Quote from: interalia on June 28, 2009, 09:10:05 AM
My wife, who is a cis-female, reads some of these posts with me.  She has often said, "Boy, some of these people are REALLY hung up on what they have down there.  If I suddenly woke up with a penis one day it wouldn't affect whether I thought of myself as a female."

I feel my quote has been spanked, locked in a room, and had all its toys taken away.

I said simply, that it wouldn't affect whether or not she thought of herself as a woman.  That's it, nothing more.  The implication is that, if she is representative of cis-people generally (which I admit, she may not be), that proper genitalia does not a woman (or man) make.  She would think of herself as female regardless.  Removing it would be a matter of convenience, not for the sake of identity.  The OP wishes to have SRS for convenience purposes; I don't see that as supporting or invalidating the OP's female gender as some have implied.

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I wanted SRS long before I ever resolved to live socially as a woman.
I definitely would never want BA and FFS doesn't hold any allure.

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FFS certainly didn't hold any allure, it was necessary for me to have FFS to pass successfully as a woman, some girls are lucky if they don't need it, I wasn't so lucky, I had brow lift, cheeks enhanced, nose job etc I now would never pass for a male now as my face is now very feminine.
As for a BA, well I always wanted nice breasts and a nice cleavage, I had a breast augmentation but wasn't really happy with the first results, didn't really suit my figure, I had them redone with silicone implants and also went larger, Im now 36DD, they really suit my posture and a nice cleavage for pretty tops and dresses.
My Mam would no longer support me if I didn't have SRS, she said I was only fooling myself, anyway after long family debate, it was agreed, so I had the surgery, looking back now it was for the best, all the pain is now behind me.
Im now a woman, Im a sister to my brothers and a daughter to my parents, my parents where there for me all the way, I think the least I could do for them was to complete my transition and be the daughter they always wanted. SRS was painful surgery, but after the healing I did feel complete.
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None should have SRS to gain acceptance from men. SRS does not necessarily make str8 men accept a girl and love her as a woman regardless of how beautiful she may look. They can flip out and feel disgusted once they find out. And not many of them will not hang around.