Seriously. I went to the shops to buy late-night thesising supplies (chocolate, stationery etc.) and the guy who served me was obviously gay with the checkout guy next to him, and both of them were absolutely gorgeous, and I just can't help feeling soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo jealous, 'cause I know when he served me all he saw was a short boring woman. I don't care if the world sees me as the campest, most effeminate guy on Earth, at least they won't see me as female.

Gah...

Sorry, this has probably been done umpteen billion times before. It's just so painful and frustrating and painful and annoying and painful and irritating and etc. etc. expletive etc.

Gah... (again).

Will

Ah.  It will change, Big Guy.

Janet

Thanks. Guess there's a reason why they call it gender dysphoria...

Right with you there dude. I just want to cry when I get read as female (usually when I open my mouth)

I felt weird the other day when I was actually HAPPY about getting homophobic comments when I was out with my boyfriend. I couldn't be mad at people being ignorant idiots because they had read me as male 

It gratuitously sucks.

Only thing worse is being told in one of the many ways it is told, "You are a male/female therefore cannot understand female/male things."  Even with the best of intentions, I want to pull my hair out.

Quote from: interalia on February 27, 2009, 11:25:50 AM
It gratuitously sucks.

Only thing worse is being told in one of the many ways it is told, "You are a male/female therefore cannot understand female/male things."  Even with the best of intentions, I want to pull my hair out.

rawr I hate this. Or "you can't do _whatever_ you're just a girl"

or the worst, if I get mad at someone for a perfectly legitimate reason and they say "woah woah PMS?"

Or when everyone treats you like some delicate flower!

Take your anger and fuel it into changing the thigns you don't like.

Good advice, Mister.  I try to change the world every single day.

Quote from: interalia on February 27, 2009, 12:57:59 PM
Good advice, Mister.  I try to change the world every single day.

i meant about his appearance.  if you get fed up enough, you actually do things like call teh clinic for an appt, etc.

Quote from: Jeatyn on February 27, 2009, 12:04:33 PM
rawr I hate this. Or "you can't do _whatever_ you're just a girl"

or the worst, if I get mad at someone for a perfectly legitimate reason and they say "woah woah PMS?"

I hate both things. People can look at things so stereotypical.

And Will, yes thats why its called Gender Dhysporia. It sucks but transition helps.

What, you'd rather him see you as a short, boring guy?

QuoteWhat, you'd rather him see you as a short, boring guy?

If that's the only alternative, yes.

Quote from: interalia on February 27, 2009, 11:25:50 AM
Only thing worse is being told in one of the many ways it is told, "You are a male/female therefore cannot understand female/male things."  Even with the best of intentions, I want to pull my hair out.

That's funny.  If someone told that to me, it would make me want to pull THEIR hair out.

I suppose we aren't so dissimilar.

Quote from: VeryGnawty on March 01, 2009, 12:59:26 AM
That's funny.  If someone told that to me, it would make me want to pull THEIR hair out.

I suppose we aren't so dissimilar.

Perhaps not, I also love KOSMOS, but not as much as I love Elyham.  Xeno forever.

I know how that goes, I get a sense of rightness when people call me "he" and so on.

But when they refer to me as female it depresses me for most of the day.

I about jump for joy when someone calls me he (suppress it though as would make them question)

But yeh being called she is depressing.  Hate it when people just see me as butch instead of a guy.

totally agree....I love beening at work and somebody calls me sir or mister.  It's like everything I do is finally working.

Aw hugses William. You'll get there hon. It may take a bit of time, but as long as that's what you're working towards, you'll get there.

It sucks in the meantime though. I know. 

So again, Big Hugs.

Mina.