It's ashame they felt compelled to send out a letter and hold a meeting to "explain" the situation. I get that they're probably worried about lawsuits and whatnot, but isn't this a *personal* matter?
As soon as you start holding meetings to "explain" why it's OK, you allow people to argue why it's not. Like my boss said about my transition, "the bigger a deal we make of this, the bigger a deal they'll think it is."
It sounds like the other children didn't care. It wasn't a "problem" until it was presented as one.
~Kate~