Quote from: Rebis on July 20, 2008, 10:39:58 AM

Quote from: Lisbeth on July 20, 2008, 07:52:26 AM

Quote from: Rebis on July 19, 2008, 09:51:37 PM
Love is love until it comes at you with an implement of destruction.

Unless that's your kink.  Then it might be a big sign of love, depending.

I'm beginning to wonder if you need to be watched.

May--be...

Quote from: Rebis on July 20, 2008, 10:39:58 AM

Quote from: Lisbeth on July 20, 2008, 07:52:26 AM

Quote from: Rebis on July 19, 2008, 09:51:37 PM
Love is love until it comes at you with an implement of destruction.

Unless that's your kink.  Then it might be a big sign of love, depending.

I'm beginning to wonder if you need to be watched.

Watching such things could also be a kink  >

Z

Quote from: Rebis on July 20, 2008, 10:39:58 AM
I'm beginning to wonder if you need to be watched.

I should make it clear that edge play (and use of similar implements of destruction) is actually one of my soft limits.  I would be too afraid of accidentally harming my partner to play that way.

It's extremely unlikely that a poor person would ever receive the consideration. I expect a man to be able to take me out. HE takes ME to dinner. HE dates ME. After several dates, things MAY go further. HE drives up to my door, and if he's married, HE'S going to pay for the motel.

I LOVE to flirt with men, and I'm VERY GOOD at it. Even though I'm pre-op, I know exactly what to do,  what not to do, what to say and how to say it. I'm too old to have any DEPENDENTS!!! And transition is expensive.  Why should I allow myself to get involved with someone who is poor?  I'm sure that there are some people out there who could make me happy without having any money, but there are many men out there who could make me happy, and can offer things that the poor man can't. Why should I consider allowing anyone to bring me down to his economic level?

I just barely made it through high school. I was sooo incredibly messed up as a teen, to the point of really believing at times that I was genetically complete as a female, plus serious drinking problems from the age of 14. I had no skills to enable me to find work, and I had been socialized as a female to the age of about 16...I had no male social skills. I never could hold a job. I found creative, legal ways to earn a living, and I had to take some VERY serious risks. I made it work, and now I'm retired. I've had a very difficult life, and there is no way that I would allow anyone to compromise my need to fully transition, or to interfere with my post transition goals.

Why should I?

When I had money it was 'hello sugar pie'
now that I'm broke it's 'good-bye country guy'

Quote from: April221 on July 20, 2008, 04:08:11 PM
and if he's married, HE'S going to pay for the motel.

Quote from: April221 on July 20, 2008, 04:08:11 PM
and if he's married, HE'S going to pay for the motel.

If he's married, he can take a long walk off a short pier.  I could stick it in "I confess," but I got involved with a married man once.  It was the fast lane to heartbreak.  All I can say about it is "don't."  Just "don't."

Money doesnt matter.
I grew up with a mother on sickness pension (she has SLE/lupus)
and I'm used to having less than $1318 a month (might be much many places, but its certainly not enough here in Sweden). I know many people who loves me (even in a partnerdefined sort of way) and I love a lot of people who have same income as me or less.

I think deciding/choosing not to love someone just because they are poor is shallow and stupid.

If we are talking about other people who are poor in the sense of "no life experience whatsoever", then I might think twice before I let them be a part of my life.

Yes. If were even more poor than I am now, I could still love someone.

Quote from: lacitychick21 on July 18, 2008, 12:40:38 PMQFT

Quantum field theory? Yeah, that's HOT!!!

--

Some thoughts from song:

QuoteI'd like to buy you everything
A wooden bird with painted wings
A window full of colored rings
In morning, Morgantown.

But the only thing I have to give
To make you smile, to win you with
Are all the mornings still to live
In morning, Morgantown

... and on another note ...

QuoteNobody loves you when you're down and out.
In your pocket, not one penny,
And as for friends, you don't have any.
When you get back on your feet again
Everybody wants to be your long-lost friend.
I say it's strange, without any doubt,
Nobody knows you when you're down and out.

For me, it's not about the amount of money, but the way it's spent. Living well with what you have is the key.

Could I love someone poor? And why not? Poor is something we can get out of together. Amor vincit omnia

Could I love someone poor?  It is a trick question.  If I love them, then they are truly wealthy, are they not?

excellent response.