I'm embarrassed to talk about this, but I'm basically going insane because it just keeps building and building up and I can't find release :s I don't want to be graphic, but I don't know who else to turn to but you guys. Long story short, it feels so good it hurts really bad and I can't continue. It only takes me five minutes tops, usually less, to get to this point. I've tried so many time and so many different things, I'm starting to think I'm broken x_o. Does anyone have any advice or anything?

Try putting aside some time for yourself and make it a point to build things up slowly. When everything builds up too fast for me it can end up hurting and I'll have to stop. Slowing things down and taking my time to get to the same point makes it feel better and takes some of the painful edge off. If you can alternate between doing stuff that is really intense with stuff that feels good but won't push you over the edge.

Also make sure you're not rubbing anything raw, use lube.

You have to keep going when it gets to that point. A lot of people feel it is painful, because it is intense.  But if you keep going you will be rewarded.     And then you'll be addicted.  Like me.   


Jay

Sometimes the pain &pleasure receptors get confused...
You can be so sensitive that the pleasure may turn in to pain, or it may be pain to begin with.

Take it slow, explore everything, masterbation is key to getting to know your body &what you like. Try something new, a different technique.

Maybe used images, or videos to help get you there.
If its too painful you might have to get that checked out.

Totally off topic, but I'm a total dork when I read the title I was thinking of the anime big o until I read it.

This is probably tmi. I had problems with this for ages mainly because I would stop if I got too close because of the intense feeling or I would think of something totally not hot at the last second and ruin it. Just keep going and like someone said try taking it slowly and working your way up speed wise that way you'll eventually find something that works for you. I also find it helps if I don't think about what I'm doing because if I think about it I get turned off merely because my brain says there should be something there that isn't, but if I use my imagination it's all good.

If we're talking self lovin' then I have some advice. I was unable to orgasm for a very long time no matter what I did. Eventually I figured out what I needed to do to "get there." There are two...things needed to create an orgasm. Sometimes people can do it with one, the other, and some need both.

Stimulating the mind: A decent number of people don't actively think of things that excite them which can be a huge problem when going solo. Your mind being stressed doesn't help. Stresses come from things like body issues, hearing noises, phone ringing, etc. What my problem was is that I wasn't thinking very sexually or in ways that turned me on. I'd just focus specifically on "I WANT TO ORGASM NOW!" Which doesn't help. Too much emphasis on having one will tense you up and not help ya.

Stimulating the body: This most people think is obvious. For myself I was unable to orgasm without a vibrator. Electronic assistants do help a lot but are often not available. Taking things slow is helpful physically but might not be helpful because of the thoughts associated with it, and wanting to just get it over with quickly.

I think I've never had an orgasm because I have a short attention span and can't concentrate on it enough. I get bored really quickly if I try to masturbate.

But I like porn and reading dirty stories, I get turned on but nothing much beyond that.  It sorta sucks but I also don't feel that bothered by it at the same time.

I "feel" a lot more when I'm with someone else, but never by myself.  Is that weird?

Everyones different really, me personally i dont have to think of anything, infact most of the time im thinking what to have for breakfast lol. It doesnt take me very long at all infact i would say 3-5 mins but thats cause i rush to hell. With someone else its different....maybe your just going a bit too quick and a bit too often? Try to chill out. Going fast works for me, maybe it just doesnt work for you.

I only get pain around that horrible bleeding episode, i dont know if you still get those or what not but if its around then its normal.

Quote from: elvistears on June 02, 2010, 06:03:15 AM
I think I've never had an orgasm because I have a short attention span and can't concentrate on it enough. I get bored really quickly if I try to masturbate.

But I like porn and reading dirty stories, I get turned on but nothing much beyond that.  It sorta sucks but I also don't feel that bothered by it at the same time.

I "feel" a lot more when I'm with someone else, but never by myself.  Is that weird?

You may find this weird but i don't masturbate either. I just don't, its not that i get bored with it, i just don't do it..

I pretty much never do it either. I'd sorta try every now and then, but stop. It's funny though, because I think about sex a fair bit. I like the thought of whacking off a lot, A LOT, but get disheartened by my lack of equipment.  Maybe some time on T will get things going.

yeah t increases sex drive lol

Quote from: elvistears on June 02, 2010, 06:03:15 AM
I think I've never had an orgasm because I have a short attention span and can't concentrate on it enough. I get bored really quickly if I try to masturbate.

But I like porn and reading dirty stories, I get turned on but nothing much beyond that.  It sorta sucks but I also don't feel that bothered by it at the same time.

I "feel" a lot more when I'm with someone else, but never by myself.  Is that weird?

I think that's pretty normal. I get way more turned on when I'm not alone.  I can almost have an orgasm just from making out.  But I also jerk off a couple times a day. I can't get sex off my mind.

Quote from: BoyDani on May 31, 2010, 08:23:48 PM
Long story short, it feels so good it hurts really bad and I can't continue. It only takes me five minutes tops, usually less, to get to this point.

I think I have the same problem, I get to a point where it hurts and I can't go on and it doesn't take long to get to that point so i've pretty much given up.