I had to have an exam and Pap done before being allowed on T (doctor's requirement). This might be one of those things you'll just have to suck up and do eventually. Think of it as a means to an end.

Also, when you plan to get a hysto done there's no way you can get out of it. No doctor would do a hysto without one (CYA). If a doctor would then be very concerned about that doctor.

If it makes you feel better the first time isn't very fun but it gets easier each time. We do what we have to do. It's not like transitioning doesn't have many hoops and unpleasant things about it anyway.

QuoteI did mention my gender issues and asked her about T, but she said she couldn't prescribe it and that my regular doctor wouldn't be able to prescribe it (she even called my doc to make sure, which I wasn't happy about, since I haven't told my regular doc about my gender issues.   )  She seemed disapproving of the idea of me being on T (though I could've been imagining it), and told me I couldn't get a hysterectomy done without a pelvic exam (bummer).

  I'm sure she (the doc) could legally prescribe T, but think about it from her perspective: here is a new patient, who looks F to her, there for an exam but won't allow it, talking about wanting to have T prescribed.

To those who don't deal regularly with trans patients, she was probably thinking WTH???  No way!  Rather than admit she had no idea about what you were talking about, No, I can't do that is the easy way out.

While I know guys have gotten T without the usual therapist/letter/endo route, that is the common route and many practitioners in this sue-happy society would rather follow the standards of care to the letter than be held liable for something going wrong if they forgot to cross a t or dot an i someplace.


Jay

I can understand that.  It's not so much not being able to get T from her (there's plenty more doctors out there), it was the way she talked to me like I was something disgusting she had scraped off the bottom of her shoe.  She seemed almost hostile.  It didn't make any easier what was already a sensitive issue for me. 

Quote from: jmaxley on January 27, 2010, 05:44:34 PMIt's not so much not being able to get T from her (there's plenty more doctors out there), it was the way she talked to me like I was something disgusting she had scraped off the bottom of her shoe.  She seemed almost hostile.

If she's going to be like that it's best you don't use her for part of your transition anyway.

Quote from: Radar on January 27, 2010, 06:34:09 PM
If she's going to be like that it's best you don't use her for part of your transition anyway.

Seconded. It's hard enough without help like that.

Quote from: Radar on January 26, 2010, 07:17:41 AM
If it makes you feel better the first time isn't very fun but it gets easier each time.

Well, no, not necessarily. I don't want to put a damper on things, but it's gotten harder and harder for me.

Jmaxley, this really bites, but the doc doesn't sound at ALL sympathetic (or knowledgeable about trans issues, either). Maybe you would be more comfortable with someone else?

And do not beat yourself up about not going "all the way." I think it took guts just to go and have the consult. Maybe you can take it a bit further with a different practitioner. Hang in there, buddy.

Thanks guys.  I think I am going to find someone else.    Ugh, it sucks being female.