Oye, this can be annoying and really downsizing emotionally. Ever try to show a more feminine behavior, only to get weird reactions and such? It is sooo annoying, I just would like someone to realize my personality a little more without reacting like whatever and lets move on. I wonder if that's why I'm usually so cold, and stuff.

Girls generally seem more polite, and I like to emulate that behavior, but feel like a fake when doing it. They still treat me like I'm a guy and that discourages it. I could easily fall back to the guy talk, but don't want to. I feel like a girl that should also be allowed to do it.

....can anyone relate to this?

Quote from: findingreason on November 18, 2008, 11:13:47 PM

Girls generally seem more polite, and I like to emulate that behavior, but feel like a fake when doing it. They still treat me like I'm a guy and that discourages it. I could easily fall back to the guy talk, but don't want to. I feel like a girl that should also be allowed to do it.

....can anyone relate to this?

Being polite is a basic human behavior that all people should try to emulate regardless of gender.

As a female I would run away from a gentleman suitor if he is inpolite to people, because I know it won't be long before he is not polite to me.

I think I know what you mean. I think you're running right into some of those subtle gender role expectations that are far more pervasive than most people realize... at least until they try to cross the boundary.

If you dress and present as a woman (especially a passable woman) people have an entirely different set of social expectations from you, even though all the rest might be the same. When a man starts acting according to the expectations of a female role it tends to make other people very uncomfortable. (The same applies to FTM folks too, of course.)

I think this is one of the reasons TS folks place such a premium on passing. They don't want to have to fight this battle. They just want to be accepted in the normal way any other woman would be.

No easy answers for you here, but you're certainly not alone in being frustrated by this.

I can completely understand your frustration.

Cissexual people (people whose subconscious and physical sex are in complete harmony) by definition never experience our disphoria.  So any perceived attempt by a person they see as physically male,to behave, talk, or act in a manner thought to be the 'natural' preserve females will cause bafflement and often anger.  Because cissexual men and women have absolutely no desire to be thought of as a member of the opposite sex, let alone do anything to physically feminise/masculinise their bodies, transsexuality makes them very uncomfortable.   
   

Just be yourself. Act the way that makes you feel most comfortable. Being feminine and girly when that is not your nature to act that way won't make the people around you comfortable, acting how you do naturally will.

I am fully and 100% accepted by my female peers and the way I act is far from the stereotypical "cordial" female behaviors.