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Jenn's Journey, Part 2

Started by Jenn104, January 03, 2024, 04:31:48 PM

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Quote from: Gina P on June 24, 2024, 09:29:40 AMVery sorry that you had to endure such a person. I find a soft answer usually quiets these individuals. How about, "I'm sorry that my looks offended you." or, "wow I guess I'm lucky I don't look better or I'd be laying in the street!" So sad that these types of people exist to inflict pain on others, just like bullies in grade school. So glad you didn't let it get you down.

Thanks.


I don't get upset, if I was not clear. I mean, I get upset but not unhinged or depressed. Of course hate speech bothers me, I just don't let it sink in or upset any.

If he'd stopped I'd have gotten his license plate. He just had the good sense to drive off. I'd have considered reporting him to the cops if I'd gotten a license plate.

Good to see you, Gina, recovering to the point of posting. I appreciate what you said as well as you taking the time post-op.


~Jenn

"I want to be remembered as a woman ... who dared to be a catalyst of change."
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"We need to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections."
                  - Marsha P. Johnson

"Why not question everything?"
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Northern Star Girl

@Jenn104
Dear Jenn:

Your Special Day has arrived today, July 2nd
Wishing you a very, very 
 
            H A P P Y  B I R T H D A Y
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Lori Dee

Happy Birthday, Jenn!
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davina61

Have a very Happy Birthday my dear.
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Kay226

Happy Birthday Jenn!
Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?
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Jessica_Rose

I Just missed it, but I hope you had an awesome day! Happy birthday, Jenn!

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Gina P

Sorry its a day late. HAPPY BIRTHDAY anyway.  :icon_bunch:
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Jenn104

Quote from: Northern Star Girl on July 02, 2024, 10:25:08 AM@Jenn104
Dear Jenn:

Your Special Day has arrived today, July 2nd
Wishing you a very, very 
    H A P P Y  B I R T H D A Y

Many HUGS,

Danielle
Quote from: Gina P on July 03, 2024, 04:05:00 PMSorry its a day late. HAPPY BIRTHDAY anyway.  :icon_bunch:
Hugs Gina

Quote from: Jessica_Rose on July 03, 2024, 06:52:14 AMI Just missed it, but I hope you had an awesome day! Happy birthday, Jenn!

Jove always -- Jessica Rose

Quote from: Kay226 on July 02, 2024, 05:29:14 PMHappy Birthday Jenn!

Quote from: imallie on July 02, 2024, 03:39:08 PMHappy Birthday!

Quote from: davina61 on July 02, 2024, 11:20:57 AMHave a very Happy Birthday my dear.

Quote from: LoriDee on July 02, 2024, 11:08:37 AMHappy Birthday, Jenn!



Many many thanks to everyone for well wishes. I had a nice weekend with my oldest daughter.

~Jenn
"I want to be remembered as a woman ... who dared to be a catalyst of change."
                 - Shirley Chisolm

"We need to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections."
                  - Marsha P. Johnson

"Why not question everything?"
                  - Lynn Conway

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Jenn104

I have had a long emotional day.


I wrapped my 4 days with my oldest daughter this morning. I am fairly sure I won't see her before bottom surgery. We had a good few days in a deep red upstate NY county. Just a little shade thrown at us. I was a little sad to drive off.

A few hours later my phone erupts in texts (that I can't answer, I was still 4 - 5 hours from home). There's been a layoff at work... a pair of names and my boss. "if you didn't get an email in either your work or private email you're safe". I did not get one.  I am told they layed people off on vacation but no one knows for sure.

Anyway. I cried. not big sobby tears. I just cried on and off a few hours.

My boss - "former" has not sunk in - changed my life when I told him about the authentic me. His reaction was so good, so positive, so affirming, it helped me realize my own value. Same for co-workers who value me for being me which they have done from the moment I told them. I cried because people who are so nice got treated so poorly and are now quietly parting.

I am processing still. I feel like there is a huge void in my life all of a sudden.


~Jenn
"I want to be remembered as a woman ... who dared to be a catalyst of change."
                 - Shirley Chisolm

"We need to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections."
                  - Marsha P. Johnson

"Why not question everything?"
                  - Lynn Conway


Lori Dee

Sending you hugs and good vibes.
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Jenn104

#191
The layoff was a huge botch. Apparently fed-ex started delivering "send back your laptop" labels yesterday. So the company did *something* which turned out to be sending out emails to work and private emails. I still have no clear, definitive statement of my status. Only a lot of "they told people on PTO, so you are very likely safe" messages.

I did what I do. I logged onto work. I co-lead the official DEI&B trans space. I reached out to peers and parents there. Most of them have my cell anyway. I reached out in our private trans/nb space as well. Doing for others makes sense for me. It fills a hole.

like I said, at a moment in my own story I needed everything to change, I told people at work who I am and everything changed. In part I joined the speaking bureau I am in because of my peers at work and manager. The last in person conversation I had with my boss was last week. I told him on of my he is the basis of one of my talks-- "the twelve words my manager said to me that changed my life". there is a void. I am correspondingly sad.

Edit-- for atlassian/JIRA users, I co-own our scrum board. I logged on to check it. I notice anyone effected is already locked out of the board. English translation? the accounts that matter are disabled. My accounts are not disabled. I think I might still be employed.

Another Edit-- well, apparently a mass email went out last night. "everyone effected knows unless you have a pending leave of absence". that'd be me. I seriously think I am effed.

~Jenn
"I want to be remembered as a woman ... who dared to be a catalyst of change."
                 - Shirley Chisolm

"We need to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections."
                  - Marsha P. Johnson

"Why not question everything?"
                  - Lynn Conway

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davina61

Does this break some federal laws? Compensation due? Did they sign the slips happy 4th of July!!
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Jenn104

Quote from: davina61 on July 04, 2024, 10:57:26 AMDoes this break some federal laws? Compensation due? Did they sign the slips happy 4th of July!!

very ghoulish I have linkedin messages along the lines of "if you are effected contact me, its maybe illegal". Having said that, I work for a large HR focused company. Yes, the company is staying legal. Frankly, I assume none of my new management chain's been told a thing-- because they could make the company illegal.

Jenn
"I want to be remembered as a woman ... who dared to be a catalyst of change."
                 - Shirley Chisolm

"We need to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections."
                  - Marsha P. Johnson

"Why not question everything?"
                  - Lynn Conway

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Kay226

My office is closing and I don't think that senior management knows how to handle these things. They keep dropping the ball, over and over.
Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?
quote by Mary Oliver

The universe buries strange jewels deep within us all, and then stands back to see if we can find them.
quote by Elizabeth Gilbert
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Jenn104

I might be reading the tea leaves wrong. I distinctly feel I am twisting in the wind at work. There is an email (which I don't have) saying you are safe from the layoff, unless you have a pending leave of absence. My LOA is under 2 months away and pending.

I lost access to a few places overnight, not all, just key things in engineering. When I explicitly ask about my status to my own management, I get non-answers and silence. Hope for the best, expect the worst.

Truth be told, I've been a good team player and deeply engaged across my workplace. Bad things happen. I understand layoffs happen. I don't understand how leaving me in limbo is either fair or needed. I am pretty lost.

Would someone tell the universe to stop testing my resilience. it isn't going to win.

~jenn
"I want to be remembered as a woman ... who dared to be a catalyst of change."
                 - Shirley Chisolm

"We need to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections."
                  - Marsha P. Johnson

"Why not question everything?"
                  - Lynn Conway

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Lori Dee

Hi Jenn,

From your posts, I can tell that you must be a valuable asset to the company. But as you said, layoffs happen. Is it possible that they have not made a final decision yet about you? As in, maybe someone in management is arguing to keep you on?

Hoping for the best for you.

Hugs!
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Jenn104

Quote from: LoriDee on July 05, 2024, 12:42:44 PMHi Jenn,

From your posts, I can tell that you must be a valuable asset to the company. But as you said, layoffs happen. Is it possible that they have not made a final decision yet about you? As in, maybe someone in management is arguing to keep you on?

Hoping for the best for you.

Hugs!

They layed off 14%. In a crash bang boom cluster of a hurry too.

Objectively, yes, maybe they are trying to find me something. It is possible. No one I work with thinks so however. The prevailing thought is the company needs to give so many days notice to all, given their size. That notice takes me into proposed leave of absense. so it takes high powered HR to lay me off. I cannot be sent email, nor can they spill it to managers lest they get the company sued.

I am just twisting away in the meanwhile..
"I want to be remembered as a woman ... who dared to be a catalyst of change."
                 - Shirley Chisolm

"We need to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections."
                  - Marsha P. Johnson

"Why not question everything?"
                  - Lynn Conway

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Lori Dee

Ah, I see. Yes, that does sound like Limbo. I do not doubt that you will survive, I just hope things change in your favor.
My Life is Based on a True Story
Veteran U.S. Army - SSG (Staff Sergeant) - M60A3 Tank Master Gunner
2017 - GD Diagnosis / 2019- 2nd Diagnosis / 2020 - HRT / 2022 - FFS & Legal Name Change
/ 2024 - Voice Training / 2025 - Passport & IDs complete
  • skype:.?call
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imallie

Ugh. Sorry to hear Jenn.
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