Quote from: Stephanie Craxford on July 06, 2006, 11:03:47 PM
Cause believe me they will be watching for you to falter.

Ahhh, now I'm really freaked out.  What if I mess up?  Oh great.  Oh wait, I just remembered something.  I'm about to finish a piece of software that everyone is anxiously anticipating, so hopefully that will override my big news.  In fact my manager was saying that if I get it done I'll be the hero, to which I replied "I could really use that right now" and he smiled.

Melissa

Melissa! Stop thinking the worst!

When I told the workplace, knowing I had the support of management, I had 3 secretaries come into my office, one by one, crying and telling me how brave I was. Then I got hauled out for beer by the guys. Over the next few days I had emails from virtually everyone at the office. And I was as stressed as you are. The people who didn't talk to me or email me within the first few days have turned out to be supportive but shy.

It'll be fine hun, if not all at once right away, then over time.

Dennis

Hi Melissa:

I'm so excited for you.  Wish you the best of luck!!!!
Some thoughts for the road...................

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did.  So throw off the bowliness, sail away from the safe harbor.  Catch the trade winds in your sails.  Explore.  Dream"
                             Mark Twain


"Any fact facing us is not as important as our attitude toward it, for that determines our success or failure"                             
                             Norman Vincent Peale




tinkerbell
                             

Quote from: Dennis on July 06, 2006, 11:27:21 PM
Melissa! Stop thinking the worst!

When I told the workplace, knowing I had the support of management, I had 3 secretaries come into my office, one by one, crying and telling me how brave I was. Then I got hauled out for beer by the guys. Over the next few days I had emails from virtually everyone at the office. And I was as stressed as you are. The people who didn't talk to me or email me within the first few days have turned out to be supportive but shy.

It'll be fine hun, if not all at once right away, then over time.

Dennis

Dennis, I sure hope you're right.  I would love to have a similar reaction.  I just can't help thinking the worst.  I guess that's part of being a woman.


Thanks Tink.  I like those quotes.  I tend to make up a lot of my own quotes, a couple of which I added into my signature.  Another thing, I felt the same way when I knew my manager was going to be told, so that's how I know how I'll feel tomorrow.  It did end up being just fine telling him though.

Melissa

Sending good thoughts your way!

2 hours to go.  My insides are convulsing.  I'm supposed to speak with the HR person first, but she's been in a meeting all morning.

Melissa

Quote from: Dennis on July 06, 2006, 11:27:21 PM
It'll be fine hun, if not all at once right away, then over time.

That's a great point, and remember that initial nervousness and uncomfortableness doesn't mean disapproval. It might take a few days to get into a social rythym again (though knowing you, probably about 30 seconds, lol), but it WILL happen. You'll be the "star" for a day, then everyone will go back to worrying about their kids, bills, fuel prices, etc.

You'll see

Ok, only a half hour to go.  I talked to the HR person finally and I'm feeling somewhat better. She helped me with my apprehension and said I could leave early if I felt like it.  I'm going to try and stick around anyways though.  I don't want to appear ashamed and if anybody wants to talk, they may feel more comfortable with me dressed as I am now.

Melissa

Quote from: Melissa on July 07, 2006, 12:59:20 PM
Ok, only a half hour to go.  I talked to the HR person finally and I'm feeling somewhat better. She helped me with my apprehension and said I could leave early if I felt like it.  I'm going to try and stick around anyways though.  I don't want to appear ashamed and if anybody wants to talk, they may feel more comfortable with me dressed as I am now.

At least you know you COULD leave, if you needed to... always nice to not feel "trapped."

I'm so proud of you MEW! (sorry, couldnt' resist)

Just remember when you're there that you KNOW we're all here for you, thinkin' about ya... wishing you well...

(and I'll send the faeries to pinch anyone who gets out of line)

Kate, I have to say that your avatar reflects well on the beauty of your personality.  Thank you very much.

Oh yeah, 10 minutes to go.

Melissa

Quote from: Melissa on July 07, 2006, 01:20:26 PM
Kate, I have to say that your avatar reflects well on the beauty of your personality.  Thank you very much.

Oh thanks, make ME cry why dontcha? Thank you...

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Oh yeah, 10 minutes to go.

This is more exciting than the space shuttle launch!!!

Not to make light of it... I know... I know... just want ya to hopefully leave with a laugh on your mind...

I think the whole forum will be overloading the bandwidth tonight clicking REFRESH, REFRESH... waiting for your report

Ok, now it's time for the sh*t to hit the fan.

Melissa

Hang in there Melissa... struggling out of an eggshell is never an easy task. ^*hug*

Ok, the first group has been told.  I find their lack of response disconcerting as it seems to show either ambivalence or apathy on their part.  Perhaps that's a good thing.

Melissa


Posted at: July 07, 2006, 11:47:24 AM

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Ok, wave #2 meeting is starting now.  So far so good.  One more after that.

Melissa

Melissa Emily!  I see you're online!  Come out her RIGHT NOW and tell us how it went so I can go to bed!

Karen

For results, look at the thread titled I'm Freeeeeeeeeeeee.

Melissa