so yea I seriously dont know what people see me as but there is a possibility prob that people view me as a lesbian but i dont know and i guess it doesnt really bother me but its just not who i am but i cant pass very well prob 3% of the time lol but i will say when i do i am super super happy but anyways..

i was wondering if any of you guys have gotten mistaken for a lesbian at some point

Oh yeah.  I once had a boss react with undisguised shock when she found out I was interested in men.  "You?  Really?!"  lol

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Early in transition I went from being seen as a regular woman, to a butch dyke, and now 7 months on T pretty much 100% male.

I didn't like the dyke stage very much, though it was a step in the right direction (more androgynous than womanly).

Jay

My friends and I at high school went through a stage of not knowing "what" I was - it was pretty obvious to all of us that I wasn't like the "normal" girls in our group, but because we'd never come across any "non-mainstream" label other than asexual, that was the term that got thrown around a lot, simply 'cause it was the only one we had (and therefore didn't know there were more out there). I seem to remember talking about whether I was a lesbian or not, but we figured out I probably wasn't.

But actually mistaken for a lesbian? No, I don't remember that ever happening. Or not that anyone ever said to my face, anyway...

My moms think I'm a lesbian despite the fact that I don't identify with that label, never have, and never will.

When we are out together, my transguy friends and I are routinely referred to with female pronouns. In restaurants, the wait staff frequently calls one or another of us "hon," which could be gender neutral. But the one that drives me nuts is "ladies." I would guess that we are being read as lesbians, yes.

At the moment, only one of the guys in my group has been on T for any length of time (I just started), and I suppose he could be seen as a really, really butch woman with a deep voice. I think he passes poorly when he's with us--not because he doesn't pass but because he hasn't had top surgery yet and because it's pretty clear that all the rest of us are female-bodied.

Sometimes I take a step back and think about it. I'm not into girls AT ALL and was embarrassed to be seen picking up a lesbian magazine that had a trans feature that week. And yet I'm probably seen as a lesbian by many people.

I try not to let it bother me, but I have to admit that it's harder now that I've started T. I tell myself that I know who and what I am, regardless of what others think. I could go around telling people that I'm NOT a lesbian, but I don't think that would be very effective. Even if people read me as a dyke, I'm so much happier and more comfortable than I have felt in years that I can't complain too much.

Still, I wonder what people think when I refer to my partner with male pronouns. I guess they think I'm either a lying lesbian or a very butch hetero woman...but I never bothered to ask.

Well, my voice will drop in a couple of months, and then people won't know HOW to read me. That's going to be weird.

My final year of High School there was a rumour, just before we graduated that I was a lesbian because no one had ever seen me with a boyfriend. 

If they knew the truth, they probably would think I'm a lesbian but the fact that it was because I had never had a visible relationship to them apparently means that I am? It was interesting.

Not anymore. Used to before I started T, but not anymore now! w00t!

Yup, definitely .

Though someone once told me that I was too "earthy" or "down to earth" to be a lesbian... not sure what that means, exactly...  At that time, I was trying my hardest to convince myself I was a lesbian, because that's what most people assumed me to be and I knew 'straight girl' wasn't an appropriate label (I thought I had only two options: feminine straight girl or masculine-ish lesbian--yep, sheltered life).  I'm fairly certain anyone who interprets me as female and sees my hair as it is now is gonna assume I'm a lesbian (I'm in kind of a conservative area, and a female with a traditionally male haircut wearing clothes from the mens' department is gonna be interpreted as a butch lesbian... sucky, but it's just how it is).

yes. but only when i have a crew cut or my hair otherwise too short. i like my hair on the longish side (past my ears  ), and then i'm not seen as a dyke.

No. I either pass, or people just really can't tell.

I used to before I started T.

yep.  i used to all of the time.  people (including my therapist) were/are genuinely surprised to learn that i prefer guys most of the time.

All my friends 'joke' with me about it, since they would never come to the conclusion of transgender, even though they know what it means.

Not anymore.

When I was in high school, no one thought I was anything but very straight... because my parents are pretty much bible-thumping homophobic bigots, I made a point of it to date as many guys as possible, so no one would ever suspect anything. I succeeded, despite having absolutely no interest in guys. Of course, the vast majority of people at my high school had no idea I had already come out as bi to my best friends.

At the first college I went to, straight out of high school, about half of people figured I was gay. I never said it outright, but the first couple girls I kissed went to that school, and I'm sure people heard about them... the first was pretty public.

I never wanted to be seen as gay, though. Or, rather, I never wanted to be seen as a lesbian. I started feeling that I might be trans when I was 18, but I didn't think then that I could do anything about it. Gradually, I tried my best to reconcile myself to the thought I was probably a lesbian. It never felt right, though.

I started identifying as one when I was 22... but I only ever told people I was "gay." It sounded better than "lesbian", since I definitely didn't see myself as a chick who liked chicks. The funny thing is, every lesbian I met told me I wasn't a lesbian. Maybe they saw something in me I couldn't even see.

It's been at least a year since anyone assumed I was gay... now I'm just a guy. It's hilarious, because since T, I've actually been attracted to guys. Guess I never was even a shred of a lesbian.

SD

Yes - Often

Not only do people often mistake me for a lesbian, but they try to force me into being one.  "Are you sure you're trans?  Maybe your'e just a butch lesbian."  The problem is, I'm pretty effeminate for a dude and I'm pansexual.  Yeah, so I'm not a lesbian at all... but I'm assuming that's what most people think I am.  It's annoying as hell.

Also, if I'm getting away with anything, if I'm in a place where I have to show my ID, that usually ruins the idea because my ID is old and I definitely look female in it, so it looks like I've "butched up" or something since my picture.  If I'm at college people automatically assume I'm a butch lesbian/female because I'm probably within a certain age group, whereas in the rest of my city I get mistaken for a young boy whose voice hasn't dropped yet.  It depends.

Yeah, pretty much my entire life until recently. I've been on T long enough that I've just crossed that border between people pegging me as a butch girl to now being pegged as a fem guy. I've had at least one person tell me that they knew I was gay.  I was kind of surprised given people's reaction to me before T. I was kind of like: is it that obvious? But, don't get me wrong, it's awesome to finally be read as who I am.

I probably have been read as such, though only once has someone asked me if I had a girlfriend while seeing me as female.  I haven't passed vary well, I've been asked if I am a boy or girl a few times.  Shrugs.  And often keep getting called she even though wearing male cloths, haircut and such.