I definitely feel kind of a sense of belonging in the trans community as a whole, just because I feel less alone when I'm around other trans people, whether they're androgynes specifically or not.

That's not to say I have anything against cispeople (or even that I feel particularly uncomfortable around them-- more of a "something's missing" feeling than a "something's wrong" feeling) or automatically get along famously with every transperson I meet. I just happen to feel a little less out-of-place when I'm around other transpeople.

I was a little torn between selecting "transgender" and "everyone" on the poll, but assuming that the sense of belonging we're refering to means "fitting in with" rather than merely "enjoying the company of," I'm going with transgender.

Honestly?

Most of my friends are nerdy cissexual males, and they're also not 100% gender conforming. My cissexual boyfriend (who is definitely not looking over my shoulder, really) is like that, and he's my best friend in the world. But this is after getting to know these people for years.

I do feel an immediate sense of belonging in a queer or transgendered gathering, because I feel relieved, like these people are more likely to accept me for who I am or at the very least get what I mean. And when I'm surrounded by people who express in a non-gender conforming way, that's really reassuring that it's OKAY to dress and act the way I feel is right for me.

But maybe it's because I haven't really come out yet and it's just a big relief not feeling closeted.

FTM. I seem to belong more with the nerdy/not super-macho guys. Not good with girls socially, I turn into an idiot around them. Or if I don't, they shrug me off.

I remember at some point, something that got me down a bit. I couldn't really be one of the guys, and the female body will always set me apart. I couldn't have one of those male-male style friendships. But at the same time, I didn't belong with the girls. They just dismiss me right off (along with, by personal experience, generally just not being into the same things I'm into.) I was just a kind of outcast.

Haven't dealt with other trans people.

During my life I've tried to fit into a number of groups but always felt different In the few groups where I felt accepted I was happy but I have never thought I was the same or close enough to the same to belong I've met a few Biological female genderqueer people IRL who are great but I still feel very different to them but I am more like them then the M2F people whom I thought I would find similarities with as my journey is seen as similar to theirs just because we were born with the same bits but I've been pushed away from that group I have found a gender diverse group that are accepting of me pity it takes close to 2 hours to travel there by public transport. yes I travel as me.  I have basically given up on finding anyone like me or anywhere I truly belong but at least I've found somewhere accepting of me.

I said 'everywhere / doesn't matter' because, as long as the people are nice, I'm okay.

I feel like I belong in queer groups in general - but more specifically in groups of lesbians.

But then most of my friends are straight cisgendered people. But all of them seem to have a rather queer souls in that they don't follow the rules. They don't fit into 'standard' groups either. In particular none of them are into sports. I think that says a lot.

another chameleon here...in an extreme sort of way

i hang out with a group of geeks one day, a group of gangsters the next, a group of conservative christians the next...i have friends who are 84 and friends who are 4. I have gay, straight, bi, cis friends and one trans friend(as far i know he's the only trans within a 30 mile radius..so there'd likely be more if i knew where the heck to find them)

all races, cultures, subcultures, genders, sexes, sexual orientations, ages...all game. i can be at home pretty much anywhere. i like exploring perspectives.

I suppose I've never really felt that I belong much of anywhere. Though the people on this board make me feel more at home and like I can belong somewhere, as for real life interactions, I haven't had the chance to be around many other androgone or transgender people. I have very few friends that are trans, a few crossdressing friends, and I do tend to feel a lot more comfortable around them than around other people, especially people that I'm afraid will be weirded out by me. But I don't get to be around those friends often, so most of the time I don't really feel like I fit. Even with them, though, I feel a bit awkward, because though we're all a bit simmilar with our gender problems, it's still different. My crossdressing friends like to crossdress, but don't want to be the other gender, or anything in between, and my trans friends want to be the opposite of what they were born as, nothing in between. So I feel a bit left out in both situations, and completely left out in situations with normal people. It's something I'm sort of used to though...unfortunately. Though personality wise, I get along with all different stereotypes of people [like gamers or geeks or jocks or artists], and since gender is only part of who you are, not the ONLY thing you are, it's not so bad [most of the time].

Quote from: Hauser on June 10, 2010, 03:22:23 PM
another chameleon here...in an extreme sort of way

i hang out with a group of geeks one day, a group of gangsters the next, a group of conservative christians the next...i have friends who are 84 and friends who are 4. I have gay, straight, bi, cis friends and one trans friend(as far i know he's the only trans within a 30 mile radius..so there'd likely be more if i knew where the heck to find them)

all races, cultures, subcultures, genders, sexes, sexual orientations, ages...all game. i can be at home pretty much anywhere. i like exploring perspectives.

i should add that this is when i choose to hang out with people at all...i do and at some point there comes a time when i burnout and have to retreat.

I go beyond burning out and sink into a depression. It's not the peoples fault because I am sensitive like a great artist and as productive as a chicken with a broken egg layer canal.