Hi all, I thought I would introduce myself on here...

My mother told myself and my brother a few years back that she wants to become FTM. Although we were both shocked, we generally accepted this and went on with our lives. Recently Mum had the chest surgery and this week starts on hormone injections.What was most shocking to me is that she has always known what she wanted, what she needed to do for her own happiness, but put it off for so so many years, so as not to upset the family.

I could not be more proud of my Mum...She has been so selfless in putting her life on hold for us, that now it is our turn to be there for her. As long as she is happy, I am happy. Whilst there have been some negative responses from certain close-minded family members, our immediate family is with her 100% (her husband is staying with her too!)

While I am completely behind her on this, I still occasionally have days where it's all a bit hard to deal with, and days where I feel a little down thinking about all the things that will change...so I was hoping coming on this forum will help me work through my issues without having to burden my mum with them!

By the way, I am aware that use of fem/masc pronouns is a sensitive issue...for the record, I currently live quite far away from my parents, but I will be moving back to my hometown in 3 months time. Mum and I made the decision that once I move back home, we will make a clean switch and I can start referring to her as 'he' and her chosen name, Ben

That's all from me right now...I really look forward to getting to know you all and hearing your stories

maz xxx

Dear Maz
What a wonderful daughter you are for both your mother and his decisions.
Accepting a parent change in sexuality is very hard. The horror TG people go through and their attempts to be "nomal" is legend on this site. However it sounds that you have two wonderful parents and a loving and caring family. I do have some counsel for you. If you find the situation preying on your mind and feeling a bit low, talk to a doctor and ask her/him if you are showing signs of depression. Depression can exist in many ways and is treatable quite easily, in your circumstances.

Do be aware that situations might change. And be ready to face the challanges.

I wish you all the best and love and support

Cindy James

Hi Maz,
It's wonderful that your mum can finally be Ben and be accepted by his loving family.  It is normal for you to be a little confused, Maz.  Our language doesn't have the words for what your mum is doing.  The pronouns are difficult because they assume an unchangeable binary of gender, which doesn't really exist.

I am MtF.  My grown daughter is very supportive but asked if she could still call me Papa.  I'm OK with that, but we don't live in the same town and I'm not living fulltime yet.

The point is, I think, that we are still the same people.  Your mum will still be your mum and will just be a happier, more fulfilled version of the person you've always loved.

- Kate

Hi Mazzie,   

Welcome to our little family. Over 2100 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion. Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers.  Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now.  And it is always nice to have another SO.   

And you may find that it comes easy to you, Because you are a caring daughter.

Janet

Welcome Mazzie, both you and your parents sound cool.

People are people at the end of the day and gender is just a part of that. I have a son who is fine with me despite having had big issues with it to begin with.

Wish you and your family all the best.

Welcome to the site, Mazzle. I applaud you and your parents. You make us feel so proud. Cindy's advice is good. There will be some let down (which is natural). See a professional if you or your folks are grappling with depression. I wish you all the best.

Gennee

Hi Maz and welcome, i assume you and your brother are grown. It's great that you and your family are supportive, Mum as you call her has always been a man all these years, and yes he, which is the correct pronoun to use now, has struggled with this all his life and sacrificed a great deal over the years. Although I'm MtF and 57 years old can relate because i too struggled with it all my life.

HUGS

Paula.

Hi Mazzle
For sure you are a wonderfull person.
Best wishes to you and your family.

Hi Mazzle,


It's quite understandable to sometimes be freeked out by all the changed your mother is going through.  It's not easy for your mother either and he will need your support. 

It was not always easy for my children either (I'm MtF), but They see that I'm far happier as my true self, yet still very much there for them.  We're all in this together so please feel free to ask questions, rant, etc as you please.

take care

Beni

Hi Maz,

Welcome To Susans

Its so nice to hear how you are supporting your mother "Ben"

Jay