I hesitate to say things sometimes. If challenged, I have a tendency to break down, unable to verbally defend myself. My sister knew this, not giving me a chance to speak. Ask if she can do something and before I can respond, states silence is consent. I never had the chance to say no.
Another example would be my sister knocking over the ash tray. I stop and clean it up, my dad seeing me clean it up. He assumes I am cleaning it up so that he would not find out I knocked over the ash tray. I get a lecture where he states he knows I knocked it over, because I was cleaning it up. I do not get a chance to defend myself. After all, if she knocked it over she would be cleaning it up.
My sister learned from that, she can knock the ash tray over, and blame me.
You don't know me very well, I'm the one that broke both wrists at the same time. In the emergency room the doctor wanted to know if I understood that they were just stabilizing my wrists. About All I could say was "not fix, stabilize. In the operating room they wrapped my arms up so I couldn't even bend my elbows. I got sent to a different hospital, where they had to order another metal insert for my wrist. I had to wait a whole week for them to arrive. In the meantime I had the choice Of getting the inserts and going back home. or getting casts and spending months in a nursing home. I got the inserts, and spent another week in the hospital.
I don't know if the occupational therapist realized it, but I started doing finger exercises on my own in the emergency room. When I was released from the hospital, I dressed myself. I don't know if the occupational therapist was surprised when I tied my own shoes. I was released with the understanding that I did not need anybody to stay with me.
Nobody said I couldn't drive. So, the next day, I put about eighty miles on my car. Straight driving was okay, making turns got a little rough.
I'm hoping that after the bladder surgery, I won't need anybody to stay with me. Like I stated elsewhere I may have an advantage due to my low weight. I seem to have stabilized for the time being at 155 pounds. I may remain at that weight and later lose some more. I still have the possibility of weighing 150 pounds when I get the operation. Not a big deal if I don't lose more weight.
Another advantage is that I do get exercise. Although, It has not been easy to go for walks with the cold wet weather. With the smart watch, I was surprised by how many steps it showed just from me wandering around the house.
Lastly I am not on any prescription medication, so health-wise, I'm pretty much ok there. I'm using a nicotine patch to control my autism, and that will have to stop. I'll see what happens afterwords. If my vision goes back to before, or if my eyes are now retrained to see properly.
Michelle