Hi Kristi,

   I find you to be uplifting and upbeat. I believe you have a great presence here.

   I'm sorry that something brought you down. That's happened to me a very few times. Most of my experience here is fun or highly educational. When I felt bad, I stayed away for a few days, then when I returned, I found everything great again.

   I don't know what specifically brought about your feeling hurt, but I'm sure you'll get to feeling good and confident again. I think you have a great story to tell and are a real asset to the community.

Stay well. Be lovely,

We are all hugging you.


Love,

Rebecca

Kristi, as beautiful as you are, I would chalk all that up to jealousy on their part and stop worrying about what they think....or me for that matter if I was one of them.

Ive seen MTF TS that have been on HRT for 5 years and don't look 1/4th as beautiful as you do with no HRT. Doesnt make you less of a woman, I think it would make you more because of the natural beauty you exert from within. It splashes your face and delicate features like the sun on a petal of a flower. You are all things feminine, more so than many others and I think many strive to be what you are. So fret not, get back up on your pedastle because I will curtsey to you.

Hi everyone.

And first, let me say thanks for some wonderful things you said about me.  I feel a little bad about that.  My intent was not just a "Let's feel sorry for Kristi" post.  Sorry if it came across that way.  But I hope that those who read it thought about what it said.  There are bullies and snobs everywhere.  Even in a community that is supposed to be supporting one another.  But I am back in town and to the computer, and so humbled by what you wrote.  I did need a break.  It was good to see that most of the people who responded gave it serious thought.  Thanks so much!

Kristi

I just came across this thread; I might have marked it as read somehow.  Anyway Kristi, I have to echo most of the words expressed here.  You've been a ray of light for many of us, constantly PM'ing us, making us feel loved, always bringing a smile to our faces with your jokes and prayers in those moments when sadness was overwhelming.

I personally value your friendship very much and I thank you for all the wonderful things you've done to keep me going in those not-so-happy days.  I can't imagine anyone here being mean to you, but if that's the case, all I have to say is that they don't know you the way we do.  If somehow, I have unknowingly posted something that has upset you, I apologize.  You and I both know that regardless of our points of view, whatever they may be, our friendship surpasses words.  So, cheer up my friend  .  I perfectly understand that sometimes we need a break.  I have taken a few myself in the past! 

Keep smiling Kristi, this world needs you smiling...

tink

at first I was ready to jump all over this and I'm glad I went to refill my coffee...

I think this has really become normal behavior in today's society...the 'victimization'

we can't be special if we don't make ourselves special
"You have no idea what it is like to be raped!!!!!"
"You have no idea what it is like to be deaf (or 'hearing impared')!!!!"
"You have no idea what it is like to be....."

by talking and sharing maybe I can learn to understand your feelings?

Always...Teree

QuoteYes, the truth sometimes hurts.  And sometimes it must be told.

So you are saying we should lie?

Everyone is not equal we all have our certain gifts. The question I think you are asking is why is there a pecking order?

When facts are in question everyone will put in their two cents, it takes some research to figure it out.

People can be nicer to each other but not at the expense of making fibs.

Holy old post, Batman! 

BTW, I never said we should lie to each other.  I just said we should speak the truth in the best way we can.  Sometimes that means just shutting up and saying nothing.  Other times, it means taking a little time and rephrasing things to take the unnecessary edge off of them.  Meanness puts the other person on the defensive.  So at that point the truth of your statement doesn't even matter any more.  It will not be heard.

Since that topic appeared we have a whole new generation of people on here.  There are still bullies out there who like to treat others badly by what they say, and others who are so insecure they have to act like their way of life/transition (or the lack of it) is the only way anyone should ever go.    Some things never change.

Kristi

Quote from: Kristi on May 16, 2009, 12:01:49 PM
Some things never change.

The more things change, the more they stay the same.

You have echoed something I have felt for quite a while now. Ive started on my second attempt at transition, the first time being back in the 80s when I have neither the resources, finances or perhaps even maturity to follow through to completion. Spent years regretting not transitioning then, only recently did it dawn on me that its only too late if I choose to give up.

That being said, there are some farther along in the journey that dont know my past and will behave as if I could not understand the issues or experiences they think they uniquely share. To them I tend to say nothing, because there's little point. But there have also been a fair number of supportive folks as well, and I wouldnt be on this site if I hadnt known them elsewhere from other sites where I am anything but a newbie.

Which brings me to my next point. Having spent time elsewhere its not hard to figure out who the helpful folks are in any new forum (new from my perspective), and I can see you are one of those that helps others. I recently started to question my value or usefulness on another place where I have spent considerable time, wondering if I made a difference. I was overwhelmed by the response from both the old timers (compared to me) and by the current and "newbie" members whom I had no idea were following my posts. Sometimes it takes a smack upside the head to see what we cannot because we cant see the forest for the trees.

In time I expect the same to happen for me here, but I know that only possible if members like yourself continue to post and help others. Dont let those that would make you feel small deter you, as it does a disservice not just to yourself, but to the whole community and forum at large. I may have gone through this before, but the first time I didnt have an ex wife, teenage son and business w/business partner to contend with as well (on top of family, friends, etc), and so this second time I know I will need all the support I can get. I came here because I could not get what I needed from the other place, which is not an indictment or criticism... everyplace and everyone has a purpose to serve. And you are no different, you have a place and purpose here.

BTW, pedastals are made for the vain, if you find yourself at the bottom of one, its probably because you dont need one in the first place... 

anyone who is in need of a smack aside the head, please report to me. I need something to do.

I'll point out that a probably unkown percentage of us are going to have another "issue" riding shotgun with ones GID.

Lets see addiction, anziexty disorders, bi-polar, border-line personality disorders, depression, multiple personalities and potential for stalking come to mind.

I can control two sets of events in my life. My actions and my responses to other peoples actions.

When I react to others actions, than I am acting on an emotional, rather than rational basis.

So keep in mind y'all... it's a crazy world out there, and some bring their crazyiness here to Susans.

An interesting correlation I find in reading others posts. Those most against therapy seem to be the least well adjusted among us.

Finally in my experience. More often than not envy is the downfall of the envious, not the envied.

Mich'