Quote from: xsocialworker on July 03, 2009, 09:37:05 AM
Generally speaking, except for the transwomen who believe in the concept of the "two-spirited person", I'd say close to 100% of them desire to pass effectively. I admit that even though I am considered an "intellectual", passing as an attractive women who looks ten years younger than my real age became an obsession that transcended any academic goals.

I can relate. Part of the reason I am so impatient now is that I sense "the clock is ticking" and I, selfishly and vainly, want to have my stab at being "pretty" before age takes it from me.

I may be 5 or 10 years (money wise) getting rid of the hair and so forth but I'm hoping that I can get myself in good enough shape that even in my mid-50's i can capture a little of the "couger" vibe lol.

I KNOW it's superficial but it is what it is...

Yes i feel like that everytime i look in the mirror

Quote from: Firelight on June 19, 2009, 08:00:13 PM
Like... I know this is such a small thing to say, but sometimes it really bothers me to look at pictures of trans people that aren't... erm... convincing.

It's not like I mean to feel uncomfortable with it, but I can't help but look at them and think "God... I don't know if I could STAND looking like that."

Obviously, this isn't EVERY picture I see, or even the majority. But every now and again I'll look at a picture and think "GRAGH!"

It just feels like such a nasty, shallow part of me to be so aware of people's appearances, especially when I know from experience just how necessary it is to be the way you need to be. Should I feel guilty about this? 

I would say that certain pictures of a fetish variety where the person isn't even trying hard to look female are very disturbing, but in the non-fetish ones a lot of these girls really are trying hard to look good. They just can't do it because of skill, time, resources, etc. Someone has to mentor each and every one of them to help them be the best that they can be.