Quote from: Nero on September 07, 2008, 05:04:37 PM
I can relate to that somewhat. Not just with managers but with people in general. They come at me one way but in just a short time talking with me, they completely change the way they speak to me. Most of them anyhow. And then there's the ones who can't figure me out, so they steer clear after talking with me once or twice. I tend to make managers feel awkward and they then speak very formally with me.
This has also kind of been my experience. Male managers especially don't know how to take me and what usually happens with them are awkward, professional level interactions. I can tell that they sense something is different about me, but they can't exactly put their finger on it
I'm never "one of the boys", and I don't really want to be. For some reason I can usually get along fine with the female managers.
I can't stand arrogant managers, idiotic managers, narcissistic managers, managers possessing book knowledge and a degree but not having any real life experience (ie: know it alls), short-time managers, and managers with apparent hearing issues (as in they don't listen to their people). And there seems to be plenty of these kinds around. I've only worked for a few managers that i've really admired and respected.
The mark of a good manager is that he has gained enough respect to lead his people instead of having to resport to fear and intimidation to drive them. The fear/intimidation model is easier, the respect model is a lot harder.