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Started by Jeatyn, May 22, 2010, 05:44:16 AM

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Muddy

If its any consolation at all, my hormones returned to normal almost immediately after childbirth, and I felt fantastic.

Apparently all the pre-partum depression absolved me from any post-partum depression, lol.

I found some cool seahorse shirts on cafepress, btw.
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kyril

Quote from: Jeatyn on May 25, 2010, 11:47:40 AM
I can FEEL the extra womanly hormones, it's awful. I'm all weepy and ridiculous all the time, I'm coping though, so far.
Yeah. It'll go on like that the whole time. The physical discomforts change, but the raging hormonal instability remains. Mine was worst at the beginning when the initial hormone change set in and at the very end when I could see the changes that were happening to my body. In between, I was mostly a steady-state major depressive mess.

It's good that you have your sister helping you out. Do you have other friends around?


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Jeatyn

All my proper friends live miles away but we chat online and the phone and stuff

my local drinking buddy friends are no fun since I can go out drinking anymore :P quite shocking how much of my social life revolved around bars
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kyril

No reason you can't go to a bar and have a Coke :)


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Jeatyn

I'm far too nervous and jittery in social situations to bother xD it'd be torture, especially now I can't bind
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kyril

LOL, ok. Isolation's bad, though - not sure what to recommend, but definitely not staying cooped up in your house on the Internet for nine months. Not that I haven't done my share of that, but it's not healthy.


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Dante

I agree--a seahorse is a good analogy! That would be cool to have a seahorse tattoo--it would be very symbolic.

I could just imagine... "Hey, why do you have a seahorse tattoo?" "Well, it all started when..."  :D

Good luck getting through this! You're really brave to deal with dysphoria and being pregnant!  :o





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M.Grimm

I love the seahorse idea. You should get some temporary seahorse tattoos in the meantime, it'd also help you figure out exactly where you'll want the permanent design.

I admire your courage.
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Calistine

Quote from: Jeatyn on May 25, 2010, 12:45:08 PM
I'm far too nervous and jittery in social situations to bother xD it'd be torture, especially now I can't bind
Congrats on your pregnancy. Something stood out to me about how ignorant your sister is. I feel like that's probably because she has some fear or insecurity. I could be wrong though.
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jmaxley

I hope I never have to do the pregnancy thing.  If I did, I'd totally get a bunch of seahorse t-shirts.
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Vancha

I think the seahorse analogy is great.

I think pregnant trans men are wonderful figures in our world, signifying perhaps the greatest show of fatherly love, but obviously it can be very troublesome, especially for those with dysphoria.  No one uncomfortable with the idea should have to suffer through it.  There are cismen who would kill to be able to carry their own children, however, and although it is as of now impossible for cismen to carry children, I think the idea of such a nurturing father figure, rather than always a mother figure, is beautiful, and it is only our society's prejudice that makes the idea of a pregnant man "blasphemous" or whatever they think it is.

Reading Kyril's experience made me realize that I'd be about the same, if I had to go through a pregnancy.  I just don't have the ability to cope through that.  It just goes to show what a traumatic thing it can be.

Anyway, this thread really makes you think.  Fathers are not very prominent figures in childrens' lives in the nuclear family, and I think the seahorse is a great symbol for real fatherhood. :)
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Calistine

People are so ignorant about this. I know a transguy(who was very effeminate my i add) who said about Thomas Beatie "She(yes, he said she) is a disgrace to the transgender community."
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Ruben

Quote from: Kyle XD on May 26, 2010, 02:00:26 PM
People are so ignorant about this. I know a transguy(who was very effeminate my i add) who said about Thomas Beatie "She(yes, he said she) is a disgrace to the transgender community."

Now I feel sick.  >:(
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Ruben

Quote from: Kyle XD on May 26, 2010, 02:23:34 PM
http://browse.deviantart.com/?qh=&section=&q=thomas+beatie#/d22bn77
Heres the proof :( Its the first comment btw

[Resisting the urge to flame the deviation and the creator as well as the ignoramus and their evil comment] >_<

[breathes] Okay... Makes me wish there was a magic 'sense' stick I could beat these people with. ¬_¬
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Vancha

Quote from: Ruben on May 26, 2010, 02:35:09 PM
[Resisting the urge to flame the deviation and the creator as well as the ignoramus and their evil comment] >_<

[breathes] Okay... Makes me wish there was a magic 'sense' stick I could beat these people with. ¬_¬

If you ever happen to find a sense stick, give me one so we can give them a good beating with it.  :laugh:

I find it extremely shocking to find any kind of prejudice within the trans community, but it's there... It's amazing that there's even transphobia within it.
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