I went to Home Depot this morning. I hadn't shaved because I'm waiting to do that before I go out tonight. I was wearing ladies shorts, gym shoes, watch and diamond stud earrings. The only thing that wasn't purchased in the ladies dept. was a short sleeved henley top I was wearing. 

So I go to one of those scan it yourself registers and after I scan something it tells me there's something in the bag that isn't supposed to be there.  Then I hear the lady working these registers behind me say, "Just one moment ma'am" as she cleared the item.  I looked over at her.  My electrologist has been concentrating on dark hairs so most are gone (I didn't have much) but there are still some left.  She looked at me and smiled, like nothing was unusual.  Then she came over and told me the item didn't clear and rescanned it for me. 

My head was spinning.  Okay, so the clothes and jewelry are female but nothing that guys don't wear, except the watch, but I have facial stubble and I'm being called ma'am.  I want to hang onto the moment but I'm thinking she had to see the facial stubble.  When I left she gave me a big smile and thanked me for shopping.  What baffled me was her smile was so genuine, not forced at all. 

This is the fourth time this has happened except the first three were when I was in work clothes and I knew they knew they made a mistake.  This time I didn't get that feeling from the sales lady.  Whatever, it was still nice but a bit confusing.

  I remember when I was first starting out and getting Ma'am'd.  It was weird and shocking and very exciting.  My first visit to the ER for a back injury and totally "boyed" out (as in no makeup or anything) I was shocked when I had to explain to the admitting nurse why I hadn't had a period lately LOL.  I was in so much pain at the time I wasn't pleased about it but later on it was kinda cool.

  When I was hired permanently at my last job (which I had to do in boymode) they sent me for a physical.  I went through the entire process with them thinking I was female.  At one point one of the nurses came and sat down with me and we had "girl talk" for probably ten minutes.  I wanted to tell them the truth because well...it wasn't going to look good when the company looked at the report but it was too funny.  Finally at the end of the physical was a little one on one question and answer session with the doc.  He asked me probably ten or so generic questions which were very ambigous in nature which I answered then he asked if I was pregnant or might be pregnant.  I was like shocked because I thought this guy would be able to tell the difference I was sitting 3 feet away.  I had to clear this up because it would mean my job so I'm sitting there trying to think about what to say when he looks at form with the copy of my drivers license on it and went from friendly to cold as ice in a half second.  He told me to drop my pants and do the turn and cough routine which I did.  He said that was it and walked out of the room without saying another word.  I found my way to the desk, got all my paper work and went back to my company.

  I was "laid off" 2 weeks later because of not enough incoming business which was a crock because we had as much or more work than we have had since I started AND my partner was on vacation so I was the only inspector for the company.  I'm still upset about it but in hindsight the look on that jerk doctors face was almost worth it.

  Looking at your pic Julie I can't imagine anyone thinking you were anything other than female..get used the ma'am's..I imagine you will get a lot more.  (had to add this on 'cause I got interrupted during writing this )

Quote from: Julie Marie on September 02, 2006, 02:18:55 PM
This is the fourth time this has happened except the first three were when I was in work clothes and I knew they knew they made a mistake.  This time I didn't get that feeling from the sales lady.  Whatever, it was still nice but a bit confusing.

Keep doing what you are doing Julie, cause what ever it is it's working.  Remember to others if you look like a woman, act like a woman, sound like a woman then you must be a ... 

Steph

Wonderful Julie.  It sure comes when we least expect it, doesn't it.  You know why?  Because we are just being ourselves at those moments.  I'm sure you will have many more ma'ams in your future.

Melissa

Quote from: Julie Marie on September 02, 2006, 02:18:55 PM
I went to Home Depot this morning. I hadn't shaved because I'm waiting to do that before I go out tonight. I was wearing ladies shorts, gym shoes, watch and diamond stud earrings. The only thing that wasn't purchased in the ladies dept. was a short sleeved henley top I was wearing. 

So I go to one of those scan it yourself registers and after I scan something it tells me there's something in the bag that isn't supposed to be there.  Then I hear the lady working these registers behind me say, "Just one moment ma'am" as she cleared the item.  I looked over at her.  My electrologist has been concentrating on dark hairs so most are gone (I didn't have much) but there are still some left.  She looked at me and smiled, like nothing was unusual.  Then she came over and told me the item didn't clear and rescanned it for me. 

My head was spinning.  Okay, so the clothes and jewelry are female but nothing that guys don't wear, except the watch, but I have facial stubble and I'm being called ma'am.  I want to hang onto the moment but I'm thinking she had to see the facial stubble.  When I left she gave me a big smile and thanked me for shopping.  What baffled me was her smile was so genuine, not forced at all. 

This is the fourth time this has happened except the first three were when I was in work clothes and I knew they knew they made a mistake.  This time I didn't get that feeling from the sales lady.  Whatever, it was still nice but a bit confusing.

This is such a great story, Julie!  Things are changing , and soon enough, when you least expect it, this entire experience will be an everyday event!!!  I'm happy for you!

love ya,

tinkerbell

Quote from: Julie Marie on September 02, 2006, 02:18:55 PM


This is the fourth time this has happened except the first three were when I was in work clothes and I knew they knew they made a mistake.  This time I didn't get that feeling from the sales lady.  Whatever, it was still nice but a bit confusing.

Hey Julie,

Peoples perception of us, how we look sometimes amazes me. In a split second people will make an opinion about whether you are Male or Female based on the gender messages you send.

Yeah... It is nice, comforting and great re-enforcement that this has happened and a wonderful validation for how well you are doing.

Buffy

Julie:
Great ending i love it! 

Listen Julie, It may sound unusual for me to say that you are a good looking woman but that does not impress me, what impresses me about you is that you are the kind of woman(person) i want to hang around with or have as a friend.

  I met a woman at a friends party once that we connected right away, she thought I was a girl we had a grand time and made friends 4 life. So one day  a couple of weeks later I met her by accident at the grocery store and I was in boy mode, she was so glad to see me  and saluted me as sheila in the middle of the crowd as she laughed over the fact that she recognized me even if I did not look like as Sheila, she was truly happy to see me and we went for lunch actualy she took me to lunch ...later on she told me how I had impressed her with my personality blah blah
That is when I realized that for me( and am speaking for me only) that for me it was more important in my journey to self realization to be true to my own self and heart and not to my idealized concept of what I would like to look like, that was a Paradigm shift that changed my life for the better.

My point you look hot but I like you the person  and probably so do many others 
Love no matter what, sheila

Hi Julie & Everyone.

I know what it means to get ma'am and have that sense of satifaction of accomplishment. Obviously if people see you as a woman, then you must be a woman. Especially when you are not really putting much effort into being the person that you wanna be at times or whatever, or just being comfortable as your self. We have all been there and done that. I myself Am around people for 90 or more hours a week. I am a TSA Screening Officer at the aiport. And I get ma'am All the freakin time. Even on the days when my" mind "is boy mode and not really in the mood to be a girl at the time. Its like geesh, I can't remember When I got called sir. But, it wasn't always like that. , I have been at the airport for two years, And the first year i never really got ma'am, I have always been told I have a VERY feminie figure, and no masculine facial features. i.e 6'0, 140 lbs, long legs , short torso etc. But I recently had a breast augmentation 4 months ago. I made a deal with myself Get BA before or at 23 or no dice. So I lived up to it. And now the ma'ams just come rollin in. Even when i'm not tryin to be a lady,And have a lil stubble here and there. Excuse me ma'am...Thank you ma'am...heheheh But it does, make me feel good though, that I don't have to try to be one. I just already am if that makes sense. And my wife, whom i love very dearly and who also happins to work right by my side on the front lines fighting terrorism, encourages all the ma'ams and all my femme traits & mannerisms. I Don't think life can get any better. But to sum up everything up, Its nice to be ma'am'ed. It basically means you've accomplished your objective. Sorry for boring the hell out of all you nice people. I will try to keep it short and sweet next time. 

Be safe & Sweet,

Israela

posh:
nice post 
sheila18