I wasted months with a regular therapist who didn't help me OR my parents, cut out the middle man and go right to the gender therapist.

Definitely go to the gender therapist.  I've found that regular therapists mean well, but they have no idea what they're talking about and spout the usual stuff that unfortunately parents want to hear and can be discouraging about actual transition.  BTDT.

Finding someone who knows what they're talking about truly helps.


Jay

Quote from: sneakersjay on January 31, 2010, 08:15:09 AM
Definitely go to the gender therapist.  I've found that regular therapists mean well, but they have no idea what they're talking about and spout the usual stuff that unfortunately parents want to hear and can be discouraging about actual transition.  BTDT.

Finding someone who knows what they're talking about truly helps.


Jay

That's what i'm concerned about - my parents are hoping the therapist will tell me i'm wrong, and i know a "regular" one would be more likely to side with them simply due to lack of knowledge on the subject.

One therapist to side with them and they'll put up the walls, won't listen to one more knowledgeable on the subject. If worst comes to worst and they want a "regular" first then i'll go in alone to talk to them - at the very least i (hope i) can convince them (the therapist) that i'm serious about this and i've done my homework on it.

Still waiting on the referral for the specialist though. If i don't get one this week i'll call the only place i know of (which is what i'm sure i'll be referred to any way) and see wha ti can do about getting in soon.

((sigh))

FolkFanatic

Sounds like your Mom has come through for you like a really good Mom always does.

Best of luck and keep us posted about what happens next.

I also suggest a psychiatrist, psychologist or therapist with experience in transgender issues and patients. They're more knowledgeable and will be more validating to your parents (and others) about you being trans.