Quote from: Chris39 on December 04, 2018, 07:56:30 AM
Iv just recently come out and told my 19 and 22 year old sons and my new wife that Im trans . I am in the process of adopting my wifes 15 month old little girl which has been a complete blessing in my life. They say that they are good wit everything they just want me happy.i believe it will be harder than that when they see the physical changes that hrt brings ,but my wife said that my oldest son ask her so I guess I'm supposed to be the father figure for preslee if dad does this. This is truly ripping my heart apart I've never thought of suicide a a answer to any thing but I wished I would die a lot here lately. I know I could never do that to my boys but it sure would be the easiest way out , so don't know what to do
Welcome to the forum Chris.
Congratulations on coming out to your family. IT takes a lot of courage and is one of the most difficult things you will ever have to do. I'm glad to hear their initial reaction was one of acceptance and support. Only time will tell on how they will respond with the physical changes you will get from HRT. Thankfully for family members, the changes in MTF take several months to years to fully happen. That gives them some time to absorb things bit by bit. Patience and understanding will be your best friends!
I have a 15 month old daughter, and she is the main reason I am still alive! I have been in the deep throws of depression and have experienced the thoughts of life being easier with me out of it. But my baby deserves to have the happiness and joy of having me as a parent. She is my biggest supporter, because she is too young to judge or care! If you can stay focused on her and what you mean to her, then hopefully it will make things a bit easier and at the least change your perspective.
I have three kids, 15 months, 5 and 7. I haven't had the talk with my wife about what the change will be in how I am referred to by them, and what role I will play. They don't know anything about my transition, except that "I look very pretty with my fancy earrings and clothes." They take it in stride.
I do believe that no matter what I am eventually called by them, or how our relationship changes, I will still teach them things that dads normally teach. I can pass along the blessing of having lived on both sides of the gender scale. My son will need someone to talk to about guy stuff, and I want to be able to be there for him, even as a woman.
I hope everything goes well with the adoption and that your family will be willing to listen to your feelings and needs and not just their own.
Lacy
