Quote from: jan c on June 08, 2006, 10:06:55 AMIt's a psychotherapist term. I don't have those sorts of problems. I am me. I know what that is. It's not so complex as all this stuff, it really isn't. I lean a little far to the right to be considered on the left. I don't need to consolidate my tendency towards right-handedness, and while I prefer the left hand for some functions, it is true, no split there.
Well said!
And this is why I think my therapist (apart from preserving her income) is hesitant in handing me a letter - I don't ACT the part. She herself transitioned after a life-long history of persistent crossdressing, including apparently an obsession with wearing panties, buying panties, and hanging out in panty sections of department stores (stories of security escorting her out). I think I counfound her... I don't fit into her expectations based on HER experiences.
I mean OK, my hair is a bit long (growing it out 'cuz I want longer hair) and coloured (hated the grays), my beard is almost gone (lasering it off because I hate it), my eyebrows are shaped a bit (who wants a monobrow anyway?)...
But I otherwise show up for therapy in guy's street clothes (society still pegs me into the male box, so why make a fuss? Clothes cover your skin - they don't make you female), wearing men's underwear (panties don't control my lower parts or turn me on, so...?), speaking in a semi-male voice (I'm working on it, but why do I need to fake a voice anyway?), I don't insist on a female name or pronouns (all secondary, social conveniences - I'm still me regardless of what you call me)...
And heck, I bet there are those reading this who are now wondering about my TSism, too, lol.
So I suppose my "consildation of gender identity" isn't going very well in her eyes. But for me, it's ALL about being *female*, physically. Those other things are largely a RESULT of that, not a means to it.