This post probably could of fit any number of topic boards here! lol

As some may know, I'm a pretty much in your face transparent person. Transparent means I've hidden nothing. And that includes the real world and online!

But I feel as though I'm becoming a traitor to myself because I'm obscuring my true identity more and more!
I used to have a really good blog that was getting regular readers till I announced I am transgender. People unbookmarked me and others in online communities just discounted me. A few remained but not many.

Even in the everyday world I flop back and forth depending on my mood, I always fear my job getting lost or worse. I guess I'm just getting too tired to fight the good fight anymore...

I got things I do online, but my writing is my fingerprint. If the outcome is positive, I don't mind people knowing what I do professionally online.

How has coming out effected your life?
Have you lost a job? Do people discount and appear to pigion hole you?

I'm retired, so I can't answer that part.  The volunteer work I've done has continued, but often people are just glad to have anyone do the work.

Most people accept me as who I am.  The few who pigeonhole me seem to find me more interesting.  I mean how many transsexuals have they run across?

I think my experience may be unusual, though.

- Kate

Quote from: K8 on October 09, 2009, 07:58:06 PM
I'm retired, so I can't answer that part.  The volunteer work I've done has continued, but often people are just glad to have anyone do the work.

Most people accept me as who I am.  The few who pigeonhole me seem to find me more interesting.  I mean how many transsexuals have they run across?

I think my experience may be unusual, though.

- Kate

I'll second this! I'm going to have to give up what I love for now to get back in the work force & get outta here(city) since I don't have many character references I plan to do whatever I can(prob soup kitchen, maybe I can make things taste better & heathier) in terms of vol. work. I get to help myself & help others at the same time. 

I have lost a job, house, loved one, friends and many things I hold dear.  But I would not turn back the clock to have it all back.  That was his life and he is now no longer among the living.  This is my life now, for better or worst.


Janet

To answer you more directly, after the fight within is long over for me, I still have a long way to go to start making forward progress in the physical part of transitioning. I'm at a place where I just blow by any neg human encounters & bask in the glare of the positive. Being anyone other than my true self is no longer an option, but I'm amazed at what just a simple smile can do! There really are a lot of good people out there, just don't waste your good on the rest.

Quote from: scarboroughfair on October 09, 2009, 09:32:59 PM
I felt like an idiot after posting this thread because it was afterwords I read other threads in this board. I don't have it that bad, atleast not yet anyways.

Thank you for the replies, I'm sorry for the whining.

Peace.

Honesty doesn't=whining. I respect people who lay it out for real! luv u, Isabella

Hi Sacrboroughfair

I thought it a nice post, not whining at all. I'm a little suprised that people aren't interested in your blog, if they were interested before. I would have thought it would have become more and more interesting. BTW I never read blogs so I really shouldn't comment, but then again ignorance has never prevented me from anything else in life; so what

Do you think your attitudes have changed and that's what people are picking up on?

Hugs

Cindy

One of the doctors that work with transfolk in Iceland said this to me;

"A woman has to work four times as hard as a man to be given the same respect. You will have to work twice as hard as a woman." (Translated and slightly rephrased.)

I don't know, it seemed on topic.