My wife went to her parents' house for the week today and I realized we were out of laundry detergent.

I was like, alright I can do this. I'm going to the grocery store.

And I did. I had on my new pair of jeans and a cute t-shirt...got my new purse and wallet out and I set off.

I parked and walked to the door. That was harder than I thought in these flats I bought....they had a slight heel so I had to adjust to that some. I got to the door and went inside and was getting a cart when a guy rushed past me and said "Excuse me, miss". I just smiled and shrugged. Then my heart took off! I got miss'd right as I got in the door! That was so cool i can't even begin to describe it.

So I put my purse in the basket and I set off to browse a little. I knew I needed detergent but figured there were probably other things I needed.

Well I got to the bakery and I saw my counselor!!! LOL. How random is that? She's never seen me dressed up either. Well I got her attention, quietly said her name and she was surprised. I think she did a double take and then she was like "oh my gosh! You look great!" I told her thanks and that I already got miss'd on the way in lol.

Well I picked up detergent, deoderant, and a light bulb. As I walked around I paid some attention to people's faces. Some of them didn't pay attn to me but others might've looked at me kind of weird but it may just be me heh.

I finally got to the checkout line and I was like crap. It was the same gal that has seen me lots of times before AND she's even seen me with pink toenail polish on hah. Anyway, she asked if I'd found everything ok and I nodded and she asked if I had a Safeway card and I nodded and got it out of my wallet from my purse. She said the subtotal and I swiped my credit card. She wasn't giving me weird looks at all but I knew somehow she knew. She gave me my receipt and said "Thank you Mr. XXXX" and I was like blah. Ah well lol.

It was a wonderful experience!

You go, Jerica.

That can be a problem when use cards in your male name.  Those who have dealt with you in the past will be the hardest to change, but they do eventually come around.


Janet

Congratulations, Jerica!  Quite an experience.

I've had people still call me sir after being Kate for a while, I think because they think I'm still the male I was but dressed in women's clothes.  They don't realize they should shift.  (And the shift is difficult for most people. )

But it sounds like you had a very successful trip.  But watch out.   If you're not careful it will get harder and harder to go back to drab Mr. XXXX.

- Kate

My Safeway card is in an old (female) flatmate's name -- actually, I just type in the number from the landline on that apartment, from way back in the days of yore when not everyone had a cell phone. The cashiers nearly always look at the receipt to address me by name. They used to say, "Thank you, Mr. R------," to which I would kind of roll my eyes. They would stumble over her last names, and I'd tell myself, "M------ is fine, thanks," M------ being her name. Now they say, "Ms R-------." They still stumble over the name.

Congratulations, that's a big step. Something about the ordinariness of the grocery store makes it scarier than a lot of other situations when you are first getting out.

im so luky i have a uni name yay its all in the spelling lol

Very cool!
Ahemmmm.....Stop nodding, and learn to speak, and by all means, get cards with your female name, esp driver's lic and bank card


Bev