My parents, on their whim, decided to clean out the storage in my room. Where my stash was. 

I quickly made a passable excuse for why all my girls clothing was there and I didnt elaborate on anything. Luckily they didn't ask. I believe I am now under scrutiny.

I also passed up probably the best chance yet to say how I feel to them. My mom says that she is alright with whatever I do (in specifics to girls clothes). I didn't have the guts to come out there and then.

I am really worried too. And kind of mad. My room is the smallest in the house and it HAS to be used for storage. I can't believe that they even chose to store stuff there. Everyone else has much more room. Lately my room was like the living room, with everyone in it! Not even my parents room is so visited. I can't live with this, but if I act like anything besides an insensitive stereotypical boy who cares not for privacy, personal space, and has absolutely nothing to hide... Which, I'm not, things will go bad.

It isn't fair. On someone's whim at least a years worth of work is lost. I put at least 200 dollars into it, if you want to think of it monetarily.

At least its going to goodwill, where someone might use it.

I consider the possibility that my parents already know, because the excuse seemed too easy. And they went together to the dog park with our dogs. They haven't ever done that.


And, suprisingly enough, the first thing I did when I got out of there was thank god nothing bad happened. I'm just not as hooked up about losing all that progress than I thought I would be.

It IS a chance to start anew without all that mismatched clothing. 

I really am also relieved that I don't have anything to hide.

Isn't it sad that I lose all my progress and the only thing I can do is be happy I'm not worse off? Maybe it is good?

It is certainly humbling.

You are 21, can't you just say "Hey, it's mine"  or even lie and say it belongs to your GF (I got away with that more than once).  That's a lot of money to have to replace, if nothing else, my parents respected money.

Forced purge sucks! No two ways around it. Sorry to hear about your loss, I've been there a few time myself in the past. Came home from school one day to find my "stash: on top of my bed opened (a suitcase full of a ton of classic 50's stuff) and with very little conversation it was understood it was to go to the dumpster
It took me a lot of time collecting all that. I since just had to "build a better mousetrap" so to say, and became a little more discrete as to where I put my stuff.
It hurts to see all that go bye-bye, but your young, and things can be replaced. Just be more careful next time, and if you think "coming out" is the thing to do that'll make things much easier. Pick the time, be sure, and most of all be honest. Who knows maybe if things work out your mom might even help with the replacements 

Good luck on whatever you choose,  Evie

Or you could live on your own, solves so many problems, to hell with the clothes, you don't even have to hide your pot stash either.

The fact that you hve titled your thread so means that you have already come to terms with the enforced purge at the hands of your parents.
They may think that by so doing they can 'cure' you....which they won't, of course.
Coming out to them would be vastly more difficult, and if you can summon up the guts to do that, you have my greatest admiration.
At your age you have the World at your feet and opportunities to restock will come with financial independence, if not before.
Currently my wife stands in for your parents, and bins anything found & hopes I'll stop. To 'come out' to her is quite unthinkable.
Those who find supportive partners are privileged indeed.

Quote from: tekla on January 09, 2010, 09:42:08 PM
Or you could live on your own, solves so many problems, to hell with the clothes, you don't even have to hide your pot stash either.

Unfortunately I have to let my landlord in to check the plumbing for the whole building at times (I live in a basement apartment) so the few buds I get a hold of need to be placed well away

In only have to worry about them want to share it with me.

My problem is that sometimes my little daughter points at my skirt, asking "that is dady's, right?".

Barbie~~

Quote from: tekla on January 09, 2010, 07:27:01 PM
You are 21, can't you just say "Hey, it's mine"  or even lie and say it belongs to your GF (I got away with that more than once).  That's a lot of money to have to replace, if nothing else, my parents respected money.

I'm not 21. I'm 14 (not for long)

Well, you've got at least another 4-5 years of living with your parents so you're going to need to deal with this. It sounds to me like you know where you are with crossdressing and it's your parents who have a problem.

When children are young, parents feel they are responsible for everything regarding their children and must take action when things don't seem right. With you at 14, they're still feeling responsible. I think they suspected you were crossdressing and sought to try and steer you to the "right" direction by throwing out your things. They don't yet realize that you're beginning to realize who you actually are and that it's time for them to ease up on control and start accepting. All parents have to go through this with their kids, whether it involves womenswear or not. Give them a little time and gradually try to start talking to them about this. Be as mature and adult about it as possible.

Since it's all out in the open to them now anyway, start talking. You should never be ashamed to be who you are. As your parents begin to perceive you as someone closer to and adult, they may be more accepting of who you are.

Lyric