I am so sorry to hear of your problems, I had my first clitoral orgasm 4 weeks after my surgery with Brassard. I'm not gonna lie, it took a couple hours to achieve and about a week of trying many different toys, porn and fantasies. Your mind for one has to be in tune with your body or it will never happen. Try to force it and you'll most likely fair to achieve a climax. Also, if one toy doesn't work don't think it's you. You really need to try many different types of toys, vibration patterns etc.. to find what works for you.