Quote from: Mister on January 12, 2009, 04:12:06 PM
Quote from: je on January 12, 2009, 03:46:44 PM
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You looked like a girl to me in those pics.
Yea, I thought so too, but I didn't say anything because I think they are FTM. Even my little boy cousins who are between 12-15 (not sure) don't really look that femmy.
I'm sorry... I will shut up now and go back to hiding. 
Why would you withhold your opinion? it's amazing how much truth stretching and blatant dishonesty happens in "do i pass?" threads. b/c really, if you have to ask, you probably don't.
lying or exaggerating is a safety issue, people. you don't want to inflate some dude who still looks like a lady that he's The Best At Passing EVAR! b/c he could then get himself harassed, beaten or killed.
Wake up!
I think it's because on a support site, people may feel a bit awkward saying something negative, but that doesn't stop it from happening. Still, I think it's the fear that people don't really know the line and what they can really say or can't say. I agree, though, people should be honest and it not only goes for FTMs but for MTFs as well.
Though, about the "if you have to ask then you aren't." bit I'm not sure I can agree to it's entirety. After a few months of not seeing some friends from high school and then meeting up with them I heard them whisper, "Wow, even with long hair she still looks like a guy." and all of them agreeing. They thought I didn't hear and thought it was an insult but they couldn't be further from the truth. However, there are days where I think I pass and days when I don't. And just because I'm paranoid doesn't mean I pass or don't pass.
I do get what you mean, and perhaps I'm being a tad too picky.