Quote from: Inphyy on August 17, 2009, 12:36:57 PM
the Social Security people are coming out soon to check out the house

Umm, ok, may I ask why this concerns you?  Social Security can't do anything to hurt you.

As for your mom getting people on her "side," don't worry about that.  Hold yourself above that, because her doing that, speaks more to the kind of person she is, than you are.  I mean, seriously, your her child, her blood, there shouldn't even be ANY sides.  I'm sorry she is doing that to you hun, but you can be stronger, so don't let it get to you. 

If anyone says anything bad to you, just keep your head high, and stay calm.  Reply to their hostility in a regular, respectful manner.  Be a lady.  When people act angrily towards us, they want us to respond in kind, so we look like monsters.  But if you're kind and respectful in return to them, they end up looking like crazy wacko's, and the attention on you is thereby removed.

Quote from: Inphyy on August 17, 2009, 03:23:11 PM
It's sad that I have to get a law center onto my school, for saying someone will get in trouble for wearing a dress at school.

I will say my opinion in a moment, but I will echo Yabby's advice first: Start HRT under the supervision of a medical professional, although this could be difficult, if not impossible, because the laws in your area may state that you need parental permission to start hormones (since you're a minor).  I don't know if your mom would sign off on that, but either way, the sooner you start, the better.  Hormones should be your first concern, rather than dressing in the right clothes (although I understand that part, trust me).  Testosterone "poisoning" of your body is horrible, it make your body masculine, and the psychological effects of that are very damaging.  Not sure if you're already feeling/noticing the effects of that (facial hair, libido, etc.), but the sooner you get on anti-androgens and estrogen, the better you'll feel.

Now, yes, it is sad that your school is acting that way.  I feel, that as long as you're not parading around the halls naked, or otherwise acting in a disrupting behavior, it shouldn't be a problem at all.  Unless they have provisions for students to wear uniforms, then wear whatever you want, as long as it's appropriate and tasteful.  Clothing is not gendered male or female, it's just made differently.  As long as you're not dressed provocatively, then the school can just STFU.

Quote from: Fae on August 17, 2009, 03:54:31 PM
Umm, ok, may I ask why this concerns you?  Social Security can't do anything to hurt you.

As for your mom getting people on her "side," don't worry about that.  Hold yourself above that, because her doing that, speaks more to the kind of person she is, than you are.  I mean, seriously, your her child, her blood, there shouldn't even be ANY sides.  I'm sorry she is doing that to you hun, but you can be stronger, so don't let it get to you. 

If anyone says anything bad to you, just keep your head high, and stay calm.  Reply to their hostility in a regular, respectful manner.  Be a lady.  When people act angrily towards us, they want us to respond in kind, so we look like monsters.  But if you're kind and respectful in return to them, they end up looking like crazy wacko's, and the attention on you is thereby removed.

I will say my opinion in a moment, but I will echo Yabby's advice first: Start HRT under the supervision of a medical professional, although this could be difficult, if not impossible, because the laws in your area may state that you need parental permission to start hormones (since you're a minor).  I don't know if your mom would sign off on that, but either way, the sooner you start, the better.  Hormones should be your first concern, rather than dressing in the right clothes (although I understand that part, trust me).  Testosterone "poisoning" of your body is horrible, it make your body masculine, and the psychological effects of that are very damaging.  Not sure if you're already feeling/noticing the effects of that (facial hair, libido, etc.), but the sooner you get on anti-androgens and estrogen, the better you'll feel.

Now, yes, it is sad that your school is acting that way.  I feel, that as long as you're not parading around the halls naked, or otherwise acting in a disrupting behavior, it shouldn't be a problem at all.  Unless they have provisions for students to wear uniforms, then wear whatever you want, as long as it's appropriate and tasteful.  Clothing is not gendered male or female, it's just made differently.  As long as you're not dressed provocatively, then the school can just STFU.*

I have to wait till i am 18 to start hormones...My mom says, she'll never let me take them as long as I am still a kid. So I have to wait...

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If TLC returns your call in the next three hours, i'll send you $20.  You're more likely to get a call back from NCLR on a holiday weekend than TLC within three weeks.

Quote from: Inphyy on August 17, 2009, 04:00:28 PM
I have to wait till i am 18 to start hormones...My mom says, she'll never let me take them as long as I am still a kid. So I have to wait...

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Then just do what you can to survive until you're able to get out of there hun, and blossom into a wonderful woman.  We're here to support you. 

PM me anytime if you need to talk.

Quote from: Inphyy on August 17, 2009, 04:00:28 PM
I have to wait till i am 18 to start hormones...My mom says, she'll never let me take them as long as I am still a kid. So I have to wait...

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No you don't.  Come to SF for three days and you'll be on, totally legit.

Quote from: Mister on August 17, 2009, 04:02:49 PM
If TLC returns your call in the next three hours, i'll send you $20.  You're more likely to get a call back from NCLR on a holiday weekend than TLC within three weeks.

I'm not Hispanic!

Quote from: Inphyy on August 17, 2009, 04:04:38 PM
I'm not Hispanic!

Google it again, and this time look at more than just the first result.

Quote from: Fae on August 17, 2009, 04:03:45 PM
Then just do what you can to survive until you're able to get out of there hun, and blossom into a wonderful woman.  We're here to support you. 

PM me anytime if you need to talk.

Okay! Thank you so much! =]

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Quote from: Mister on August 17, 2009, 04:04:18 PM
No you don't.  Come to SF for three days and you'll be on, totally legit.

Quote from: Inphyy on August 17, 2009, 04:08:10 PM

I think he means the National Center for Lesbian Rights

http://www.nclrights.org/site/PageServer?pagename=issue_transgender

Quote from: Mister on August 17, 2009, 04:07:00 PM
Google it again, and this time look at more than just the first result.

Thanks! I sent them a message. Hopefully...I'll get it by tomorrow...If not...I'll have to count my lucky stars, also the school has put me through conseling right now...*Sigh* I am soooo pissed...I need someone to talk to, I feel like crying sooo much! 

http://www.youthcrisisline.org/

call them.  they're fairly well versed in trans stuff.

Inphyy,

Why not totally dress feminine but not wear that dress?  Then if you really feel you must wear it to school, you could fight with them ahead of time till they give in and let you wear it.  It can be a lot easier to fight from within than from without.

What kind of counseling are they putting you in?  Not all counseling is bad.

Kristi

Quote from: Inphyy on August 17, 2009, 04:17:57 PM
*Sigh* I am soooo pissed...I need someone to talk to, I feel like crying sooo much! 

I'll be ok sweetie.

Like Kristi said, the counselor might be good, just to have someone to talk to.  We're here too, and we're not gonna leave you.

Quote from: Fae on August 17, 2009, 04:32:21 PM
I'll be ok sweetie.

Like Kristi said, the counselor might be good, just to have someone to talk to.  We're here too, and we're not gonna leave you.

But in a week my mom is un-plugging the internet, so that's why I made the other thread to keep in contact with people!

OK, here is where I get to be unpopular - well more unpopular than I already am.

Its going to be real hard for you to get any legal service to take your case if your parents are not supporting you.  They are risking a counter suit for custodial interference if they do.  Second taking on a school board, or school district, who are not permitting you to do something your parent objects to also is going to be almost impossible, as it's pretty much their legal duty to be in loco parentis - acting in the parents behalf.

Second, minors have no real civil, or legal rights, hence its might hard - short of physical abuse - to claim that they are violating yours.

Tekla's right.

If you truly want out of there, I can hook you up with somewhere that you will be safe, respected and all that jazz.  They'll try to reunite you w/ your mom if it's possible and shelter you if not. 

And please trust me regarding this... You need to block your T. At most costs... That is extremely important for you, and I agree... The clothes don't matter as much.  Don't give into that 18 or older crap cause thats when your male puberty is already done with the havoc it wreaked... I basically was delayed for a year by my mom and I self medicated anyway, and I still feel like I did it late in the game. You have high potential... That is something I would raise hell about...

There are so many things I could have avoided if I knew to do that... SO much.

You just can't mess around with time...

Quote from: Kara-Xen on August 17, 2009, 08:11:37 PM
And please trust me regarding this... You need to block your T. At most costs... That is extremely important for you, and I agree... The clothes don't matter as much.  Don't give into that 18 or older crap cause thats when your male puberty is already done with the havoc it wreaked... I basically was delayed for a year by my mom and I self medicated anyway, and I still feel like I did it late in the game. You have high potential... That is something I would raise hell about...

There are so many things I could have avoided if I knew to do that... SO much.

You just can't mess around with time...

I do want to block it but I am in a corner I don't like it but I have to wait till I am 18! My mom would never let me take hormones or hormone blockers.