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Preparing yourself to accept your sexual role.

Started by Candygirl, December 17, 2008, 01:53:19 PM

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soldierjane

Quote from: Alyssa M. on December 18, 2008, 03:15:58 PM
I'm very confused by that too ... I'm not trying to transition from male to Schlafly.

Maybe Amanda is reacting to Janice Raymond and her ilk? >:(

Maybe she doesn't believe in feminism. There's a group of women who see feminism as unnatural, believe in patriarchy and are cozy being confined to a support role. I even met a girl once that thought the paragon of womanhood was being the power behind the (male) throne.
I think her argument to being a feminist TS being odd actually comes from the Raymond side or that second-wave extremism that treats the genetic female body as the source of all feminism.

For the record, I think that last position is a misunderstanding of the intent of feminism.
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Lisbeth

From my limited experience, the gender of my partner is not important to me (but then I'm bisexual). The main differences are not even genital, though those are differences. The main difference between an MtF transsexual and a GG is waking up with someone who has a scratchy face (a difference I don't mind). The main difference between an MtF transsexual and a GM is if the GM is awake, he wants sex (again, a difference I don't mind). I have no experience with FtMs.
"Anyone who attempts to play the 'real transsexual' card should be summarily dismissed, as they are merely engaging in name calling rather than serious debate."
--Julia Serano

http://juliaserano.blogspot.com/2011/09/transsexual-versus-transgender.html
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Rachael

Oh god yes! ill never understand how my boyfriend is so thirsty for sexual gratification... if hes awake, hes groping/stroking/ pawing at me... i swear he never gets tired of sex or foreplay... its a bit tiring at times... especially those times when you just dont want to be touched... you know?
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Lisbeth

I kind of feel like having a TS partner gives me the best of both worlds.
"Anyone who attempts to play the 'real transsexual' card should be summarily dismissed, as they are merely engaging in name calling rather than serious debate."
--Julia Serano

http://juliaserano.blogspot.com/2011/09/transsexual-versus-transgender.html
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Rachael

i like certain male attributes too much to want a f2m guy... Plus my main requirement  of the guy to be over 5'10... my hight... cuts most out.  Plus two transsexuals in one relationship = one hell of a lot of issues and lolocausts...
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Alyssa M.

All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.

   - Anatole France
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Rachael

Thanks but no thanks ;) I have my man, and im not swapping him out anytime soon.
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Vexing

Quote from: Starbuck on December 31, 2008, 02:17:16 PM
Plus two transsexuals in one relationship = one hell of a lot of issues and lolocausts...
No.
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cindybc

Hi Starbuck hon I should pray that you be happy with your guy, If he treats you good, hang on to him. they are priceless. ;D

Cindy
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Rachael

Quote from: Vexing on January 01, 2009, 05:57:58 AM
Quote from: Starbuck on December 31, 2008, 02:17:16 PM
Plus two transsexuals in one relationship = one hell of a lot of issues and lolocausts...
No.
Lovely explanation...

Have you seen what transgender issues can do in a relationship where ther is pne transperson? two = double the issues, double the difficulty... dont try and suggest that two transpeople would be perfect match... it can work... afterall we are all people, but id never do that personally because all i can see is it being very very messed up.
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cindybc

I see where you are coming from with that statement Srarbuck but every now and again one gets a winner. I have never had  a better relation ship before in my life then I do with Wing Walker. And I also know at least another couple TS here that are sharing their lives together and really care and love one another. I can only pray for the happiness and love they deserve for those who are TS that they find an equally caring and loving partner whether it be another TS or cisgender man or woman.

Cindy   
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postoplesbian

#71
Quote from: Rene' aka candygirl on December 17, 2008, 01:53:19 PM

I finally decided, that in order for me to live in my new gender role, it would be easier if I was in a traditional relationship with the opposite sex.

Sounds like you compromised who you are just to fit in.... I rather be single than to do that. 







post edited to remove graphic details tht seemed inappropriate for this site. -- Nichole
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cindybc

My first relationship when I was 15 was a boy, but never got as far as the physical sex. I think I could have easily accepted a male for a partner back then if ahemmm, circumstances had been right. I had to women partners and in both cases it was a disaster looking for a place to happen. Finally I settled for a M-F trans and as far as I'm concerned I have not had anyone else treat me like she does. In other relationships for many years I was treated like I was low life. In my present relationship I don't remember anyone treating me like I was actually human.

Cindy 
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aubrey

I love how ppl try to justify their beliefs/feelings when there is no logic to it, you like what you like, you want what you want.

Random:

QuoteThe main difference between an MtF transsexual and a GG is waking up with someone who has a scratchy face (a difference I don't mind). The main difference between an MtF transsexual and a GM is if the GM is awake, he wants sex (again, a difference I don't mind).
Really now....you honestly think those are the main differences? LOL

QuoteHave you seen what transgender issues can do in a relationship where ther is pne transperson? two = double the issues, double the difficulty... dont try and suggest that two transpeople would be perfect match... it can work... afterall we are all people, but id never do that personally because all i can see is it being very very messed up.
....and yet ppl do exactly that quite often. I don't get it either but they do.
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QuoteI finally decided, that in order for me to live in my new gender role, it would be easier if I was in a traditional relationship with the opposite sex.
I'm guessing you already wanted that and the explanation came later.
QuoteI would CONSIDER being with a male if they had their testes removed
That's because you're L.

I don't understand wanting to be with a woman, or being bi, or liking TS because.....I like boys.
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Rachael

Does a man without testies suddenly become not male?

ROFL
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NicholeW.

Quote from: Starbuck on January 01, 2009, 12:17:14 PM
Does a man without testies suddenly become not male?

ROFL

Not without some other re-conditioning of expectations and social normalizing! :)
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Alyssa M.

Quote from: Starbuck on January 01, 2009, 03:52:16 AM
Thanks but no thanks ;) I have my man, and im not swapping him out anytime soon.

Umm... I don't think they're looking for any 3-ways of 4-ways. They're just a funny and evidently non-issue-ridden trans couple. Not the only one out there by far. It takes all kinds. ;)

Quote from: Starbuck on January 01, 2009, 12:17:14 PM
Does a man without testes suddenly become not male?

Two words: Jake Barnes. :P
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.

   - Anatole France
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Rosa

Me, I see myself as a Lesbian, Yes, I am a transgendered female, even though I am sexualy attracted to females. So I guess that i makes me a trans-lesbian.  I want nothing to do with men or boys, my dad is a pain in the ass, an my mother dosent ever want to see me as the Girl I tuly am. the 2 of them think tha I am sme sick perverted sinner. I just want to be the womn that I know nature cheated me out of.
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postoplesbian

Quote from: Rosa on January 01, 2009, 02:23:42 PM
Me, I see myself as a Lesbian, Yes, I am a transgendered female, even though I am sexualy attracted to females. So I guess that i makes me a trans-lesbian.  I want nothing to do with men or boys, my dad is a pain in the ass, an my mother dosent ever want to see me as the Girl I tuly am. the 2 of them think tha I am sme sick perverted sinner. I just want to be the womn that I know nature cheated me out of.

WELCOME ROSA    ;D ;D
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Vexing

Quote from: Starbuck on January 01, 2009, 07:48:17 AM
Have you seen what transgender issues can do in a relationship where ther is pne transperson?
Having issues is not restricted to trans people.

Quotetwo = double the issues, double the difficulty... dont try and suggest that two transpeople would be perfect match... it can work... afterall we are all people, but id never do that personally because all i can see is it being very very messed up.
Again, two people means double the issues, regardless of whether or not they are trans.
Don't try and suggest two people would be a perfect match.
Until you have been in a relationship with another trans person, you are not qualified to comment; you're only spouting uniformed opinion.
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