QuoteI'm only sexually attracted to elves.

I second this very highly..

Really though before I came out or even knew a name existed for how I felt I could not go into any relationship and give it my all.  I had mostly dated men femme or girls manly yet femme. At the time before coming out I felt that any relationship I had was a lie because something again before I had a name for it felt wrong. I presented as female even if I were the dominate party in the relationship. I am no social butterfly so dating anyone was far and few between.

Once I had a name for how I felt and decided that I was much happier being me instead of living a lie Aka "female" My relationships changed a lot, at first I tried to keep things quiet about being Different because of the stigma I had grown up with Adam eve thing no mistakes yada yada thing.  Once I had started to socially transition and not just online I felt more open about my sexuality which personally I think has never changed.

I do not date people who are caught up so much in gender laws being male or female. I am attracted to a person emotionally and sexually just by being themselves and not bringing oddness into the relationship. I know this sort of thought does not bode well with others but It works for me. I used to be big at saying I am bi if someone asked but now I just say I can date anyone without first setting out to look for a gender.

Quote from: GothTranzboi on May 07, 2010, 09:56:52 AMhowever, I'm only ever sometimes attracted to a transwoman, where I wouldn't ever date a cis gender woman simply because of them having to go through a similar struggle as Trans men. Yet they emerge from thier transistion  beautiful, instead of manly, and I find that kinda sexy...have no clue why though...its just something I admire.  I have noticed more so now the pressures society places on women (I'M Freee wooohooo!). They gracefully accept that. And thats kinda...awesome

sorry to butt into your conversation here guys, but I <3 this answer!

Quote from: LordKAT on May 07, 2010, 04:31:35 AMI know a number of people (all female) on this site that I would love to know personally. Some as friends , some as potential partners.

hey sexy, if you want my number all you gotta do is ask

Through my life, things have happened and been felt about the opposite sex. I honestly think now that I was just doing it because I wanted to be these guys. Really? These guys were pretty awesome as I think back on it. Also, any sexual thing (not physical, but phone/pc) I see now as wanting to feel what they feel and doing that in the ways that I did.

Anyway, I like women. Females only when it comes to relationships and sex. As for porn, I like my variety of everything I can find. I mean practically everything.

So, OP, I'd say like the others to just lay off actual relationships and figure things out. You've got feelings that just need some time to settle. As you can see, I'm definite in what I want and need, but as for what turns me on it's all over the place.

Don't feel pressured or trapped. Where ever you end up, things will be swell.

Quote from: FairyGirl on May 07, 2010, 12:45:38 PM
sorry to butt into your conversation here guys, but I <3 this answer!

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LOL you are very welcome, I love thw sentence beneath your pic btw, priceless.

OP: Actually, I can relate to what you're feeling, if from the opposite end of the spectrum. I class myself as pan because I feel the personality is most of the pull for me, yet I've been with a few men so far and the furthest I've gone with a girl is kissing. From this I can tell you the following:

Now is not the time to think about what you're attracted to. Get your gender role sorted out (as in, living as yourself), then see how things progress from there. Once you start living properly as a bloke, your perception of people and sexuality may change, but then again, it may not. 

Even now, I still wonder how I really feel about men - all I know is, sex with them felt wrong. But then, as someone on chat pointed out, if you're in the wrong gender role, it's bound to feel wrong. The transition period is weird though; all the while you're just taking steps to become a man, your feelings about things can be all over the place. They are for me, at least - I may turn out to be a straight bloke for all I know.

Still pansexual...   

Girls cause theyre so pretty and, and you get to take care of them I love being the one who buys presents and does stuff for my girlfriend! (well used to, we broke up as of last night daaamn)

Girls, for me. I've always been attracted to girls. I look at guys a lot though, but only because I'm thinking 'I wanna look like that'.

Men, though I'm not getting involved with any for a long while.

Tried to be attracted to women, but I could talk myself into that about as well as I talked myself into not transitioning

I thought I might be flexible enough to turn straight (or at least find some level of attraction there). I also thought I might change orientation after T.

Then I encountered someone almost exactly to my taste and the differences in attraction made it apparent that a change in orientation wasn't going to happen.

Women.

only girls 4 me 

So out of those who answered Bi or pansexual what is your preferance?
Mine is curently men. (of course I dont have a boyfriend at the moment) It changes. Sometimes I would say women others men.

Another girl butting in, but hey we can do that.

I am Bi, but I am more attracted to guys.  And I included Trans-guys.  so I guess I am more pan.

I was girls girls girls, all through adolescence.  I was really into pretty blonde girls, which seems weird now.  When I was 11 I was really attracted to Macaulay Culkin but I was really embarrassed about it! Still love Mac.

So in women I like chubby girls with round faces and dark hair.  I love a good bob. I also love good boobs. I like cisgirls and trans girls. Lots of hot transwomen on this forum

I repressed my attraction to men for AGES cos I hated being treated like a girl. Now I'm somewhat fiendish about boys.  I like em weedy and cute with floppy fringes.  I like boys who look like scruffy grunge teens (but aren't actually teens lol).  I like chubby cuddly boys too, with scruffy facial hair and curly mop tops.

I guess I'm pan...?

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It changes day by day who I'm more into.  I've been on a bit of a boy kick recently, but girls turn my head on a regular basis.

I am attracted mostly to women. Sensually, women appeal to me 100%. I love everything about a woman's body. The softness of their flesh and mouth, their curves. Long flowing hair. I think of women and all the romantic cliches of metaphor come to mind. Overall it is that softness that I like. I love to pleasure a woman, and make her feel beautiful. I hunger for that. I am a sentimental git when it comes to them.

I can also be attracted to guys, effeminate gay guys, but its a completely different motive and sensation. Not sensual at all, rough and often angry. I have a violent side that frightens me so I stay away from pretty men. Curious to me though.

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Quote from: elvistears on May 07, 2010, 11:43:33 PM
So in women I like chubby girls with round faces and dark hair.

likewise. curvy brunettes. 

Totally hot. I so obviously have a type, in that sense.

Quote from: Janet Lynn on May 07, 2010, 11:37:52 PM
Another girl butting in, but hey we can do that.

I am Bi, but I am more attracted to guys.  And I included Trans-guys.  so I guess I am more pan.

Being attracted to trans guys doesn't make you pansexual. Please don't think that it does. We're not 'other,' any more than you are - how would you feel if a man decided he had to be pansexual (or something other than straight) in order to be attracted to you?

If you identify as pansexual because you're also attracted to people who do identify as 'other'/'none of the above' (genderqueer, androgyne, neutrois, etc) then good on you. That's just not what I got from your post.

Quote from: cynthialee on May 07, 2010, 11:29:48 PM
So out of those who answered Bi or pansexual what is your preferance?

Intelligence, rationality, and health.

Though, I do have a certain fascination with red hair...

Quote from: kyril on May 08, 2010, 04:42:15 AM
Being attracted to trans guys doesn't make you pansexual. Please don't think that it does. We're not 'other,' any more than you are - how would you feel if a man decided he had to be pansexual (or something other than straight) in order to be attracted to you?

If you identify as pansexual because you're also attracted to people who do identify as 'other'/'none of the above' (genderqueer, androgyne, neutrois, etc) then good on you. That's just not what I got from your post.

I am open to all.  So then I am pan.  So if I offended any of you guys, I do not separate you from anyone.  When I typed that I have reservations that it might be read that way.

I'm attracted to blokes (trans or cisgendered, it doesn't matter) & btw I don't consider myself "pansexual" because of that.  I consider myself heterosexual, period.