My family all accepted me, however in an early conversation, my mother said that I must present male when visiting, and that she wouldn't use female pronouns for me, since I was her son. Over the years since then, we've had some truly amazing conversations about transgender. We have both made considerable effort to understand each other.

I lost some friends and colleagues because of my transition, and it still hurts deeply.

Z

That is wonderful that you have a female friend or two that are supportive and willing to help with some tips. I had two of the girls from my work who were close friends that rallied around me as well when I came out.

I remember at one time when the only time one heard about someone seeing a shrink, they were either rich or a movie star. Like you had to have status to see a shrink or more money then brains. These spoiled bratz went to see their shrink because they didn't know how to deal with a broken nail.

They laid down on this leather upholstered couch and the shrink sat on a straight back chair with a writing pad and pencil making notes. Always that one window to the right, I use to wonder if that window wasn't there for the suicidals.

Jeeeeees I think it would have been more fun sitting in a confessional listening to the same old sins over and over again then to be a shrink back then. Well, so it appeared to be when I was a little kid anyway. Back when we owned our first black and white TV.  "hee, hee, hee."

Cindy

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Hi Zethra you are most welcome to drop by and visit if you are ever in Vancouver sometime. 

Cindy

Quote from: cindybc on February 04, 2009, 12:49:10 PM
Hi Zethra you are most welcome to drop by and visit if you are ever in Vancouver sometime. 

Cindy

I look forward to that Cindy, I bet we'd be up half the night talking and laughing 

Z

I would enjoy that. I sometimes talk to much but no one seems to mind much.  I love telling stories, tall tales and real ones.

Cindy

I came out in November 2003.

QuoteWas it an outright violent rejection?

I expected the worst, but surprised a majority of my family supported me. Since my mother and brother weren't around, they couldn't say anything against that.

QuoteWhat are your plans that you think may reconcile you with your family?

My cousin and cousin-in-law, when I visit, ask me to dress andrognymously and the only feminine attire is wearing underwear.

QuoteWhat do you think that this time around this new attempt will allow them to reconsider the credibility and reality of your new gender?

I tell them--get used to it, [person's name].

QuoteHow did you accomplish a successful relationship with a boyfriend/girlfriend?

That wasn't a factor since I'm already in a relationship with my wife (Angela.) She doesn't mind that after the change, that she'll be a lesbian. Angela and I have been married after I graduated high school in May 2001.

Was it an outright violent rejection?   
Mom: Cried and said she would always hate this but love me regardless
Dad: Anger and lots of it, even after 8 months I'm still getting mixed messages from him
Sister: Hated it but now don't really care and talks to me ALOT more than what she did originally
Brother: Didn't care or so I thought, now he hates my guts or so it seems
Best Friend David: Knew what I was going to say before I even said it, wasn't surprised but was a bit confused at first, now he is just same old same old as though nothing has changed which really it hasn't I just went from Josh to Carolyn
Best Friend Damion: Didn't care at first (He was planning to kill himself at the end of 2008 so yea) Now he is my awesome boyfriend!
Friend James: Up and Down, even now but mostly up (He just wants to kick my ass one last time or so he thinks he can)
Friend Andrew: My Ex-Boyfriend now, mainly he is an ->-bleeped-<-, but for the most part he is back to his old self.

What are your plans that you think may reconcile you with your family?
Mom tries to help but for the most part I don't deal will my family anymore, just my mom and my sister I try not to be around my dad or brother.
What do you think that this time around this new attempt will allow them to reconsider the credibility and reality of your new gender?
Mom is still having a hard time but she doesn't use my old name as much.
Sister is just nicer to me in general
Brother and Dad I only talk to them if I'm kicking there asses in a Video Game (SSBB)
How did you handle or deal each situation that threatened your own well being and sanity when dealing with both your peers and family?
I have some training in Ninjutsu so I know how to defend myself or hide from someone if necessary, I also know have to use the art of deception, and I am very good at Stealth.

What positive steps do you take to assure your well being, like for example, jobs, school, relocating, making new friends, settling in and blending in, or as some call it,going stealth, as just another member of society?
I don't interact with mainstream society I am basically an outcast among outcasts and for being such people just tend to leave me alone

How did you accomplish a successful relationship with a boyfriend/girlfriend?
My boyfriend has been my friend for over 8 years before we started going out.