Boy, ask anyone who's been around here and they will tell you about my weight issues that I'm finally starting to overcome.
In Oct. 2007, I was at 137 pound and 5'3". Not fat, but def. not skinny. I went on Weight Watchers and got down to about 125. Then, Weight Watchers quit working. Once you get down to the last 10 pounds or so it gets really hard to lose weight. So, I went on this crash diet to 1000 calories or less a day, which is NOT good for you. I got down to about 117 with that, then my mom finally brought me to reality. She pointed out how unhappy, lifeless, and grumpy I was and finally, I started eating a little bit more and killing myself with exercise. Not good results.
I learned to work out, lift weights and run, and keep my protein and fiber intake high. Through this diet, I had a lot of energy, was getting muscle (which burns fat) and looked good. This also brought up my confidence. Now, I don't get incredibly depressed after I eat something with high calories. I figure "Hey, life is short and I can always work this off easily."
Now, my doctor told me that at 5'4", 105 isn't a healthy weight for me (That's what I originally wanted to get to). He said at the least be around 112. I thought that was way too big, but then I realized that muscle weighs more than fat. I'm currently at 120 and think I look great, but more importantly, I feel great. I'm getting very toned and I don't starve myself. Plus, when you starve yourself, your body eats more muscle mass than fat.
Bottom line, you aren't fat. And if you think you are (trust me, I hated when people told me I wasn't when I felt I was), don't focus on losing weight. Focus on gaining muscle. It will really shape you up. Just eat lots of protein and fiber. Gaining muscle will make you feel great and give you a more masculine appearance.