Quote from: tekla on January 08, 2010, 10:23:39 PM
Yeah, but on the upside, using violence to solve interpersonal problems can be very rewarding.  Or at least cathartic.

Fortunately for women who like such things there is Roller Derby.

Anyhow... I just wanted to drop in and say that I love this thread.

There seriously needs to be a book on perspectives of gender from people who were forced to live as the opposite gender early in life.

It's just so fascinating!

Carry on.

I have yet to experience any of these issues that comes with being male.

I came to say, "Yes! There is indeed a book of the so-called male code!"

This book, at least where I am from, is called The Bro Code. It is a very interesting and fun read. 

Quote from: No-Name on January 09, 2010, 03:44:42 AM
This book, at least where I am from, is called The Bro Code. It is a very interesting and fun read. 

I suppose that book is bound in Bro Cade?

One annoying thing for guys: If you are a guy, your talking about certain subjects in any remotely positive (or sometimes even neutral) way will automatically peg you as gay in the eyes of many others, especially other men. These subjects include:
- musicals
- fashion
- hair or make-up or jewelry or body decorations other than tattoos. And maybe tongue piercings.
- Sex In The City, Will and Grace, or any other shows that most straight men do not watch regularly. 

This literally means that many people will assume that you are homosexual for no reason other than hearing you talking positively about one or more of these things.

My source: I work somewhere where knowing about musicals occasionally comes in handy. 4 of my coworkers have approached me and had conversations similar to the following occur -
Coworker: Are you...you know...
Me: ?
Coworker: Gay?
Me: No. Why?
Coworker: Well, I thought most guys who were into theatre and musicals and stuff were.
Me: Sorry.

Quote from: Arch on January 09, 2010, 03:58:34 AM
I suppose that book is bound in Bro Cade?

*groans*  *facepalm*

Quote from: No-Name on January 09, 2010, 03:44:42 AM
I have yet to experience any of these issues that comes with being male.

I came to say, "Yes! There is indeed a book of the so-called male code!"

This book, at least where I am from, is called The Bro Code. It is a very interesting and fun read. 

I need to read that, because I've been told at least once by a male friend that I was oblivious to it.

Quote from: Teknoir on January 09, 2010, 01:12:31 AM
Our public toilets smell worse.

Amen.

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Quote from: petzjazz on January 09, 2010, 04:17:13 AM
One annoying thing for guys: If you are a guy, your talking about certain subjects in any remotely positive (or sometimes even neutral) way will automatically peg you as gay in the eyes of many others, especially other men. These subjects include:
- Sex In The City, Will and Grace, or any other shows that most straight men do not watch regularly.

->-bleeped-<- that, my straight trans buddy and I are both Sex in the City fans.

Quote from: alex k on January 08, 2010, 08:26:29 PM
1 That my wife thinks its funny to make me carry her handbag

I think this was the funniest one in this thread
I know it happens so many times

It reminds me the time I was staying at a trans house after meeting because I couldn't get home.
Everyone (the girls too!) kept *asking me*!!! to carry my things around when we went out and they showed me the city, or just help me with things it was funny!!
Like, guys sure but when the girls did that I just laughed inside so much ^^
I am just small compared to almost everyone including the ftms there so I guess something crawled into their minds

I find it kinda funny reading things here which I never had a problem with in boy mode, well, except the mens toilets are always messier, stinky and stuff.
I guess I am not that short for the height complains (at 163 or 164 cm - 5'4 feet/inch) but people (other than family or some school guys who always had what to say) never found the way I act wrong, but then again I restricted myself quite a bit.
But I guess it helps that everyone thinks you are 13-15 so when you are 20 years old O_o just slipping out of the men's stuff the easy and funny way, which you guys would probably NOT be happy with :^^

My biggest gripes are the smell of urinal cakes, and not being able to find hats & shoes in my size.  Of course the latter is more an issue with being small guy. 

I'm sure I break the "guy code" right and left, but I've never been called on it.  I don't know if that's because no-one really thinks of me as a guy, or if they're just too polite to say anything. Probably some of both.  But then, I've said it before, and I'll say it again:  I'm not going to have spent my entire life fighting one set of sexual stereotypes just to turn around and embrace another.  As the saying goes, "What people think of me is none of my business."

Fortunately, I'm a well-known nerd, so any failings in "manliness" are likely to be attributed to that. 

I am rather annoyed about the fact that I have to spend double the amount of money on my clothes because I wear such small sizes that they either are not stocked in cheap stores, or not even made. I refuse to buy from the boy's sections.

Climbing out of one box just to be shoved into another.

Yeah I agree about the point that walking past a woman in the dark is way more risky now, as in i will be seen as  threat- that's a hard one to get my head around.
T has made me a  LOT less moody- to the point where sometimes I literally can't understand why my girlfried is upset. I feel bad about that.

I'm still going to read the womens mags at the supermarket checkout. 

Men's clothing variety sucks.  Women definitely have the advantage in having so many choices in clothing styles.  It's the only thing I like about being female, is some of the clothes.

oh yeah I completely forgot about how there is such a lack of colour overall for mens clothes. Hmm do I want the jumper in grey, darker grey, or black?

Quote from: Greg on January 10, 2010, 07:34:59 PM
oh yeah I completely forgot about how there is such a lack of colour overall for mens clothes. Hmm do I want the jumper in grey, darker grey, or black?

Being the emo kid that I am, I actually like that - I will never have to dig through a pile of pink clothing in order to find a decent shirt again. 

Quote from: Aaron Chris on January 10, 2010, 07:37:09 PM
Being the emo kid that I am, I actually like that - I will never have to dig through a pile of pink clothing in order to find a decent shirt again. 

Haha, same here minus the emo. I'm just boring and plain.

What do I not like about being male? Although it hasn't happened to me, being a male is dangerous. More likely to get my a** kicked by accidentally offending somebody.

Any other problems I have are that I'm a small, weak, feminine man. It really sucks. But what can you do?

There is nothing about being seen as the man I am that annoys me.

The only thing that gets my goat is constantly having my masculinity questioned. If I'm not hammering up drywall while spitting and scratching my ass I'm apparently not a real man.

Car insurance going up..

Women think that just because you talk to them that you are automatically hitting on them 

That I have to be the one who brings and supports the female.

Thats all for now!

Jay

Hah, I always loved carrying things for the ladies.  Even before I came out as trans I always ended up being the one to do it (if there were no cis-men around).

The only thing that really bothers me about about being a guy is the expectation of buying into the whole machismo thing, and being thought less of a man if you don't partake in the many pissing contests that men get into.  I don't really care if you can spit further, lift more, etc, than me, dude.