I was sitting in my dorm room, on the phone with my mother, when I heard my name out in the hall. I pulled the phone away from my ear and proceeded to crack up inwardly at what I heard (I'm typing this on my cell, so I apologize for the lack of line breaks)...Twenty-something guy: Wait, so, Michael...is that actually a guy? Freshman girl: (perplexed by the question) Um, YES? I guess he's like an RA or something. Twenty-something guy: Ohhh...hah, like three in the morning, he'll knock on your door and be like, (lecherously) "Just wanted to...see if you're okay." Freshman girl: Nooo! (laughs)..um, endquote. So yeah, neither of them have ever seen me, and I wanted to yell, "Don't worry, I like boys!" through the door, but thought better of it. We're having a floor meeting tomorrow night and I'm wondering what to say when I introduce myself. Should I come out? What do you guys think? My RA's really nice, by the way. She knows I'm trans, and she called me "she" at first, but I corrected her and she was fine w/ it.

Haha, that's awesome!

Come out, if you want to. If you'd rather go stealth, then don't come out. Have fun at the floor meeting

I'm closeted. I haven't come out because well, I don't see a need to, honestly. Right now it isn't relevant. I told my teachers, and they're all quite secretive about it. Maybe the kids in my yoga class will notice if I don't do upside down movements (you can't do those while you're on your period). I really don't know. But I personally don't share it with pride. I am not really very proud of it. I am proud of being a guy, and that's all they need to know. I will tell people who ask if I trust them. I tell people who need to know.

I would stay stealth if I were you

If I were in your living situation I'd want everyone to see me as a guy, not as the girl who thinks she's a guy...

Quote from: trapthavok on August 24, 2008, 08:54:54 PM
I would stay stealth if I were you

If I were in your living situation I'd want everyone to see me as a guy, not as the girl who thinks she's a guy...

Yessir.

Edit: Not that you're pretending lol...We all know you're a guy here but sometimes stuff like our birth defects are on a need to know basis. Unless they're in charge (RAs, professors), people don't need to know

Is there a reason to come out?  By this, I mean...  Do you want people to know?  Do they need to? 

I'm just afraid people will be like, "Omg wtf, guy in a girls' hall?" and get confused and weirded out. But based on the replies so far...that worry seems really insignificant. I think I'll be staying stealth. Hopefully they'll just accept the mild oddness. What should I say if someone asks why I'm in a girls' hall. I mean...I can always say I guess it was a mix-up, but would it be appropriate to out myself as gay, to allay any discomfort they might have about the situation? Y'know..."Don't worry, I don't like girls that way" or something vague like that? I'd only bring it up if girls seemed confused or worried during the meeting..

Just say you're gay and act(?) really flamboyant so the girls will all be like, oooh yay, a fun gay guy!

Haha...good idea. I'm not really flamboyant, but I can ham it up a bit for them. I think I can be obviously boy-loving without being obnoxious. I mean...it's fun to let out my inner queen sometimes. I'll be me, plus an extra pinch of sparkles. -grin-

Michael honey,

If i am reading the post right you are in the girls dorm?  If that is correct you might want to stay stealth until you can get to the guys dorm.  But it is your choice, you need to do what will keep you safe and here with your family.

Love,

Janet

QuoteHaha...good idea. I'm not really flamboyant, but I can ham it up a bit for them. I think I can be obviously boy-loving without being obnoxious. I mean...it's fun to let out my inner queen sometimes. I'll be me, plus an extra pinch of sparkles. -grin-

QuoteIf i am reading the post right you are in the girls dorm?  If that is correct you might want to stay stealth until you can get to the guys dorm.  But it is your choice, you need to do what will keep you safe and here with your family.

It depends what sort of people they are and how well you know them. Probably safer to find out what everyone's like before completely and irreversibly decloseting yourself.

Though, having said that, being the Dorm Queen could be fun...

Quote from: gravitysrainbow on August 24, 2008, 10:14:24 PMI'm just afraid people will be like, "Omg wtf, guy in a girls' hall?" and get confused and weirded out. But based on the replies so far...that worry seems really insignificant. I think I'll be staying stealth. Hopefully they'll just accept the mild oddness. What should I say if someone asks why I'm in a girls' hall. I mean...I can always say I guess it was a mix-up, but would it be appropriate to out myself as gay, to allay any discomfort they might have about the situation? Y'know..."Don't worry, I don't like girls that way" or something vague like that? I'd only bring it up if girls seemed confused or worried during the meeting..

You're not allowed to go to the guy's hall? Why is that?

My PE teacher (and I'm in college, mind you) told me it's my choice which locker rooms I use and which bathrooms I use. There's no rule against it as long as I understand the risks involved. I doubt guys would want to rape me if they found out I was biologically female... And heck, if it happened, it would suck, but I've been molested before and well... I'm kind of used to the idea. :/

If I was FORCED to go into a girl's hall, I'd have to come out. Let them know that I identify as male, but that I am still part of the sisterhood because we share the same parts. Girls handle it much better than guys do, in my experience.

Posted on: August 25, 2008, 09:53:27 AM

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I personally would avoid a guy's dorm because guy's pull the weirdest ->-bleeped-<- on each other. Like pantsing each other. They'd find out right away that my dick isn't real. >_>;;

If their first impressions is male, they will likely still see you as male. So introduce yourself and if anyone so much as blinks just say your a guy. As you get to know people make the choice with each person how out you want to be. No I don't think it is needed to stand up at your first floor meeting and out yourself as either gay or trans. Most people would think that strange. If you want to be the dorm queen go ahead.

In a few weeks most will see you as one of the guys and that is harder to change then create.

->-bleeped-<-boy