Its so hard being trans like every where you go its just scary, you think people will call you fake for being the true you and being the fake is so much easier, theres so much less conflict. I remember the first time I wore a dress so my family could see. My dad was like if you wear that around us, theres going to be conflict. Well now, I can wear the dress. But I still dont feel like I can totally be who I want to, I guess its just in myself I'm resisting letting go and letting it all come out, I don't know how people will react or respond but I've been talking to my friends about it, kind of indirectly sometimes and thats been helping. I know what I am inside and thats all that matters. Even though sometimes my friends can be kind of inconsiderate in getting it out that I'm trans and sometimes in ways or to people who I would rather not know right now. I know at least that they have good intentions and it does help just for people to know even if its not the perfect way to tell them. Like recently we visited a Oberlin and I met all these people and just using my new name and talking to them about stuff as a girl was so nice. I didn't even care if I passed or not.. I was just happy to be able to act the way I felt for once. Even though in that case how I felt was totally stoned out of my mind, haha, but still its a start. I guess really its just a journey..

Quote from: aisha on February 19, 2009, 05:21:25 PM
Its so hard being trans like every where you go its just scary, you think people will call you fake for being the true you and being the fake is so much easier, theres so much less conflict. I remember the first time I wore a dress so my family could see. My dad was like if you wear that around us, theres going to be conflict. Well now, I can wear the dress. But I still dont feel like I can totally be who I want to, I guess its just in myself I'm resisting letting go and letting it all come out, I don't know how people will react or respond but I've been talking to my friends about it, kind of indirectly sometimes and thats been helping. I know what I am inside and thats all that matters. Even though sometimes my friends can be kind of inconsiderate in getting it out that I'm trans and sometimes in ways or to people who I would rather not know right now. I know at least that they have good intentions and it does help just for people to know even if its not the perfect way to tell them. Like recently we visited a Oberlin and I met all these people and just using my new name and talking to them about stuff as a girl was so nice. I didn't even care if I passed or not.. I was just happy to be able to act the way I felt for once. Even though in that case how I felt was totally stoned out of my mind, haha, but still its a start. I guess really its just a journey..

Hi Aisha, I agree with you, it is hard, in more ways than one.   I have never come out to anyone except my wife and I never wore any girl clothes in public  but I can say that you should do what feels natural for you and by all means be yourself, you will find there is people that will not like you and there is people that will like you.  Aloha.

Tina

The only advice I can give is the only REAL advice I ever got, learn to not care what those around you think, trust me. It's hard but it gets easier as time goes by.

That is the whole point of a RLT.

Carolyn is absolutly right. transitioning is easier if you don't care what other people think. But it takes work

No offense

But I would really remove the mustache and goatee if I was you. Not that it makes you any less of a girl or anything because gender comes from WITHIN and the gender from within manifests outwardly.

But in trans people they are suppressed from manifesting their gender physically in it's true form.

A lot of people in this world are shallow, materialistic and limit themselves to the physical realm of life.

Rarely will you find a person who will value another based upon their character.

Quote from: Tanya1 on March 21, 2009, 07:29:09 PM
No offense

But I would really remove the mustache and goatee if I was you. Not that it makes you any less of a girl or anything because gender comes from WITHIN and the gender from within manifests outwardly.

If it does not make them any less of a girl then why? People should be free to wear and look how they like. You might be concerned with what other people think, but Aisha may not have the same concerns and they don't need to be bound by your chains. Their journey is their own.