To spend your life alone?


I used to but after wanting to start transition, I'm not that much afraid anymore. I'm quiet alright it and I understand if a girl don't wanna be with someone like me (without the penis and all) I also think my girl deserves better. I was thinking about it last night and in this lifetime, it's not possible for me to live my life the way I want to. I'm never going to be able to impregnate a girl and be surprised with it when she spoils me the good news like coming home from work or something and be like "HONEY, IM PREGNANT" etc. I won't be able to hold her hand during labour and know that's my baby she's carrying.  Pretty much, won't be able to do the whole husband/father type thing. I want her to experience everything like going through labour and building a family. She doesn't understand, I went away for a month without telling her and when I came back she told me how much she suffered and couldn't believe I left her. 

No, that is my comfort zone.

Not really something that bothers me. I'm happy with adoption or sperm donation.
I can still have a perfectly happy family with my wife. Just because that child wouldn't have my genes doesn't make it any less my child. It will be raised by me, loved by me and will probably adopt some of my mannerisms, behaviours and perspective on the world and that makes it more my child than any sperm donor.

Just because I'm trans doesn't mean that I'll spend my life alone. There are plenty of bio guys that essentially have the same problem that arose from different causes. plenty of guys can't get their girlfriend pregnant or even father biological children at all. plenty of guys can't have penetrative sex without some sort of "assistance" whether it be a prosthetic or a pump.

I have a girlfriend, we are madly in love and when I hold her hand while she is delivering my baby I will know that it is no one else's but mine because I am going to be the one in that child's life.

If your girlfriend tells you she loves you or that she wants to be with her. Stop doubting it and just enjoy it. I doubted it too and I ended up driving her away.

Fatherhood does not equal being the guy who supplied the sperm.

You can be a father and a husband, as a transman.