I've recently begun noticing my little brother is displaying a LOT of signs of potentially being transgender. He's 15 years old, built very slight, introverted, shy and socially awkward, but lately I've noticed:

• Feminine presentation, wears mom's clothes often, wears mom's glasses often, doesn't seem to mind being mistaken for my mom, which happens often
• He leaves the house wearing a jacket wrapped around his hips like a dress
• He's been growing his hair very long, and when asked what he wishes his hair looked like, he exclusively pulls up pictures of women.
• I have a girly wolf cut and he's expressed jealousy for it.
• In casual conversation, he very suddenly dropped the fact he hates hair on his body anywhere that isn't on his head, hates his moustache, and literally mentioned laser hair removal surgery (unprompted).

Obviously none of this is definitive proof but every other trans person I've mentioned him to has been quite certain he's an egg.

Simply put, this is really bad news. Neither of my parents are accepting of trans people, neither would ever let him transition or offer any kind of support beyond telling him to repress his feelings.

I'm his sister and I desperately want to help him. But I don't know how to even broach the subject of transness to him without outing myself, and I'm sorry to say we've never been very close either, which would make me reaching out now and asking "useful" questions kinda difficult.

On top of that, I can't risk being caught. I'll be thrown out of my house and disowned instantly if my parents find out I'm trans, and I'm worried they're already starting to catch on. I'm already making plans to move out.

I can't leave him alone to fend for himself but I don't think I can safely stay in my family's house much longer.

What should I do?

Sorry to hear of the difficult family situation.

Don't ask don't tell is very common in such situations.
As is the concept of plausible deniability.

Marion

Quote from: Maid Marion on Today at 02:42:53 PMSorry to hear of the difficult family situation.

Don't ask don't tell is very common in such situations.
As is the concept of plausible deniability.

Marion

But not even talking about it would just be the same thing as not helping them.

There may be ways of helping him without talking about it, like doing the laundry and "accidentally" giving him some of your old clothes, never to be seen again.

I remember when my sister thought her son was gay. I wasn't all that close to my nephew but let him know I was always willing to listen. My sister's suspicions were correct (which was no big deal to her so most of the drama was about my nephew's reluctance to come out and not about his sexuality). I'm glad I was there when he was ready to talk. I'm not sure things would have went as well if I (or my sister) had confronted him before then.