Well I'm talking to an online friend and I told him I told my sister I'm transgender and he said I should've told her I want to be. But I told him it's not that I want to be, I am. And he was like well what if you tell everyone and then they don't let you for some reason. They being therapist, medical experts etc. And I'm like either way I'll always be a girl in my (and my friends eyes)so I don't care what anyone allows me to do I plan on living as Kimberly with or without HRT. And then he goes hun if they decide this they made the decision for a reason. And I'm like okay but I don't care what anyone tells me. I'm a girl.

So I'm curious are there any reasons I would not be allowed to transition? Should I worry?

Do what you feel is right and true to self, all other concerns are secondary.

Quote from: cynthialee on July 13, 2010, 01:34:58 PM
Do what you feel is right and true to self, all other concerns are secondary.

That's how I feel. If for some reason I'm not allowed hormones I still plan on living as Kimberly. I don't care what people think. I'm me and I have to do this or I won't have a good happy life, I don't think I will. btw I asked him why he seemed so against it and he just wants me to think of all the possibilities. He's really supportive though. <3

You seem sane and very persistant that you need to transition....If you can't get the first psyrink to give you an HRT letter then find a new therapist.
I doubt you will have many issues transitioning. If you do, you take your battle someplace else.

That's what I plan on doing I went to my first therapy session on monday and I'm going back next week. The therapist understands why I'm there and he seems great. It was so easy talking to him!

Sounds like your friend is trying to throw roadblocks and doubt at you.  But your attitude is the right one, now matter what: you are Kimberly and not just becoming her.

Stand tall and proud, dear Sister.

Hugs

Thanks Janet! *huggg*

Transition, besides its obvious physical transformation, also means to become one in all the aspects of gender. I recently have come out to my sister as you know and after her acceptance, even if I would never opted for hormones, I would feel that much more my self finally allowed to share my true self with someone else. I understand you have come out to your sis too, and as you point out to your friends as well. Hon, there is nothing that can stop you, and if you feel just what you tell to us you are going to be on your way to become who you are with prescription in hand. No one can deny you the use of hormones if you honestly are transgender which you obviously are, unless serious health risks arise.

Love, Alexia

Thanks Alexia! That's what I was curious of and I don't have any health issues, none that I know of anyways. My family has a pretty good health record. So I was just curious haha. =D

Quote from: andthenwekisss on July 13, 2010, 01:26:37 PM
Well I'm talking to an online friend and I told him I told my sister I'm transgender and he said I should've told her I want to be. But I told him it's not that I want to be, I am. And he was like well what if you tell everyone and then they don't let you for some reason. They being therapist, medical experts etc. And I'm like either way I'll always be a girl in my (and my friends eyes)so I don't care what anyone allows me to do I plan on living as Kimberly with or without HRT. And then he goes hun if they decide this they made the decision for a reason. And I'm like okay but I don't care what anyone tells me. I'm a girl.

So I'm curious are there any reasons I would not be allowed to transition? Should I worry?

not that i know of... it sounds like he isn't the smartest on this, and even if no one let you, it's not their choice. "allowed" is not any part of it. that would be like not being "allowed" to get chemo therapy for cancer.

Quote from: Maylene on July 13, 2010, 06:32:57 PM
not that i know of... it sounds like he isn't the smartest on this, and even if no one let you, it's not their choice. "allowed" is not any part of it. that would be like not being "allowed" to get chemo therapy for cancer.

I don't think he knows what he's talking about either lol. He likes to sound smart lol.

your friend's 'problem' is the same as lots of other people who will try to stop you transitioning - they have always known you as a guy - and they and you can't imagine just how much you will become more female with the hormones but as your mind tells your body to be more girly.
This time next year you'll be amazed and delighted by the changes but you may have lost lots of friends and relatives in the process.

There's no need to be worried about not finding medical professionals who will help you transition.  Just get good referrals from local organizations, and don't get railroaded into going to physicians picked out for you by parents.  "Transexuals" are basically self-diagnosed and self-treated.  The medical professionals are just along for the ride.  Even if you get a diagnosis for depression, bipolar, or schizophrenia or whatever, they just treat that and then go forward from there.  It's a brief delay, but not a complete obstacle to transition.  Only you can stop you, by deciding to detransition, and even that is just another delay if you decide to transition again.  All they need to see is a persistent desire to transition and RLT over the course of a year, without untreated psychosis, suicide attempts, etc.  You're good to go.

Quote from: lilacwoman on July 13, 2010, 06:42:36 PM
your friend's 'problem' is the same as lots of other people who will try to stop you transitioning - they have always known you as a guy - and they and you can't imagine just how much you will become more female with the hormones but as your mind tells your body to be more girly.
This time next year you'll be amazed and delighted by the changes but you may have lost lots of friends and relatives in the process.

I'm so excited to see myself next year! I'm turning 19 on friday and I keep telling my bestie "omg! I could have boobs when I'm 20!" haha and I understand that I may lose friends and relatives because of this, but the ones I really care about keeping know and are 110% on board with me. The ones that know anyways. I have a few relatives who are very dear to me and I know they won't mind. My aunt is amazing and i love her so much and I know she'll be there for me because she's so compassionate to kids and one of her girlfriends is a FTM! So when I tell her I don't think she'll be bothered haha.

All the power to you babe. What a perfect age to transition, do it for all of us who awaited our transgender desires to go away when they only got stronger with age and brought us to old age and lots of dreams gone with the wind. If you know, and I am sure you do, Go For It Girl with Love Power!

Aww Alexia! You're so sweet! Thank you <3

Don't worry about it Hon - there are many paths that will lead you to your destiny.

I started this whole thing in my teens, way back when nobody knew anything (like the early 1960's!) and most figured it had to be some kind of mental illness. I just kept at it, slow, deliberate, persistent, keep trying kind of attitude. From age 15 and being threatened with being institutionalized and treated (with male hormones!) against my will, to finding a doctor who would prescribe HRT (though he had never done it before), to SRS at 24 - I made it!

Times have changed a whole lot since then. Now almost everybody knows about it and it is almost routine. The path is there, the steps have been defined, so if you are persistent and rational about it, there will be people there to help. You are of an age where your feelings and decisions have to be respected so nobody can stop you unless you let them talk you out of it.

Quote from: Northern Jane on July 15, 2010, 03:42:45 AM
Don't worry about it Hon - there are many paths that will lead you to your destiny.

I started this whole thing in my teens, way back when nobody knew anything (like the early 1960's!) and most figured it had to be some kind of mental illness. I just kept at it, slow, deliberate, persistent, keep trying kind of attitude. From age 15 and being threatened with being institutionalized and treated (with male hormones!) against my will, to finding a doctor who would prescribe HRT (though he had never done it before), to SRS at 24 - I made it!

Times have changed a whole lot since then. Now almost everybody knows about it and it is almost routine. The path is there, the steps have been defined, so if you are persistent and rational about it, there will be people there to help. You are of an age where your feelings and decisions have to be respected so nobody can stop you unless you let them talk you out of it.

Same story as Northern Jane, only a few years later than her, but ironically I made it at just about the same age. Back then there were doctors who would take it upon themselves to try and "not allow" you to transition and inevitably I found one of them!  But these days as has been said, the path is open and the only thing which could stop you is lack of determination.

Have fun and be happy! As the old saying goes it's a great life if you don't weaken...

Thanks girls! I love it here at Susans! Hearing from those of you who have gone through this makes me feel better. I am so excited to go through this. I'm ready to be me. After 19 years I'm ready.

I really think your friend just doesn't understand. The decisions are going to be very largely yours. Oh to be 19 and so cute.

Hugs, have a great journey, and lots of Mums are here for you




Cindy