Hi everyone I'm new here sort of! I've been reading this board for about 5 months now, and have had a logon for a couple of months just trying to get enough courage to post.  I sitting here in my nightgown with a glass of wine trying to relax,and get through this.
I've know that something was wrong since grade school when I felt comfortable hanging with the girls on the play ground instead of the boys. When I  was about 6 or 7 I use to go to my "girlfriends" house where we would go to her basement  and she would let me dress up in here dresses, and I would feel very special. My mother could never understand why I like to dress up as a girl each halloween !
That was back in the 60's and was scared to come out to anyone, because , well this was just not sometime you told anyone back then. (although I think my mom really did know something as she caught me a couple time with my sister trying on her clothes. she just told me to make sure I got them off before my father got home) As I got older I just hid me feeling and did the right thing as to not embarrss my family. I ve now been married for some xx years, and finally came out to my wife last year. At first she was did not understand, but was not mad, we talked off and on about why, for quite some time, and after she talk to someone else (she would let me know who), and she read a couple of books she said she thought she understood, and love enough to work through this, however she asked me at this point to keep it our secret, and not yet say anything to our kids. which I agreed.  In fact she comfortable enough that we go out shopping together and she surprised me by buying the nightgown I'm wearing now, and last week a new skirt. She also told me my leg looked great when they are shaved and told me she prefers  them that way! However she did say that we need to take it one step at a time and if I decide to see a therapist she like to be involved at some point.
Well I think I've posted enough for now and the wines running out ! so thank for letting me post.
Jamie

Hi Jamie Lee:

welcome to Susans.  I'm sure you'll enjoy this site very much.



tinkerbell


P.S.  You are not related to Tony Curtis, are you?

Welcome, Jamie Lee, to Susan's!

Your story is very similar to mine.  I grew up in the 60's and liked wearing female clothes then too.  I'm married now for the second time and I told my wife about a year ago that I was not just a cross dressr (she knew about that before we married but never participated).  She reacted badly, mostly because of the foolish way I came out to her and she's still with me, not very comfortable with the changes that are happening but remaining committed to our relationship.

I started therapy with a gender specialiizing therapist six months ago.  My wife and I attended the last three sessions together.  It has helped us a great deal.  My therapist has very recently promised to refer me to an endocrinologist in order to begin HRT and she is still with me  .  I'm glad I found a therapist that specializes in gender problems because I'm not sure these good results would have occurred if I hadn't.

I'm so happy that you decided tp participate and post here.  I lurked for many months before I began to post too.  If you've read alot here you'll know that you will get alot of friendship and support from a group of caring and intelligent individuals.  I'll be looking forward to reading more posts from you and am again happy to say,

WELCOME ! ! 
helen

Welcome to Susan's Jamie.

It's about time you got off your butt and took the plunge.  See the waters are not so bad and it's not even that deep   Glad you finally got your feet wet.  As you have been here for a few months now you obviously know your way around.  I would just ask the you read and abide by the rules that govern Susan's, and enjoy your stay.

Your story is similar to many here and you have already discovered the benefits of being honest and upfront with your wife.  Believe me honest two-way communication is probably the best advice that I and anyone else can give you right now, and as a next step you may want to introduce her to Susan's if you haven't already done so.  But don't rush her.

I'm sure that we'll chat later.

Steph

Quote from: jamie lee on July 07, 2006, 10:59:54 PM
`However she did say that we need to take it one step at a time and if I decide to see a therapist she like to be involved at some point.
Jamie

Two excellent points, Jamie.  You'd probably like to accelerate, and she is asking you to consider her and to let her catch up with you each step you take.

And a therapist is definitely needed to help you sort through everything.

Best wishes.

Robyn, 6 years postop

Thanks for the warm welcome ! and no Tinkerbell no relation to Tony  ! I always like the name Jamie but it was taken when signing up, it was the first name that came to me.
and yes Steph I know you were going to tell me to read the rules, so I did that again before I posted.
Everyone seem great and I'll be back for more !
Jamie

Hi welcome Jamie,

Its good to see you two are talking through it. A therapist sounds like the next step, and its good she is willing to get involved. She admited that this is a step coming up so fully accepts, and has a feeling it will happen. I think she has other fears and concerns that only talking to a therapist will help resolve or work through.

Jamie,
It good to meet you. I've been wondering who was lerking around this site.
Glad your wife seem to be accepting the real you.
I'll add my welcome to all the others.

Jillieann

Welcome Jamie,
Im glad you decided to venture out of the shadows. Anddecided to join us, come on hun, have a set and relax and have fum. See we dont bite!! We all are a friendly bunch and as well as helpful.

Welcome Janie.  Nothing to be embarrassed about.

Melissa