia

Quote from: annajasmine on March 28, 2008, 11:55:36 AM
    8) Don't have good wardrobe of womens clothes
That is easily solved in two words:
1) Target 2) Ross

Target has reasonably affordable nice looks that are easy to find.
Ross is the cheapest, but you have to look and look to find good styles... you'd best bring a female friend with you there to help you choose.
Here's what I find about compromise--
don't do it if it hurts inside,
'cause either way you're screwed,
eventually you'll find
you may as well feel good;
you may as well have some pride

--Indigo Girls
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