Anyone else here feel that it's just "safer" to go after bisexuals/heteroflexibles?

To be honest, I do. I don't have enough faith in humanity to believe that a straight girl would accept me as is. Of course I hope she would, and if I really liked her, I would go for it, but I tend to cross everyone off my list of possible partners unless they're bisexual.

yeah, I've only ever been with bi women. bi men are ok too, but the ones i've been with seemed to lack something i like in straight men. now what that is, i don't know. maybe it's because the bisexual men i was with were heavily into the gay male scene.
i'm a lot more attracted to hetro men for some reason which obviously will present problems after transition.

i think i'd rather be with a bi female than straight because i think maybe she'd be more open sexually with me. i like a lot of genital action and i doubt a straight girl would be comfortable enough with that for my taste.

I agree with you about it being 'safer'...

...but, i feel kinda weird about the idea of it.  If i went out with a straight man (or lesbian) then i'd know that they we're completely accepting of my gender.  but they'd always be that doubt when dating somebody who was bisexual about whether in their mind they were dating me genuinely as a female or if they had feelings about my genitalia (i'm pre-op).  And it'd freak me out to know that they were attracted to that what lives downstairs!

Though i do feel bad that bisexuality might be an issue for me.

Quote from: jenny_ on September 28, 2008, 04:19:25 PM
I agree with you about it being 'safer'...

...but, i feel kinda weird about the idea of it.  If i went out with a straight man (or lesbian) then i'd know that they we're completely accepting of my gender.  but they'd always be that doubt when dating somebody who was bisexual about whether in their mind they were dating me genuinely as a female or if they had feelings about my genitalia (i'm pre-op).  And it'd freak me out to know that they were attracted to that what lives downstairs!

Though i do feel bad that bisexuality might be an issue for me.

My thoughs exactly, there would always be that doubt.
Can win really lol

i lost my virginity to a bisexual guy

Oddly enough, I tend to attract guys who are "bisexual" but not really. That is, they're mostly gay, but they call themselves bisexual because they have a certain curiosity about women. I dunno -- maybe a lot of gay guys are like that. It's good to be with someone who is open to both genders. Easier, I guess.

I never thought dating would be this easy. I'm gaining an enormous appreciation for gay guys.

I dunno,
I married a lesbian.   
Who kinda likes Vin Desil... ( I kinda do too )
-Sara

i work at a lgbt strip club and i can tell you that gay guys are not at all interested in me, only straight and bi guys

Quote from: BridgetBby on October 15, 2008, 04:07:24 PM
i work at a lgbt strip club and i can tell you that gay guys are not at all interested in me, only straight and bi guys

Yay go you, thats always a great boost to confidence.

I think that feeling's not uncommon at all. I'm androgyne and pansexual, so personally I'm flexible all around. But I find that a lot of lesbians don't like to date bisexuals. Which I'm technically not, but I can see how some people might see me as one. I think some straight guys would have a problem with the fact that I half want to be a guy, and wear mostly guys' clothes too. That or they just don't see me as someone they would be interested in. A slight problem since most guys I like tend to be straight, but hey it's their loss. Most girls I like tend to be bi, so I guess it's ok there. In the end, as long as you find someone who can accept you for you, and love you for you, who cares what orientation they are?

My Partner is BI.  She always saw me as a woman and was was just a little weirded out by the pre-op me.  Not much, just that there were parts of me that were inconsistant with who she thought / felt I was.

Beni

Personally I am predominantly attracted to gay guys since that is what I identify with.  But by identifying with that I am obviously attracted to guys in all their forms gay/ bi/ straight whatever.
it's just that if I could choose I wuld choose to have a relationship with a 100% gay guy as it really would be a whole lot easier.
And I should know, my partner is a bi guy and it has caused huge problems between us especially as i am a trans guy.
If I didn't have such strong feelings for him it really wouldn't be worth the headf**k at times.  But we have been together for almost a decade and have really built a relationship together.