What I mean by that:I was a straight hetero male before I transitioned, I had a few fetishes that were only appealing to me if they involved a women or a womans body part , a guys just didn't work. This is a fascinating insight into how the brain works. For example when I was a teenager I had a very strong fetish for girls legs feet/boots/high heels etc. Now I'm MtF trans who is "straight" As a man I like to have sex with women, as a girl I like to have sex with men. What strange is my leg fetish carried over; I don't like mens legs or shoes no interest in that, but I like to keep my legs and feet as sex as possible own lots of sexy boots and heals, and enjoying doing all the stuff I used to do with women like jerk them off with my feet toes etc. You would think if I had a leg fetish that when I was with a man I would like theirs not mine. I wonder if I never really had a fetish for womens legs but rather a fetish for my own that I saw through girl friends as mine weren't curved with estrogen smooth and painted, so I didn't see them as objects of lust. I heard that for feet fetish the part of the brain that deals with the sensation of walking on things is right in the center of one of the cortexs in the brain and close to another region dealing with emotion in the other hemisphere. Some time as an infant or in utero the nerve cells cross over. Why else would you like that? It doesn't favor evolution like other likes and appeals like tall muscular men, etc

I will not go in detail but ya they all transferred over LOL. Transitioning did not change my personality.

I did not have any fetishes, but my sexual orientation did not change either.

I admit i've wondered idly if our "attraction" to a certain gender when trans is actually more about mistaking attraction and wanting to be them. Like a transwoman finds certain female traits sexy because subconciously she desires them and I love penises because I want one of my own (omg I really DO, i'm so envious of cis men's dicks, it's doing my head in!)

And sometimes it worries me. Like, was I only attracted to husband because I wanted his penis? lol.

Certainly I wonder if it's part of that initial attraction/appeal anyway, and then you get to know the person and fall in love with them anyway. I know for sure I most definitely do LOVE my husband and think he's pretty dang hot. Of course, he's not a very manly guy heh. I don't like macho manly men, I like em hairless and scrawny and adorable.

Ahem.

But i'm bisexual and I highly doubt that's gonna change. I do seem to be more attracted physically to a degree of "femininity" in that I don't like hyper masculinity and don't find butchness attractive at all though. I like women very feminine in appearance and guys more toward the androgynous.

one thing I have noticed of late though is that my usually submissive nature has given way to a far more dominant one. And i'm not even on hormones yet!
I suspect that's more a finally growing comfortable with myself and reaching a natural point in my relationship with other half where we are able to be totally open and experimental.

Because i've been able to explore that side of myself more, I have and gotten a bit of a taste for MORE.

Problem is, I lack the er... equipment to really do the things I want desperately to do. Damnit.

Fetish? I don't think I have any. More like a feeling of that I want or need something for myself. Like the equipment or a beard.

Maybe tall guys. They are attractive.

And femenine/androgynous men and femenine women are attractive. I don't get all worked up about butches or really masculine men. I'm not care very much about the looks of other people, it's the femenine aura that is appealing.


Tony

Oh man, that whole diatribe about "loving penises because I want one of my own" really hit a nerve! 

From my earliest sexual fantasies, I've wanted to "switch to male, even if only for a day" just to experience what it would be like to have a penis.  I'm still up in the air about maybe one day surgically getting one of my own.  I've heard quite a few good things about surgically-made penises.

I really don't care if a guy is androgynous or masculine, if I find them attractive, they are attractive to me.  I think some of it is also envy, but as a gay man in a relationship with a transman currently unable to transition, it took me months to get over his female body.  But now that I am, I find that for the most part, I find his body to be the only one I find attractive.  Maybe its love, maybe not.  I'm not going to question it.

My other fetishes are still here, and intact.  I've actually added more on to my "fetish list."  It doesn't worry me much, but I do find myself more turned on by things I never thought I would be.  I never was attracted to breasts, but probably because my partner "has  gynecomastia," I find myself attracted to certain shaped breasts.  Of course, I'm also attracted to his chest.

So, I could honestly say that "my fetishes have not only carried on past my transitioning, but I've added more to the list."   

Ryuichi

Quote from: Ryuichi13 on May 20, 2019, 03:43:53 PM

From my earliest sexual fantasies, I've wanted to "switch to male, even if only for a day" just to experience what it would be like to have a penis.  I'm still up in the air about maybe one day surgically getting one of my own.  I've heard quite a few good things about surgically-made penises.

Ryuichi

Way back when we were starting to develop breast implants, another group in our labs was also working on penises.  Like the breast implants, the penises were not thought to be for transgender people, but for victims of accidents Diseases.  I remember that they had a pretty good grasp of how a real, functional penis should be done, and had some promising prototypes at that time.  Later the entire development program for breast and penis stuff was stopped.  But I know that some of the core developers went to commercial companies, and I bet by now they have pretty good penises to implant, the same as they have very good breast implants.
I don't know what is involved with getting such an implant, but changing ones genitalia is never an easy job, but it seems to be very rewarding to know that one is down there the way one should be!

Quote from: Linde on May 20, 2019, 04:11:09 PM
Way back when we were starting to develop breast implants, another group in our labs was also working on penises.  Like the breast implants, the penises were not thought to be for transgender people, but for victims of accidents Diseases.  I remember that they had a pretty good grasp of how a real, functional penis should be done, and had some promising prototypes at that time.  Later the entire development program for breast and penis stuff was stopped.  But I know that some of the core developers went to commercial companies, and I bet by now they have pretty good penises to implant, the same as they have very good breast implants.
I don't know what is involved with getting such an implant, but changing ones genitalia is never an easy job, but it seems to be very rewarding to know that one is down there the way one should be!

Honestly, surgical techniques have improved to the point where you can opt to have one grafted to you using your own skin from a donor site.  Often a forearm, a thigh or even the stomach is used as a donor site.  There is no need to take anti-rejection meds, as its your own skin, and the inside is often the same kinds of penis pumps that's also used for cis men with erectile dysfunction.

GCS surgery has come a LONG way from what it was even five years ago, and its making leaps and bounds every day.  I need to get my top surgery done first before I decide if I want to go that route.  I might just opt for a meta.

Ryuichi 

Quote from: Ryuichi13 on May 20, 2019, 04:24:57 PM
  I might just opt for a meta.

Ryuichi

If you are already there ( enlarges the clitoris to an average size of 4–5 cm (1.6–2 in)), we can shake hands, because we could be some kind of twins down there!  You are on the way up, I am on the way down!
Crazy world!

I'm still in the early stages of my transition, so I've got a LONG way to go, but until I realized that I'm transgender, I thought my wanting to be a woman was the fetish.  I had no idea that I was actually a woman in the wrong body.  Other than that, no fetishes here to speak of.  I'll let y'all know if some develop after I transition .

I never felt anything about my sexual preference and identity was a 'fetish' it simply is. By transitioning I have reduced many inhibitions and my preferences for ... play ... have broadened a lot. I was never shy or inhibited before to be fair, now just about anything consensual is ok with me.

Some really interesting replies in this thread learned a lot. As far as Ryuichi13 my penis is down less the 1" most days. Don't you wish we could swap genetailia on this board? So many wanted penisis and unwanted penisis. I think I am going to go the route where the testies are removed and the scrotum is turned just into a taught flap of skin that covers that area. At the size my penis is now its like a big clit (I have seen many much bigger) And it will still have the feeling as satisfy my sissyboy fetish of being *almost* a girl. For me certain transwomen like the one I aspire to be, are hyperfeminine; that's what used to attract me to transwomen as a straight guy they were so girly about everything, no pants, no short hair or unisex attire. My hair is just past the shoulders and I can't wait for it to get down to elbows so I can curl, highlight and style it.

  I'm torn because my scrotum is shrinking fast and a 0.75" vagina can't even be fingered, but as I said before I would really have to look 99% female with my clothes off (hello butt can you are growing but not like the other parts time to step up your game, I imagine implants would look weird without wide hips, its definitely bigger but still guy shape its so gross) to feel comfortable with a vagina as much as I would love to have a man penetrate me, anal just doesn't have enough sensation past the first inch it no longer fells like touch but pressure, that was a big disappointing surprised first time I had anal. I always saw my gf's reacting the same way when we had vaginal or anal sex same facial expression everything. Why is that? I thought we were supposed to have the prostate help out with that?


I thought everyone had at least one fetish, no offence but I would think sex would be so boring. I started experimenting when regular sex got boring around 15, I always liked legs/feet but we started with bondage then into the m/s d/s s/m thing and all the branches of it; like leather... love the feel of leather dresses and knee high leather boots. That was the first female clothes I bought was a leather dress and leather stripper boots. I thought it was just a like for that leather feeling. The smell of perfume and leather is so nice! I can't even count the number of fetishes I have probably everything except pee/poo food/ and things that are physically dirty. I'm also one of those high IQ quirky artistic genius types I have noticed that about girl friend  that have IO's as high as mine seem to be kinky in bed.


All the fetish type outfits I would buy for my girl friends I myself own so maybe
I was buying them vicariously for myself.

I wonder if those without fetishes simply haven't allowed themselves to think about that part.. or don't consider it a kink lol.

I mean i've noticed that it's taken nearly 10 years of marriage for my husband and I to reach a point where we feel confident and comfortable enough experimenting. It's not that things got stale, more that we hit a point where we felt comfortable enough to bring up and indulge those deep down never spoken of before fantasies and it's been great but also, in a way, not so great for my dysphoria because the more I learned about penises, the more I wanted one lol.

I mean previously I sort of ignored getting too close to them due to teen trauma relating to being forced to go down on a guy against my will (he was such a douchebag) so it sort of left me not really enjoying oral sex at all, it brought back unpleasant memories so I avoided it.
but over the years I suppose i've come to trust my husband so much that now it's like.. I want to give him that.
Also I admit, I get a kick out of making him squirm <_<
bwhaha.
tmi?

But it's taken a long time for me to get over that trauma to a point where I could perform certain acts without feeling sick and angry and upset.

Problem is, as I get over that, the more I start sort of uh... fixating on the penis and how much fun they are.

Oops.

I mean apparently this is wierd but I actually find penises kinda adorable. In that so ugly they're cute kinda way. *snort* I find them endearing and amusing. They make me smile.

Vaginas on the other hand, sort of scare me. It's like a big ol' cave of mystery and it freaks me right on out.

but I think that's more my dysphoria talking than anything else. I mean I AM attracted to women, just not... that bit of them so much.

because ultimately I don't mind PIV sex, it can be quite enjoyable. I mean I prefer external stimulation because 90% of my sensation is clit stimulation and I suffer from a lot of issues internally that make penetration uncomfortable bordering on actually painful depending on where in my cycle I am but I enjoy the submission and I get more physically out of PIV than anal due to you know, biology. It's easier to position myself to get external stimulation if my partner is a bit further forward (as in, penetrating the first hole).
So I can sort of detatch enough to imagine it's the other hole and that works pretty well.

But this means that i'm sort of on the fence about bottom surgery because I have little desire to stand to pee (I dunno, I like sitting down and daydreaming or reading or just messing about on my phone haha, i'm lazy. Also I have a very nervous bladder so I really struggle to get flow going if i'm not totally and completely comfortable and it's SO ANNOYING) but I do have this massive desire to penetrate my partner among other things.
Thing is, ultimately, the enlarged growth from T should at least give me something to work with. Maybe not enough for actual penetration but enough to play with a little more.

And ultimately, unless I can get me a fully working regular sized dick with surgery, I don't see the point. Peniplasty has implants and those just ... no thanks. Don't appeal to me at all. I want a biologically working dick, not a bionic one. Meta, beyond giving me some balls and repositioning the urethra what does it really add that T growth doesn't give you anyway? (no genuinely, does it give you anything more to work with? It doesn't look like it does)

So until we figure out a way to make erectile tissue in a lab and use that for a graft, i'll stick with two holes and a tiny psudo penis. (hey, two holes are better than one right? *snort*)

Given I don't have a prostate, losing the ability to have some internal pleasure would be disappointing I think.

I mean the moment we get the technology for a cis-like dick, well, my thoughts on bottom might change rapidly. But alas, we aren't there yet.
Turning an innie into an outie is very difficult.

What a shame.

Lexi, I might have an answer for your question about why some women react to anal the same as vaginal! Clit stimulation! If you're pressing your pelvis against that bit of her (which is often the case if she's on her back, or if she's on her front and has something under her that works too) then you'll rub against the clit which feels very very good. Female anatomy doesn't really seem to give us anything good INSIDE the butt region, but if you can do external stimulation then you can still get off from it.  Meanwhile the vagina has two internal spots, the G spot and another one further back near the very back wall of the vagina which you can access if she props her butt up with a pillow and you go deep. The G spot on the other hand is very shallow, more like two knuckles deep. To get at it you sort of have to beckon and a penis is NOT gonna hit that easily at all. It usually will just go straight past that.
So actually a lot of cis women or transmen have the same problem with vaginal sex, it's just pressure becuase the dick isn't hitting either spot anyway.

I've had uh.. 4 male sexual partners in my life? One was hung like a horse and all he ever hit was my cervix which is HORRIBLY painful. One was teensy tiny and couldn't hit anything to save his damn life so I had to get on top and take over to get anything out of it (poor guy, he was useless in bed) and the other two were far more normal but only really husband has managed to achieve anything that inspiring. Go him? And honestly, unsatisfying sex is nothing new to those with female anatomy.
I've read that actually the vast majority of women climax from clit stimulation predominantly, it's the easier bit to stimulate. If you're having trouble getting pressure on it, try sticking a pillow under your butt and angling yourself so that front part of your pelvis smooshes against his pelvic bone. IF you can tolerate having pressure on that part of you.

Experiment anyway, you might find a position that hits the right spot for you. As  you won't have those two internal spots, external or prostate stimulation is probably the best bet. But hey, play around, have some fun, figure out what feels best! that's half the fun isn't it?

I uh... might know way too much about male and female anatomy huh? <_< I got a bit fixated on it a while back and really curious about how everything worked and where everything was heh.
It was fun.

Biology is weird and of course everyone is different. Some people LOVE having certain bits touched, others find it overwhelming (I get electric teeth if my nipples are played with for example. Sounds wierd but it's like this static charge across my teeth and into my jaw and I HATE it and it's super offputting so the boobs are off limits, even if I didn't hate the dang things)

With sex, ultimately, cis or trans, you gotta just play around, experiment, touch one another and figure out what feels good and what doesn't work. Take it slow, have some fun with it, explore one another's body. It's really fun and you might just find out they like being touched somewhere you never even considered touching before.

I have zero time for unsatisfying sex these days. I just nope. i'm too old to be having bad sex. I won't stand for it.

I like most of the things I did before (umm I think I'm long since out here as being fairly kinky, won't bother with details). I don't think this is tied to my sexuality except in so far as an active set of kinks were at least partly driven by dysphoria.

Also I don't think I was straight before, rather I recognized myself as lesbian well before I got there as figuring out I'm female.

One thing that's changed while becoming less fetish, more essential pleasure is I can finally just enjoy my body. I had a strong motivation before to be myself dressed in sexy lingerie and liked that in women I was involved with. I think it was a means to accentuate and emphasize curves and erogenous zones, now I'm also happy with just naked ... still like the frills but I don't need them and foundation garments are a fundamental element of my wardrobe so they're just pleasantly there now.

Quote from: SadieBlake on May 21, 2019, 06:26:47 AM
I like most of the things I did before (umm I think I'm long since out here as being fairly kinky, won't bother with details). I don't think this is tied to my sexuality except in so far as an active set of kinks were at least partly driven by dysphoria.

Also I don't think I was straight before, rather I recognized myself as lesbian well before I got there as figuring out I'm female.

One thing that's changed while becoming less fetish, more essential pleasure is I can finally just enjoy my body. I had a strong motivation before to be myself dressed in sexy lingerie and liked that in women I was involved with. I think it was a means to accentuate and emphasize curves and erogenous zones, now I'm also happy with just naked ... still like the frills but I don't need them and foundation garments are a fundamental element of my wardrobe so they're just pleasantly there now.

There's something about being in public with the skankiest lingerie on underneath.  You are having a serious conversation and you can feel your the skin on your butt touch the chair you are sitting on if you don't sweep your dress down when you sit. As a guy that would never happen ever and wearing skanky things was done in the utmost of secrecy, now I like to show off if I see someone looking under the table but now that I think about it, they are probably wondering what is under that dress.  I think its obvious that I'm trans but as long as strangers keep saying she I know I have done my job. Or they think I'm a fem enough guy their brains say she. Who knows.

F_P_M that is something I never thought about, but don't think I will be having sex with a girl or using my penis anytime soon, or ever again, but still... 10 years to wait to do some kink? I usually wait until the 3rd... hour of our 1st date to try out something kinky.

Everything carried over yes. The only difference is how I view myself as a participating party. Before I wouldn't view myself at all, because "I" didn't really figure anywhere into the equation, being dissociated. Now I do, and feel like I exist and that's it's all right to have a few kinks as me.