By and large life is going good for me right now. I'm full time and if I get clocked it's usually at the club I go to. Seeing that it's a LGBT club that's no surprise. I'm much more confidant then I was when I first went full time and I live life just about as normal as any other woman now. But when it comes to dating that opens up a whole new realm. Usually it starts out pretty normal but after it becomes clear that some one is interested in me I feel that it is safer for me to be totally upfront with them. It saves so much heart ache latter on.
So when I let a potential partner know that I am a transsexual it's like they suddenly think they have the right to ask all sorts of very personal questions. Normally I would expect dinner or at least flowers before indulging their curiosity but I understand that my situation is unique.
After answering so many questions repeatedly I decided to create a list of questions that are most frequently asked of me. I'm considering making a pamphlet to hand out. "Every thing you ever wanted to ask Cami but knew it would be rude to do so."
Following is said list which can also be found on my
Myspace Blog. I figure you all might get a chuckle out of this because I'm sure many of you have had similar experiences.
As promised in my last blog entry, here are just some of the questions I am asked most frequently followed by answers.
Q: Are you Single?
A: Yes
Q: Do you like men or women?
A: I'm pansexual.
Q: Whats a Pansexual?
A: Some one who is attracted to men, women, or transsexuals.
Q: So your a transsexual, do you have a penis or a vagina?
A: I have a penis. As soon as I have the money I am going to have Gender Corrective Surgery.
Q: What's Gender Corrective Surgery?
A: Most people call it a sex change.
Q: Is that expensive?
A: yes, very.
Q: So how will it look? will it look like a real vagina?
A: Yes. Some results have been so good that even gynecologist have been fooled.
Q: Will you be able to have sex with it?
A: Yes.
Q: Will you be able to have an orgasm after your sex change?
A: Yes, unless something goes really wrong.
Q: Will you be able to get pregnant?
A: No, sadly. I will not have a uterus.
Q: So you won't have a period either?
A: Nope.
Q: Are your breast real or implants?
A: They are real.
Q: Wow! how did you get them to grow?
A: I've been on Hormone Replacement Therapy for over a year.
Q: When did you decide that you wanted to be a woman?
A: I've always been a woman, I was just forced to live as a man.
Q: OK, so when did you first realize you were a woman?
A: I have felt this way since I was four years old but it was not until I was thirty two that I finally came out to myself and the world.
Q: When you have sex do you use your penis?
A: Not usually.
Q: So how do you perform intimately with some one?
A: I'm very good with my mouth and if the mood is right I can and have used the boy bits.
Q: Do you have Children?
A: Yes. Two daughters.
Q: How are they with you being transgendered?
A: They are fine with it. They know how very much I love them and we are very close.
Q: How does the rest of your family take it?
A: My parents still love me and talk to me but they refuse to accept that I am a woman. My brothers have not spoken to me since I told them.
Q: Does that make you sad?
A: Yes. I've had more then a few sleepless nights over it.
Q: Do you have sex for money?
A: No!
Q: have you ever had sex with a man?
A: No. I've done every thing but have intercourse with a man.
Q: How many woman have you been with?
A: Four. Married to two of them.
Q: So you have been married... as a man or a woman?
A: This is Indiana hun, what do you think?
Q: After your sex change will you be able to get married as a woman?
A: Yes. After Gender Corrective Surgery I will be considered legally female.
Q: Will you ever get married again?
A: I won't say absolutely no but the chances are very slim.
Q: If you have sex with a woman now can she get pregnant?
A: No I've had a vasectomy
Q: You had your nuts cut off?!!??
A: No silly, that's an orchiectomy.
Q: So now you can't cum?
A: *sigh, Yes I can still cum.
Q: can you still get hard?
A: Yes but it's difficult.
Q: Why is it difficult for you to get hard?
A: Because of the hormones. they diminish sex drive and make achieving and maintaining an erection difficult.
Q: Do you still get horny then?
A: Yes.
Q: Are you horny now?
A: No, but you are.
Q: How do you know that I'm horny?
A: Your zipper is about to rupture! And if you put my eye out imma kick your ass!
Q: So whats your "real name?"
A: Cami.
Q: No, I mean what is your REAL real name?
A: Cameron Elizabeth
Q: That was your boy name?
A: No.
Q: What was your boy name?
A: None of your ->-bleeped-<-ing business.
Q: Your sensitive about that aren't you?
A: Is it that obvious? Oh wait, your asking the questions, sorry. Continue.
Q: Wanna suck my dick?
A: Not anymore.
Q: Why not now?
A: You wanna suck mine? Whoops! I'm sorry! there I go with the questions again.
Q: What are you looking for in a mate?
A: Someone who is sweet, funny and gentle. Some one who has a great personality and takes care of there body.
Q: So what kind of guys do you prefer?
A: Long hair, nice firm body and good hygiene. He doesn't have to be super tall or supper buff. I like really girly men too. Good hygiene and good personality go a long way with me.
Q: What kind of women do you prefer?
A: Nice body, medium breast, not too tall. She doesn't have to have a perfect hourglass figure. Good hygiene. Again a good personality and hygiene go a long way with me.
Q: What about another transsexual? Could you go for one?
A: Absolutely!
Q: Wanna have sex with me right now?
A: No.
Q: How about after a few dates? Would you want to have sex with me then?
A: That all depends on how you treat me and if you turn me on or not.
Q: So given your choice, what would you want, man, woman, or another transsexual?
A: All of the above.
Q: At the same time?
A: hey a girl can have her fantasies can't she? Oh dang, there I go asking the questions again.
Q: Can I see you again some time?
A: That would be nice. See ya later 
Q: Where you going
A: To bed, it's 3:00 AM here!
