Quote from: LordKAT on July 05, 2009, 02:17:45 PM
second is on topic but backwards as I'm FTM

if this don't belong here due to being MTF site, feel free to remove it or tell me to.

It's the same, LordKAT, but from the other side of the glass.  We do have many of the same issues.

I hope you're OK.

- Kate

Quote from: LordKAT on July 05, 2009, 02:17:45 PM
2  points here

first if for Laura,

The pic with tank and shorts looks almost exactly like a gg friend of mine without the shadow. Don't sell yourself short.

BTW, got ma'amed again this afternoon (from behind again) this time in Wal Mart.

He was passing behind me s I was studying the shelves looking for something and said "Excuse me ma'am" and then he spoke to a worker (the worker knows me and would know ma'am was a stretch - I don't know if he gave the guy a hint or anything) and then when he went back the other way I THINK I caught a glimpse of him doing a double take over his shoulder but either way...

I soaked it up!

  I got ma'amed a few times July 4th by a police officer who gave me a short lecture regarding bicycle safety on holidays  "Please ride safe ma'am."

As to injuries in my accident, whiplash type stuff, sore neck and back, 2 day headache and don't lift more than 5 lbs for a week. I'm ok tho as it will pass with no major troubles.

Quote from: Dee_pntx on July 04, 2009, 10:25:11 PM
The big secret is to just dress plain, like everyone else.  Don't get all dolled up to the nines and draw attention.  Try shorts for starters, just like the rest of the women are wearing now this time of year.  Then work towards skirts.  Slow and gradual change goes unnoticed much easier than sudden overnight change.

This is pretty much how I dress for walmart.  A plain black skort, my boyfriend's shirt and sneakers with ankle socks.  Pretty plain and boring. 





I don't try to knock em dead, I'm not hot and never will be.  I just want to be seen as average and plain and draw as little notice as possible.  I don't want attention.

Small bites and chew slowly.  Slow and steady wins the race.

I've been looking for a chance to reply to this with a pic. I got my wife to take one when we got back from Wal Mart today. Everything upon my person is made for women. This is pretty typical of the way I commonly dress nowdays (admitting the difficulty of finding blouses that are tailored to my non-typical female torso since such doesn't exist)



So yeah, I thin I got the Plain Jane look down decently lol.

Quote from: Laura Hope on July 13, 2009, 06:55:22 PM
I've been looking for a chance to reply to this with a pic. I got my wife to take one when we got back from Wal Mart today. Everything upon my person is made for women. This is pretty typical of the way I commonly dress nowdays (admitting the difficulty of finding blouses that are tailored to my non-typical female torso since such doesn't exist)



So yeah, I thin I got the Plain Jane look down decently lol.

You may try onestopplus.com They have a large selection of stuff for plus sized girls

oh no, you misunderstand a bit....I can find plus size clothes (albeit I can't afford anything more than thrift store prices and not that right now so it's hard to find some I can afford)

What I mean is that I have a really big belly and no breasts to speak of. Blouses tailored for big belly's are also big up top, so they fit too losely around my neck and upper torso...otoh, the ones which fit right higher up are too tight around the belly and usually too short.

Women just are not built like I am - even the fat ones. Another 40-50 pounds and I'll be in a better range at least.

Oh, OK sorry. I understand better now. Due to injuries, I'm not really able to run much any more and being in a vehicle kinda freaks me out. I found bicycling to be very therapeutic  and good exercise

Laura, there are some cuts you can look for to help. Pintucking or ruched necklines with more flowy cuts can work better, for example, this:

http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=383010&CategoryID=43328

Empire cuts (with a seem below the bust) are also something to look for. I often look for cap sleeves for summer tops -- they fit my comparatively large upper arms, but don't make my shoulders look as big as they do in a tank or strappy top.

And, of course, getting in shape can't hurt -- I know you said you're trying to lose some weight and get in better shape, and I wish you good luck and good health in achieving your goals.

Laura
I think vertical stripes are quite slimming, and as Alyassa said make your neck or another part of your body a feature. If you are wearing totally gorgeous ear rings and carrying a cute bag people eyes are attracted to them. Or a really cute scarf distracts people from looking where you don't want them.

Love and Hugs and I hope the weight program goes well for you.

Cindy

I got ma'amed at the McDonald's drive through yesterday at the pay window...warm fuzzies!

She probably realized her error pretty quick but it was col to get that "first instinct" response.

That's awesome, Laura! Unless you reacted with visible surprise, I bet she didn't even think twice!

I've shifted my outdoor wardrobe over mostly to female clothes, so I'm presenting as female when I climb now -- which is awesome.  That was something I was still working on when this thread started. It's definitely not "glam," but I typically get "ma'amed," so that pretty much rocks. The main hangup I have is with getting done with laser -- wearing makeup in the mountains is kind of lame.

I kinda got ma'amed, but not verbally. Someone keeps leaving plastic bags with assorted bras at my door.

Subtle hints from the bra fairy 

Quote from: Virginia Marie on August 17, 2009, 06:39:57 PMSubtle hints from the bra fairy 

wasn't me I swear

Well, noting that it was starting to get dark out and I needed to pick up my dog's special gifts....I decided to go as I am 

Nothing fancy, blue jeans, tank top,and my fav. open toed pumps (tey only have about an 1-1/4" heel). No make up, but hair up with a clip and curly side danglers.

I figured no-one would be around anyway. Wouldn't ya know it there were some guys across the street. They started up with whoo hoos and whistles 

I just smiled and went about my biz. and went back in feelin' rather perky for a girl my age 

Quote from: Virginia Marie on August 17, 2009, 06:39:57 PM
I kinda got ma'amed, but not verbally. Someone keeps leaving plastic bags with assorted bras at my door.

Subtle hints from the bra fairy 

Virginia, maybe you have a neighbor with a bra tree in their back yard producing too much of its fruit for one person to use. In case you have never seen one, these trees look very similar to ordinary aspen trees in the summer time, but during the winter, they produce a crop of their unmentionable fruit; right now would be peak season in the southern hemisphere. Here is an example of such a tree at peak harvest near Aspen, CO:



Notice that these trees tend to grow in the same habitat as aspens, along the disturbed fringes of steep clearcuts for chairlifts at ski areas, but I suppose they could grow in other areas as well. I found an article in the Aspen Times describing this unusual biological curiousity, which you can read here.

I hope this might help yield some insight into your little mystery!

  ROFL

A bra and pantie tree would be great  But the bras show up in bags from the local thrift store. Oh well, at least I know where the bra fairy shops.

I'll have to give the bra fairy credit though....She's a fairly good size guesser 

I was trying to grow a VS bush myself.
(Hmmmm that didn't come out the way I intended...) 

I tried going down to the local garden shop and asked for one of those and they got very angry.  I wonder why?

-Sandy

  The bra fairy struck again today  I'm beginning to acquire quite a collection

I'm noticing that the sizing varies depending on the maker. i.e. Some of the B-cups lend a bit of room to grow, but I'm wearing a C-cup right now that fits great.

I don't really understand the topic, 'Getitng Ma'amed Without Getting Glammed'? I don't think I ever get glammed for anything but no matter if I'm out in the garden in my jeans and wellies or rolling out of bed and opening the door to the mail man in my nightshirt I usually get called darling.....   

If I didn't then I would start to worry...