they made it official at 3:10, by email. why I needed to twist an extra 48 hours is lost on me.

I get to look for a new gig as me, yet another first...


~Jenn

Hi Jenn,

Sorry to hear that.  Good luck with the new gig!

Marion

Sorry to hear that, Jenn.
I was hoping they would keep you.

I am so sorry to hear that, Jenn. And keeping you in limbo that long was a pretty poor move by the HR folks.

Hope you find a new job soon!

Hugs,

Heidemarie

From the way that the staff have been treated it sounds like you are better off finding a new post, on to better and brighter things.

Thanks to all for support. I told a former co-worker allyship isn't a booming act of heroism, allyship is a million small moments of support. Looking at all of you who posted here. Thank you, again.


I am and will be processing a few days.


I've had a pretty steady procession of texts, calls, and emails along with linkedin conversations. I am happily surprised at the volume of well wishes. I feel numb. The disappeared blogs held my own story pretty well. I was failing in transition, maybe life. Then I told work. My peers especially believed in my much more than I believed in myself. Who I am is shaped by the company that left me. I've a corresponding hole in my heart today.


I am under 8 weeks from GCS. I am not losing my date. I know where I am. I don't need to explain to anyone here I am a gonna guess. Stay tuned.


~Jenn

Sorry you are going through this Jenn. It definitely seams like the universe is testing your resolve. I went through and am going through a similar situation.  Running a small business with 2 employees plus myself. One employee announced he was taking vacation 3 weeks after my GRS and didn't care if I fired him, he was going! Employee #2 blows out his shoulder last day of employee #1 and now has a 10 day med lay inn. I went from 3 employees to 0. I was able to get my son in to help out yesterday on his day off, and I played helper much to my misery. Lots of pain last night, I'm better this morning but too soon to return to work in any capacity for me.
Good luck Jenn and don't anything interfere with your dreams. Press on.
Hugs Gina

@Jenn104
Dear Jenn:
All of your other followers and I are "at your side" as you are going through the layoff.
From my own experience with the same kind of thing, I know how emotionally draining this
can be. 

I am waiting and expecting to soon read of what "new doors are opening" for you.

Please continue to pursue new opportunities and try to keep a positive mind.
Many HUGS, positive thoughts, and prayers for you.
Danielle  [Northern Star Girl]

Quote from: Jenn104 on July 06, 2024, 08:28:11 AMThanks to all for support. I told a former co-worker allyship isn't a booming act of heroism, allyship is a million small moments of support. Looking at all of you who posted here. Thank you, again.


I am and will be processing a few days.


I've had a pretty steady procession of texts, calls, and emails along with linkedin conversations. I am happily surprised at the volume of well wishes. I feel numb. The disappeared blogs held my own story pretty well. I was failing in transition, maybe life. Then I told work. My peers especially believed in my much more than I believed in myself. Who I am is shaped by the company that left me. I've a corresponding hole in my heart today.


I am under 8 weeks from GCS. I am not losing my date. I know where I am. I don't need to explain to anyone here I am a gonna guess. Stay tuned.


~Jenn

Quote from: Northern Star Girl on July 06, 2024, 10:42:15 AM@Jenn104
Dear Jenn:
All of your other followers and I are "at your side" as you are going through the layoff.
From my own experience with the same kind of thing, I know how emotionally draining this
can be. 

I am waiting and expecting to soon read of what "new doors are opening" for you.

Please continue to pursue new opportunities and try to keep a positive mind.
Many HUGS, positive thoughts, and prayers for you.
Danielle  [Northern Star Girl]

Thank you Danielle, for the sentiments and so neatly putting down what everyone is thinking. I appreciate all the well wishes.

I am taking a little me-time this weekend. Its time to assess, build a base and move ahead. Gonna go get my yoga on. Rather providentially, therapy was delayed a few weeks back. We put on a session for tomorrow. It will be a good day to check in with my therapist.

I am 7+ weeks out from GCS. I've put thought into this. I don't think I have to tell my surgical team. I plan on telling anyway. I won't bend rules. I won't give it up either. I am s'posed to be paid and insured thru September. I don't live hand to mouth. It just aint gonna be delayed.


I was 25 years older than my nearest trans peer at work. I think I've said I was not-so-secretly called "momma hen" behind my back. I am proud I've reached out to the trans fam to say I am still here. A couple of them are estranged from their parents. No way does my responsibility to them end with my layoff. I've made it clear.

Anyway, I am gonna get my yoga on. declutter the place. start reading the pile of poo that is all the separation docs, and maybe catch a ride with the cycling group (who are seriously awesome women)...

Happy Sunday All,

~Jenn

Getting my yoga on Sunday was maybe the best decision in a while. The 'core five Sunday regulars' of which I am a proud member all left their individual stuff on the matt. Its a chippy class that is serious and fun on a regular basis. All agreed at the end of class it was the best class ever.

Added bonus? I made it through with no tears.


I feel good right now. I am not going to lose bottom surgery. I have time to assess what's next. Think about this -- I turned the big 6-0 a week ago. How many people turn that age, then get to look for a job as a wholly different person than ever before? I am not limited by what I've done, just what -and who - I can be.

its kinda fun when you think about it.


~Jenn

I love your attitude. Such a healthy way to handle obstacles.

Go, Jenn, go!

Yikes, Jenn. I just caught up on your news. Sad stuff. Trying times.

Seriously here.. any one of on here has resilience enough to handle a layoff. I mean my anxiety-o-meter just kind of flickered up to a low number than faded. I am a good person, an awesome co-worker, fierce, and I refuse to be stopped by a mere layoff.

BTW I've doled out a fair amount of advice to peers. I feel well qualified. I consider myself something of an expert in transitions, thank you.

giggling merrily!

Jenn

comfort food phase is over. mostly.

would someone please come take away the pancake mix, blueberries, butter, and syrup?

ooooooooooooooops--- too late on the syrup. I am gonna have to send to Vermont for more.


~Jenn

Try creamed maple syrup. It's the best.

Quote from: Oldandcreaky on July 10, 2024, 11:39:39 AMTry creamed maple syrup. It's the best.

I will O&C! Does it come from Vermont?

fun cycling fact btw-- there is a brand of electrolyte/engery gels made from maple syrup. Good Stuff! especially in the heat.

~Jenn

Hang in there Jenn!

Oooh, and if O&C is talking about maple cream (I'm guessing she is?) it is SO good! And you can make your own. It's just maple syrup brought to a boil on a stove and stirred until it's opaque and creamy... when it cools it's ... well, it won't last long. Which is why we made it one time and never again. 

So so glad to hear none of this is impacting your surgery plan!!!

Love,
Allie

Yep, maple cream from Vermont. I bought my latest 3-pounder on Etsy, straight from Vermont.

Quote from: imallie on July 10, 2024, 03:39:01 PMSo so glad to hear none of this is impacting your surgery plan!!!

Yet.

There is still much that can impact my date. So far my doctors don't care albeit want me to realize I am going to need to self pay for insurance ("COBRA" if you are in the US). I would anyway. Anyone on HRT should have insurance, period.

I do need to be employed and need to search with GCS looming. "I have major surgery scheduled" is going to be a line in interviewing. I am looking at creative ways to make that work.

Regardless-- thanks for being a fan and the well wishes.

~Jenn

   So I can see the job interview. Any medical problems we should be aware of? Well, I will need 6-8 weeks off soon, for surgery! This might be one of those things you don't disclose if you want to get hired. They cant discriminate against you but they can find a "more qualified candidate".
  I'm sure, you will find the strength to overcome this obstacle, considering how far you have come. Good luck