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Started by Alice (nym), October 05, 2018, 04:13:34 PM

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Alice (nym)

So I've been thinking about names... because at the moment I don't have a female name.

I've had a few in the past but for one reason or another they've fallen by the wayside.

So I was thinking it might be fun to ask...

how did you come up with your name? 
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Kirsteneklund7

Quote from: Nym on October 05, 2018, 04:13:34 PM
So I've been thinking about names... because at the moment I don't have a female name.

I've had a few in the past but for one reason or another they've fallen by the wayside.

So I was thinking it might be fun to ask...

how did you come up with your name?
When I was a child my I referred to my female self as Christine. When gender dysphoria became stronger in my forties and I started cross dressing - en femme it became Kirsten which is the Nordic version. Kirsten Janelle also fits my initials.

Did you have a girl name as a child Nym?

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Sarah1979

Well, I've told this story a couple of times, but I like it...

When I first came out to my mother years ago, she told me what my name would have been had I been born properly.  That Christmas, she gave me a silver bracelet with my first name engraved on the outside and my middle name engraved on the inside. I wear it every day.

Sarah Lee
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ErinAscending

I was in the middle of a fit of anxiety and depression stemming not just from dysphoria but also a flooding of repressed memories from my past about some peripheral issues.  I was trying to think of one earlier in the day but at the point it came to me I was so upset I couldn't rub two coherent thoughts together to save my life.  I had not yet come out to my wife.

I was in the bathroom, staring at the mirror and not even seeing anything much less me.  Then my wife calls from the other room and I shout back "I'll be right there!"  Look back in the mirror and without actually thinking about it I said to myself, "Alright Erin, time to go be a husband"...  Don't know where it came from.  Maybe a memory I haven't yet been able to dig up from my past.  Still finding more and more of those every day.

Anyway, I giggled as I left the bathroom because it just fit.  That's me!

It still fits just as well as when I thought of it.  I love my new name!  <3
Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes. - Oscar Wilde
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RetroTS

I'm a hippie chick at heart, so i am choosing from popular names of the late 60's
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Alice (nym)

Quote from: Kirsteneklund7 on October 05, 2018, 04:32:32 PM

Did you have a girl name as a child Nym?

Kirsten[emoji147]


My parents were convinced I was going to be a girl so had only thought of girl names... I was supposed to be Lucinda (Lucy for short)... but I was born with the wrong bits and a big argument ensued and my grandmother won the day. But then my sister was born 2 years later and although she got a different name, her pet name from my father was Lucy. So I can't really use that name.

Then as a child I thought of myself as Angela (no idea why) but I had a bad experience using that name, so would sooner not use it.

In my 20s and 30s, I used Skye. But that's too close to my daughter's name. My daughter very nearly got Skye. It wouldn't be right to use that name as much as I like it... I am not out to my daughter but she would be upset if I used that name.

So still thinking... I have a few ideas and people have offered some nice suggestions but nothing is shouting out to me yet. My mind keeps going back to Skye and that's part of the problem - lol.
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RetroTS

Quote from: Nym on October 05, 2018, 05:31:24 PM
My parents were convinced I was going to be a girl so had only thought of girl names... I was supposed to be Lucinda (Lucy for short)... but I was born with the wrong bits and a big argument ensued and my grandmother won the day. But then my sister was born 2 years later and although she got a different name, her pet name from my father was Lucy. So I can't really use that name.

Then as a child I thought of myself as Angela (no idea why) but I had a bad experience using that name, so would sooner not use it.

In my 20s and 30s, I used Skye. But that's too close to my daughter's name. My daughter very nearly got Skye. It wouldn't be right to use that name as much as I like it... I am not out to my daughter but she would be upset if I used that name.

So still thinking... I have a few ideas and people have offered some nice suggestions but nothing is shouting out to me yet. My mind keeps going back to Skye and that's part of the problem - lol.

This could be kinda fun, lets try this:

What would you say your style/ fashion sense is? Formal, casual?
Modern or stuck in the past?
Favorite letter (s)

Do that and i will tell you the very first name that comes to mind!

(and you don't have to use it, i just like brainstorming ;)
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ErinAscending

Quote from: RetroTS on October 05, 2018, 05:51:53 PM
This could be kinda fun, lets try this:

What would you say your style/ fashion sense is? Formal, casual?
Modern or stuck in the past?
Favorite letter (s)

Do that and i will tell you the very first name that comes to mind!

(and you don't have to use it, i just like brainstorming ;)

Oooo I like it!  It's the 'Name Nym" game!   ;D
Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes. - Oscar Wilde
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Alice (nym)

oooh this sounds dangerous - lol... but I will play along.

Style... casual - I would say I hover depending on what I am doing between outdoorsy practical and hippy/goth. I am comfortable in leggings, tight jeans, and long skirts. Although I've got killer legs... even if I do say so myself :p

Stuck in the past... mid to late 80s... music heavy metal - film Lost Boys (think Star) - although what's in my mind and what is in front of the mirror are not the same - ha ha ha.

Favourite Letter... hmmm don't really have one but A, E, S, T
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Gabrielle66

For me, Gabrielle just inspired me one day. I was looking at names that started with G. I have always liked that name even though I have never known anybody in person with it. There was Gabrielle from the Xena tv show. I always thought she was hot and tough when she needed to be but sweet most all of the time. What really grabbed me was that Gabrielle means woman of God in Hebrew. I'm not Jewish but the tie into faith really sparked something in me and I have to say I feel strongly about the name now. Something will eventually grab you Nym and you will absolutely know. Just allow her the chance to call to you. Best of luck in your search. Love and faith.

Gabrielle
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RetroTS

Quote from: Nym on October 05, 2018, 07:00:54 PM
oooh this sounds dangerous - lol... but I will play along.

Style... casual - I would say I hover depending on what I am doing between outdoorsy practical and hippy/goth. I am comfortable in leggings, tight jeans, and long skirts. Although I've got killer legs... even if I do say so myself :p

Stuck in the past... mid to late 80s... music heavy metal - film Lost Boys (think Star) - although what's in my mind and what is in front of the mirror are not the same - ha ha ha.

Favourite Letter... hmmm don't really have one but A, E, S, T

Adrianne
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Ryuichi13

Quote from: Nym on October 05, 2018, 05:31:24 PM
My parents were convinced I was going to be a girl so had only thought of girl names... I was supposed to be Lucinda (Lucy for short)... but I was born with the wrong bits and a big argument ensued and my grandmother won the day. But then my sister was born 2 years later and although she got a different name, her pet name from my father was Lucy. So I can't really use that name.

Then as a child I thought of myself as Angela (no idea why) but I had a bad experience using that name, so would sooner not use it.

In my 20s and 30s, I used Skye. But that's too close to my daughter's name. My daughter very nearly got Skye. It wouldn't be right to use that name as much as I like it... I am not out to my daughter but she would be upset if I used that name.

So still thinking... I have a few ideas and people have offered some nice suggestions but nothing is shouting out to me yet. My mind keeps going back to Skye and that's part of the problem - lol.
If it helps, how about Sora (pronounced Soar-a)?  It means "sky" in Japanese.

My name was actually given to me by a group of friends.  We had a favorite anime that we were all really into, and one character was so much like me that everyone started calling me by his name. (I'm FTM, btw.)  After so many years of looking for a male name, that one fit me the best.  Its now my legal name. [emoji16]

My middle initial is what's left of my former middle name.  I kept my last name.

Ryuichi

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Nikkimn

When I came out to my parents I had a short list of age appropriate names that would pass given the year I was born and I narrowed it down to Nicole, Rachel and Jennifer. I was the most fond of Nicole for some reason just felt right. When I told my parents I asked them if they had ever picked a girl name if I had been born a girl and they had actually chosen Nicole. Seemed like too big of a coincidence to ignore and honestly now I couldn't imagine having any other name.


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Alice (nym)

Thanks Retro... a nice name but a bit too ultravox for me  :P

It will come to me.

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Ryuichi, hajimema->-bleeped-<-e. My wife is Japanese... she used to refer to my female side as 'momo' but that doesn't suit a 184cm tall, long legged, blue eyed gaijin.
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KathyLauren

It seemed natural to me to want a name that was similar to my boy name.  I wanted to keep the same initials, and I didn't want to have to change my signature too much.  Kind of mundane reasons, I know, but it was what it was.

My boy name was Keith Lawrence.  So Kathy Lauren was a natural choice.  I used that here as my user name when I signed up, and I got used to people calling me that.  So when it came time to "lock in my final answer" (i.e. legal name change), that's what I went with.

I did have to decide if Kathy was going to be short for Katherine or Kathleen.  I went with Kathleen because it is the Irish version.  (I was born in Ireland).  It was also my mother-in-law's middle name, and I am not above trying for brownie points.  ;D

"Kathy" is also age appropriate for my generation.  "Lauren" less so, but Lauren Bacall was a well-known movie star at the time I was born, so it is perfectly plausible as a name my parents might have given me.
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Alice V

Some people just modify their names because they have female analogs. For me that wasn't the option. So I just opened list of female names and start reading it. Those names that felt different I wrote in notepad, and after reading full list I ended up with 4 options. I modify them in short versions, tried to imagine how people would call me with that names, and I decided that one of them fits me better.
It is your name. Choose whatever you like. Though I suggest to avoid weird names.
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Virginia

My female alter chose her own name. She picked it because I didn't know anyone by the name or have preconceived notions about it so she was free to herself.
~VA (pronounced Vee- Aye, the abbreviation for the State of Virginia where I live)
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krone6

Quote from: Nym on October 05, 2018, 04:13:34 PM
So I've been thinking about names... because at the moment I don't have a female name.

I've had a few in the past but for one reason or another they've fallen by the wayside.

So I was thinking it might be fun to ask...

how did you come up with your name?

A friend of mine gave me Emily Sophia Letzin and we played with that online for a little but it didn't quite feel right. She then thought of Riley Jordan Letzin and instantly clicked. Played with it for a year then legally changed to it. Months later I find out I might be nonbinary which may explain why two gender neutral names felt better.
Had nullification surgery by Marc Arnkoff on August 10th, 2017 at 24 which was the catalyst for me finally admitting I am trans and to start estrogen. Wish I saw this sooner but that's life. I have detailed documents on these surgeries and pictures so feel free to ask.

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alyssalove2790

I never considered naming myself something close to my real name. I preferred it to be different.

I had made a list of names I liked, and were unique enough.

Alyssa
Mirai (means future in Japanese)
Akina (Aki means autumn in Japanese)

Some liked Alyssa more for how right it sounded, some liked the meaning of Mirai. Akina didn't take much attention...


But... jusging from your background... Maybe... Tanya?

Or maybe, from your past preferences... very similar...

Skyla?
Skyler?

Or maybe try using a name generator! Like this one: https://www.name-generator.org.uk/character/
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Alice (nym)

Quote from: alyssalove2790 on October 06, 2018, 02:50:23 PM
I never considered naming myself something close to my real name. I preferred it to be different.

But... jusging from your background... Maybe... Tanya?

Or maybe, from your past preferences... very similar...

Skyla?
Skyler?

Or maybe try using a name generator! Like this one: https://www.name-generator.org.uk/character/

I am the same... my name has a female version but the shortened version of that is what some of my family already call me. I know that sounds like it is too easy but when they say it, they are referring to the masculine name. AND, I hate my masculine name... so a clean break from that is needed.

I thought about Tanya but it doesn't go with my surname. But I made a list today... I've not had a chance yet to go through them while looking in the mirror but... Skyla/Skyler was on the list.
Alice
Amber
Amelia
Summer
Emma
Ivy
Lydia
Skyla/Skyler
Jenny

Not decided yet...
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