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Ok seriously though, I think it's a shame susans doesn't let us talk about these things.
We could have discussed why you've chosen to take whatever action you've decided to take, what if any better options there might have been.
But as it stands, I expect this to become what will be the 4th thread I've seen simply vanish in my short time posting here.
I'm sure you're doing what you feel you have to do, I wish you luck.
My only advise is to not give up on finding a legal way to achieve what you have to, and to make things as safe and informed for you as you can while you don't.