You player! XD

My social life is basically taken up with school (I do love it though btw) but there aren't a huge amount of girls in the animation industry and any that I am interested in are either in a relationship already or don't look like the open-minded type.

I'm more attracted to queer women primarily, and there's maybe three bi-sexual girls at my school? One is ruled out because of some crap that happened last year, the other two are mates and one is in a relationship... the other... I'd be keen to get with her so that I could finally just have a relationship lol, but I really do like her. She's really awesome... I get so insecure about how people would see me if I did get into one though (would they tease me? Be lewd about it, put me on the spot?) Its really hard to let people in on a personal and emotional level, not to mention I wouldn't want to affect our friendship if the relationship didn't last.

I get jealous of straight people... they have it SO FRIGGIN EASY.

Not much of a "player" at all. I was when I was younger 14-18, more so because I was so uncomfortable with myself. And still struggle with that to this day. T is helping that confidence though, no doubt. The hardest thing for me, is feeling the girl I'm seeing sees me 100% nothing more than male. I need to TRUST that, and it's hard at times, but you just have to go with your gut.
As far as worrying about what OTHER people think, it's a waste of time. The only thing that really matters, is that you, and your SO have an understanding of what/who you are together.

I need to meet the people youre meetin...

Bloody Hell. Since I've been a full time male, I've got 2 girls that have a crush on me.

I've NEVER had even ONE person be interested in me.
One girl actually told me she loved me. We've been friends for a long time though (like 4 or 5 years). I'm worried that if I pursued things with her that it'd ruin our friendship. She IS amazing, though. Maybe we'll see... I might have a serious talk with her about it some time... I don't know what "true love" feels like, but I do know my bond with her is strong. I was the only person who came to see her after her surgery (it wasn't SRS or anything, she's a cisgirl)... And in her times of need I was there for her. That's a lot of dedication I have no explanation for... She's bi, but she completely respects my gender identity. In fact, she is the only person I can say truly sees me as a man. She says when she met me she was certain I was a boy, even though I had long hair. She said what decided it for her was my name. But when I came out to her as trans, she said something like, "It's hardly even a change for me, considering I've pretty much seen you as a guy this whole time." That felt really good. At least someone in the world really sees me how I see me...

The other girl that likes me is a lesbian/bisexual. She... mostly likes girls. Yesterday she texted to me: i have to confession i have a crush on u do u have one on me?
I've known her for maybe a month. And no, I don't really crush on her. She's smart, silly, and adventurous. She's quite rebellious, in fact. She might even be a little dangerous. But that's not why I don't crush on her. Crushes are well, a feeling you get. I just don't have that feeling. In fact, I am often apprehensive around her because I'm afraid she'll jump me. She was the girl that recently gave me my first kiss. I think she's moving way too quickly and that's very uncomfortable for me. Also, she's unusually interested in the fact that I am trans. She did ask me if I wanted to be called a man and I told her, "Of course. That's what I'm going for, right?" She respects that part. But she might be interested in the "taboo" of dating a transman. I'm pre-op and I still have boobs. She's noticed my boobs (when we hugged) and has said numerous times how much she loves boobs (in general). I just can't help but feel like she belongs with a girl. You know?

So I'm pretty conflicted... I don't exactly feel ready to date, especially not someone who really likes girls. My friend... the only reason I'm scared of being with her is because I've always been her protector. Her family has never even thought we'd have anything romantic going on... although, I think they'd be quite comfortable with it. It's just... she lives 500 miles away, in my hometown in Southern California. I don't want to make her committed to a long distance relationship. I'll be up her for the rest of the fall and probably the spring, too.

Rock on, Elwood! Thats great to hear!

It sure is a nice feeling isn't it? I haven't had someone admit they had a crush on me for a few years until two-three months ago and I forgot how good it can make you feel. Even if you don't feel the same way, its nice to know you're desirable.

You're not ready yet, but I think the first girl is someone who you should keep your eye on. The second one sounds a little too fishy to me... but I'd say take your time. Its not something you want to rush into but I'm sure you know that much.
Its important to find someone who can understand you, especially with dealing and accepting you being trans... but you have to make sure your heart is in it because you wouldn't want to just be with someone only because they accept you.

Yeah. I was like, "Wow, I really am more successful when I'm being MYSELF."

People always say you'll only be liked if you're genuine. For the first time in my life, I am being genuine.

And that last sentence; that's what I'm a little worried about. That I might want to be with my friend because she accepts me. I don't want that to be the case...

I thought you liked men...And these two girls arent the only girls who have ever liked you, there just the ones who have vocalizied it.

meh.. thats all I can say on this subject..

a while ago when i was figuring all of this out i was like... eh... screw it.  i didnt really feel like i wanted someone at that time because i was having personal issues with my transness.  now that ive got it all figured out, i really miss dating people! 

Quote from: Jack Daniels on August 27, 2008, 02:52:31 PMI thought you liked men...And these two girls arent the only girls who have ever liked you, there just the ones who have vocalizied it.

I do like men. But I feel like their unobtainable. Plus, I like the men I dream about. I've never really met a guy who was decent enough to really enjoy spending time with. I like their bodies, I like them sexually, but we lack chemistry. At least all of the guys I've met.

So then...who do you actually like more? Girls cause they "more obtainable" and chemistry existence, or guys cause theyre sexually attracting

Quote from: Elwood on August 24, 2008, 05:00:45 PM
In my experience, it's harder for transguys to date gay men (that aren't also trans).

That's a stereotype that's gone around quite a bit in the trans community. I haven't experienced it. Maybe pre-T FTMs experience discrimination from gay guys more than post-T, but the gay men I've been with (as well as gay male friends I've had) have been very understanding and have treated me completely as a guy.

Even more surprising, the sex was comfortable and without awkwardness. I've heard from a lot of FTMs that they miss spontaneous sex -- sexual relations without a lot of explaining, exploring, and rejection. Truth is, gay men are very likely to be experienced with queer bodies and to have known transpeople. So I was able to experience gay sexuality without all the baggage that (stereotypically) comes with being trans. So, anyway, give gay men a try. They'll surprise you.

Quote from: Jack Daniels on August 29, 2008, 11:45:59 PMSo then...who do you actually like more? Girls cause they "more obtainable" and chemistry existence, or guys cause theyre sexually attracting

Men turn me on. Girls not as much. Girls, however, give me the emotional side of things that I need. Guys for some reason don't seem to be that sensitive, even the gay ones. I did meet one gay guy who is quite sensitive, but he has a bit of a stigma towards the fact that I have a female body and no penis. I don't want a straight man who sees me as a masculine woman.

Quote from: Andrew on August 29, 2008, 11:49:37 PM

Quote from: Elwood on August 24, 2008, 05:00:45 PMIn my experience, it's harder for transguys to date gay men (that aren't also trans).

That's a stereotype that's gone around quite a bit in the trans community. I haven't experienced it. Maybe pre-T FTMs experience discrimination from gay guys more than post-T, but the gay men I've been with (as well as gay male friends I've had) have been very understanding and have treated me completely as a guy.

Even more surprising, the sex was comfortable and without awkwardness. I've heard from a lot of FTMs that they miss spontaneous sex -- sexual relations without a lot of explaining, exploring, and rejection. Truth is, gay men are very likely to be experienced with queer bodies and to have known transpeople. So I was able to experience gay sexuality without all the baggage that (stereotypically) comes with being trans. So, anyway, give gay men a try. They'll surprise you.

It's the experience that I'm having... Maybe post-T my experience will change. I really hope so.

So they don't want anything to do with my vagina? I hope so.