No, Kat, I'm the same.

Quote from: kyril on April 23, 2010, 01:47:20 AM
No, Kat, I'm the same.

No, it just means that you're BOTH weird.

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P.S. Like the new pic, Kyril.

great pic kyril looking handsome.
arch i would never have guessed you were close to my age for whatever reason i always got the vibe you were in your 20's when i read your posts
jessica

I could, perhaps, have worded the comment about being dishonest better, but I was trying to be consise.

What I'm trying to say is:

You are a woman.

You were born with a problem which has or will be sorted with surgery and or medicine.

But you don't have periods.

There doesn't seem to be any need to pretend that you have experienced this little female rite of passage.

I have never met a woman, ever, who enjoyed having a period. Lucky you. OK so you're lucky. And the other girl isn't. But that's life. Every cloud has a silver lining.

Fine, carry a few for friends, just in case, though this sounds a bit weird to be honest. Can you imagine if a guy carried a selection of tampons?

Thanks, Arch! And Jessica!

Quote from: kyril on April 23, 2010, 01:47:20 AM
No, Kat, I'm the same.

Quote from: Arch on April 23, 2010, 03:49:27 AM
No, it just means that you're BOTH weird.

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P.S. Like the new pic, Kyril.

Nice to know I'm not alone in being weird. and her I reveled in it for so long.

Quote from: spacial on April 23, 2010, 05:03:58 AM
Can you imagine if a guy carried a selection of tampons?

I think someone else mentioned knowing a bloke with tampons in his emergency kit, but I'd like to raise my hand and go "me too".

My dad has three kids, me and my two sisters, he makes sure there's a box of tampons in his bathroom cupboard just in case, all cause one of us left one or two in there at some point and another found 'em and was all "OH THANK YOU GOD!" over it.

I also know a couple other blokes who have feminine hygiene products of some sort on hand as a part of emergency kit, "first aid kit" or bathroom stuff.

It really isn't that weird.

Quote from: jesse on April 23, 2010, 04:02:00 AM
arch i would never have guessed you were close to my age for whatever reason i always got the vibe you were in your 20's when i read your posts

Interesting. I thought you were much younger because you look so young in your avatar. That IS you, isn't it?

I'm actually pretty confused about my age. Intellectually, I know that I'm in my forties. Emotionally, I'm stunted in certain ways. I sort of froze myself at thirteen, in my head...I lived whole lives up there as a teenager, even till I was your age. I would start out at thirteen, live through an arc, reach fifteen or sixteen, and then start all over again at thirteen.

Now that I'm out of the closet and transitioning, I feel more like a backward nineteen-year-old who is just getting his start in the world. I still want to do all of this teenage boy stuff, but I have to be mature. I suppose if I were a little older, people might read me as a man who is going through a midlife crisis. But I have no desire to buy a sports car and date a twentysomething blonde. No, I want to bump into other guys, wrestle around, waste gobs of time, have no responsibilities, drive my car too fast, and crank up the volume on my stereo, whether I'm playing The Police or Puccini.

I'll tell you, though, I was VERY glad to have an early menopause. Even with the hot flashes. And, truth to tell, it was a relief to get rid of the tampons. I suppose it's rather horrible of me, but I found myself thinking, "If some gal needs a tampon, it won't help her to come running to ME." Yeah, I'm still pretty insecure about my manhood.

P.S. Spacial, I see where you're coming from, but I think we're fated to disagree on this one. If you think about it, people do all sorts of things to fit in with other people...why shouldn't a trans gal carry a couple of tampons if it will make her feel like she fits in better? Not to mention that a sister will appreciate it somewhere down the road.

Quote from: Arch on April 23, 2010, 01:17:09 PM

P.S. Spacial, I see where you're coming from, but I think we're fated to disagree on this one. If you think about it, people do all sorts of things to fit in with other people...why shouldn't a trans gal carry a couple of tampons if it will make her feel like she fits in better? Not to mention that a sister will appreciate it somewhere down the road.

No reason at all, or for a man. A pretty decent and thoughtful thing to do.

But from what inoutallabout was saying, she is passing perfectly well. Yet this incident has caused her to lose her confidence somewhat.

If I had been in her position I would have said, 'Sorry, don't use them'. Perhaps a bit of a reticent smile to back it up.

sidetrack question here: what happens when a girl who feels faint when seeing blood menstrate?

Quote from: milktea on April 24, 2010, 11:10:52 PMsidetrack question here: what happens when a girl who feels faint when seeing blood menstrate?

You know, I've wondered that too.

Menstrual blood is different from blood from a wound so there is a distinction. If I bleed profusely from anywhere else I'm like OH ->-bleeped-<-! but one gets use to the routine of having a period. Even if someone doesn't like seeing blood they'd deal with it enough to get through it.

I've found myself on all sides of this situation, and having tampons stashed all over random places (including my tool kit?) has never been a bad idea. I usually use O.B. without the applicator, cause they are tiny, and easy to hide in your fist or pocket.  barely any extra trash with them too.

I think my worst "Oh crap, I need a tampon" moment happened a few months ago. I ended up pretty wasted and crashed at a friends apartment.  Woke up the next morning feeling like I was going to die from the combination of cramps and a hangover, to discover that doom had arrived, all over the white sheets on the guest bed. D found me searching her bathroom for tampons, with the bed sheet halfway in the sink where I was trying to rinse it out, and was like "You ok?"  Turned out she had gotten an IUD a year before, and hadn't had a period in almost 8 months, so no tampons. I ended up with a wad of toilet paper for a very awkward 2 hours.

Quote from: rejennyrated on April 22, 2010, 03:13:24 AM...and Arch - yes I think it may indeed have been their way of creating an "opening," but the nice thing about people who are tactful like that is that if you don't want to take the opening and fess up they mostly take the hint, let it drop and let you preserve your anonymity.

It would have been nice if it had been, because then maybe I would consider coming out to them. But these guys aren't Meryl Streep, and they would have to be, week after week.

Quote from: Osiris on April 27, 2010, 09:43:16 PMMenstrual blood is different from blood from a wound so there is a distinction. If I bleed profusely from anywhere else I'm like OH ->-bleeped-<-! but one gets use to the routine of having a period. Even if someone doesn't like seeing blood they'd deal with it enough to get through it.

Ah, O.K. I've never been bothered with blood but have known some women who absolutely freak out over a drop of blood so I wondered how they handled their periods. I know you get used to it and I'm sure they do too but I wondered if it still did freak them out some.

Radar, I faint at the sight of blood (I have since I was little; something as small as a papercut can be enough to knock me out (I do have anti-fainting strategies though)), but even from my first period menstrual blood hasn't bothered me.  The only thing about my period that might cause me to faint is if I forget to take painkillers for my cramps.  I've ended up hanging onto the sides of the toilet or lying on the bathroom floor more than once after forgetting to take ibuprofen...

Wow...I guess I'm the only one who has been grossed out by my Monthly from the first time I got it? My mom tried to convince me it was something beautiful...to which I frankly replied "I don't think finding blood in my pants is beautiful."  I would get embarrassed if someone saw me heading to the bathoom with a pad even though the girls in High school said well meaning things and a friend of mine even gave me chocolate. I also never used a tampon in the 17 ish years I've been bleeding, even way before comming out. Is that odd?

Um, no, definitely not the only one. I think it's completely disgusting.

I do use tampons, though, because pads are painful to me. And the smell would get to me when I used them.

Quote from: kyril on May 04, 2010, 08:49:26 PM
Um, no, definitely not the only one. I think it's completely disgusting.

I do use tampons, though, because pads are painful to me. And the smell would get to me when I used them.

Oh good. I feel better now.

Quote from: GothTranzboi on May 04, 2010, 07:49:08 PM
Wow...I guess I'm the only one who has been grossed out by my Monthly from the first time I got it?

God, no. I think your feelings are much more common. I've only had one trans guy friend/acquaintance who was "in tune" with that part of his physiology (before he started transition), and I don't know if he still is because I hate talking about that stuff and won't ask him.

It seems so weird to me that many trans women wish they had a period.