For the good of the community...

The two people I'm already out to at work have been reporting to me that they are being asked about me.  For instance, one of the airmen was asking a computer administrator, "What's up with *******?"  He pointed out I'd been seen hanging out with the TG lady who retired in January, and now I'm growng my hair out, have both ears pierced and have taken to wearing brightly colored shirts from time to time...

So, I formulated a plan--

I've asked anyone I'm out to to tell anyone who asks about me to ask me directly.  If I do get asked, I'll use it as an opportunity to do some outreach.  Also, I'll charge them with being my eyes and ears, and to tell anybody who asks them about me to ask me directly.

So far, I've had no takers (typical...)

One co-worker (I'll call him Juan to protect his real identity) has been asking the other 9 people our 11-person section about me, and has been told at least 5 times to ask me.  I find it kinda' amusing  .

The second-in-command of our civilian 'division', though, did take me up on my offer, and asked what's going on with me.  He assured me that it's all about my job performance and what I do beyond the job and how I present myself is of no consequence as long as it's not outrageous and disruptive.

He was worried, though, about the 'potty' arangements .

That's about where it stands right now. I'll report back more as it occurs...

Karen

  Sounds like you have a good plan and great mindset for this.....

  It's a positive sign at least that they are concerned about "potty" arrangements....at least they are thinking of the future with you in it.

  Hope all goes well and I wish you continued "success" with your transition 

Ahhhhhh the go and ask her game!  It works everytime and it teaches all the Juans out there to be less curious about certain issues, especially if those issues involve the personal lives of other people.

I find the following answer more amusing even...."Gee, I don't know but if I knew, I would never tell you either, so why don't you go and ask her yourself? > *giggles* 




tinkerbell

Always good to have a plan, but ensure it has flexibility as things will change (rapidly)

My plan came into effect a month before it had to due the the rumours that where going around from I had cancer, to I was gay or a pedophile.

I remember one worker asked me why my hair was so long, to which I replied "can't afford a haircut".....

I stood up in front of 500 (mainly men) and gave my coming out speech at the same time an e-mail was sent around the other 3000 employees.

That was probably the scariest thing I have EVER done in my life.

Becky

A coworker used the go ask her routine to really embarrass a customer once.  I had come out of the stock room with some items in tow due to the fact I was resetting sections of the sales floor.  Someone waiting in line asked the cashier if I was post-op.  She started in with, "go ask her."  When the guy tried to back down she insisted, "no, you should go ask her.  She's really nice."  He turned red and fled.  LOL.  She told me about it later on as she was wondering if he ever worked up the nerve to approach me. 

Quote from: Karen on October 02, 2006, 09:26:36 PM
The second-in-command of our civilian 'division', though, did take me up on my offer, and asked what's going on with me.  He assured me that it's all about my job performance and what I do beyond the job and how I present myself is of no consequence as long as it's not outrageous and disruptive.

He was worried, though, about the 'potty' arangements .

Yeah, my manager was the one worried about the "potty arrangements" as well, but how we worked it out is when we came out to everyone, we just asked the women if they had any problems with me using the women's restroom and there were no objections.  We also had a handicapped bathroom that people who are uncomfortable can use.  The motivation for not being a sicko that looks in stalls is that would destroy any respect from your peers (the other women).  Respect is far more important than some stupid chance to get a peek.

Melissa

Well...

I told Juan today he was dissin' me for asking everybody but me about me.  After I jerked his chain a bit for that (and came out to him,)  I charged him with being my Early Warning Radar, as he covers a fair bit of territory and is quite networked here. 
Basically, I just want him to listen and report back the significant stuff, and if anybody asks him about me, to tell them to ask me directly (I know, it's the same thing I said earlier...)

Our section supervisor told me that other section supervisors also have all been told by the 'front office' that if they have any questions or anybody in their section asks them (etc., etc., etc.)

Now, anybody want to bet on how many people actually come to ask me?

I guess the next move is to come out to the entire section. Let's see -- we have an off-site coming up, date/time TBD...

Karen