Melissa,
I have never really considered it in terms of being "intersexed", although I have considered many of the things that you are talking about. Even when I participated in athletics, like wrestling, or football where there was vigerous physical workouts, and even in adulthood when I spent time in the gym, or my very physical job, being an electrician, I have never had any muscle definition. No bicept lines, no viens in my hands or forearms that protrude.
I have a very girly bubble butt and much of my overweight, weight, is on my rear and hips, much like a woman. I have looked younger than my age since my late 20's and still do. My avatar is not retouched, all I did was resize it. I have an illness that is primarily a woman's illness, fibromyalgia, with 90% of those afflicted with it, being women. I have always been the physically weakest and slowest of every male peer group I have ever been with.
While I have considered that transsexuality may be a brain developement issue, as there seems to be at least some anecdotal evidence to this effect, I never really considered it to be IS, but what else could it be? Is not IS the physical manifestation of both of the physical sexes?
Great post!!! Gives me plenty to think about.
Love always,
Elizabeth